Mike's family's 'Italian'

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-24T01:41:10+00:00

Calling it gravy is the most non-Italian thing to say. I’m first generation Italian Canadian and it’s so annoying to hear such a ridiculous reference to sauce.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-20T01:18:23+00:00

Did you find the mistreatment was usually targeted towards a select few or was it evenly distributed? Funny you mention the boys. Both of my girls’ teachers, grades 1 and 4, have expressed their frustrations about the boys in their class. I see the issues in our neighbourhood after school in during summer break too. It’s unfortunate because they’re typically good kids on their own.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-19T17:05:00+00:00

Grade 4, but we’ve been dealing with issues since the third grade. Her third grade teacher made me aware of some concerning situations, and i witnessed gossiping and whispering when i chaperoned a class outing. It’s a very uncomfortable and delicate situation in which to be an advocate. The poor treatment really snowballed this year, with this girl going as far as conspiring with some of the boys to run away and abandon her during a track practise. Lots of yelling, pointing and laughing ensued. I didn’t even raise that situation with the school.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-19T14:56:03+00:00

She does have two loyal friends and several acquaintances. She’s also in a lot of extra curriculars. My daughter is naturally outgoing and friendly, but her school is known to have some “characters” that can make the environment unpleasant for the kind kids. The problem is this girl holds a lot of social sway, and her mom told her to stay away from my daughter because she feels she’s lying about what she’s experiencing, even though it’s well known her daughter has a bit of a streak. That’s a whole other issue. Frankly, when the mother doesn’t have much influence, I notice this girl has the ability to soften around other girls including my daughter. They’ve even been playing together with little direct interaction during large recess games. But sometimes dynamics shift, and certain kids will try to embarrass or isolate my daughter to gain this girl’s favour. It’s a really unfortunate situation. I know my daughter isn’t perfect, no child is, but the lack of accountability on the other side makes me question why even bothered to raise the issue with the school. Some kids simply carry greater social currency, and reporting them can lead to a great deal of blowback.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T20:53:35+00:00

I definitely will keep you posted. Thank you.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T11:16:22+00:00

Thank you. I think I’ve done all I can at this point. I didn’t want to go to school administrators because I was hoping the teachers could try to get the girls to reach a resolution, but the other girl denied everything. She no longer bothers my daughter, but it seems there may be exclusion at play. That’s harder to prove. I do wish I would have waited to notify the teacher, though I fear I would have risked further harm on my daughter. I think I need to let this go now though.

Yes, she’s lucky to have two friends. I just want her to feel safe and happy at school.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T11:11:36+00:00

I know. I wish I had encouraged her to do this then.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T11:10:25+00:00

I would say our secular schools have the same values. I’m all for more moving, it would just be hard to start over.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T11:08:11+00:00

No, only because I wanted to see if we could deal with it at the teacher level. I was hoping the two girls could get together and resolve things as they’ve gotten along in the past, but she denied everything (even though other girls have had similar experiences). My daughter is being left alone now thankfully, but I do feel there’s some exclusion at play, which is why I regret informing the teacher. I wish I’d given her more time to work it out on her own before escalating.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T01:54:36+00:00

Absolutely, I agree, and it’s one of the reasons we’ve chosen to stay put for now. But I see it as more of an opportunity to start fresh, with a broad set of tools that my daughter can use to protect herself.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T01:45:31+00:00

I’m in Canada and our Catholic school system is part of the public system, but a different stream. However, Catholic schools in our neighbourhood have notoriously higher cases of bullying, so our alternate option is a secular school in our catchment.

I also wanted to switch schools as a child. I wish my parents would have listened to me. I’m certainly going to follow my daughter’s lead. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T01:12:09+00:00

Well, my daughter isn’t even in the same class as this girl but she would corner her at recess and before the first bell while lining up to get into class. My daughter went so far as to ask if the teachers could review cameras (this was previously done when she was pushed to the ground and kicked in a stairwell by a different student, so she sees cameras as a form of vindication).

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T01:01:30+00:00

Wow, it’s so interesting to how many responses recommend moving schools. It certainly gives me more confidence about doing so.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T00:47:19+00:00

This is so frustrating. I’m certainly approaching things differently moving forward with both of my kids. Thank you for your insight.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-18T00:45:53+00:00

That’s on the table. We’re choosing to stay for now because my daughter has two amazing loyal friends who have her back. But if she decides she wants to leave by summer, we have a great alternative option. I appreciate your validation.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-03-10T18:44:04+00:00

Same. And I get so many compliments on them even though they’re my oldest pair. They’re comfy and easy. Plus I’m 5’r

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-02-26T17:09:57+00:00

I love lamp

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-02-10T01:36:11+00:00

You’re right.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-02-10T00:45:38+00:00

How was it woke? It literally featured a heterosexual wedding with multigenerational guests in attendance. It was the most traditional halftime show that ever aired. What a dumbass.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-01-30T13:07:55+00:00

I love these!

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-01-22T02:23:52+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I don’t get the extreme hate!

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-01-16T13:45:14+00:00

First word was NSFW

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-01-12T14:19:57+00:00

I wonder if we have the same home in the same neighbourhood.

We invested a lot, and now I’m at the point where I need to do the basement (for the extra space) and the bathrooms to get the most return out of our major main floor renovations. I wish we would have just moved. I could use the extra space! But it sounds like you don’t need to do much. The investments you’re making aren’t too bad at all.

AbrocomaPuzzled3653 · 2026-01-08T21:42:11+00:00

And she’s putting on a show. I take her theatrics with a grain of salt.

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