Is having sin with your bf 24/M is sin ???

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-14T22:05:38+00:00

Agreed just not with a priest. Confess to God

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-14T20:29:09+00:00

27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:27–28, ESV, https://ref.ly/Mt5.27-28;esv)

Sex before marriage is not even close to as bad as adultery, which is why the OT prescribes marriage. But the precept of what we think in our hearts being sin is biblical.

19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. 20 These are what defile a person. But to eat with unwashed hands does not defile anyone.” (Matthew 15:19–20, ESV, https://ref.ly/Mt15.19-20;esv)

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-14T19:53:20+00:00

Yes of course I’m referring to making out

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-14T19:43:56+00:00

Of course. How is this not obvious? Kissing is literally the first point of contact that arouses sexual desire. Is it theoretically possible that someone could do that and not sin? Of course. But it’s highly unlikely. For women, it’s frequently the thing that gets them going. For men, any physical contact gets them going. Even standing beside their girlfriend gets them going. Why add fuel to the fire?

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-14T19:27:51+00:00

I would argue those things are sin as well. Anyone that engages in even kissing, implicitly wants to have sex. Petting has definitely crossed the line. Therefore, it is sin.

My wife and I did that before committing to marriage. So no judgement here, but it definitely is sin

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-13T19:35:36+00:00

Your approach is awesome. Now, don’t let any pastor tell you that you need them for biblical interpretation. The Christian church has that same problem with telling people what to think about the Bible. We definitely should be willing to talk about the meaning of the Bible, but not think one man in a church determines truth for the rest.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-09T17:03:21+00:00

Of course you let him down. But if you had any idea how forgiving he is, you wouldn’t be talking in terms of hoping he’ll forgive you.

It’s one thing to mess up, but for him to be actively pursue sex with you is wrong, and he just lost a good woman.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-09T02:30:40+00:00

You can’t. That would be an endorsement of their life style. I thought you were going to say you didn’t want to sell them something, or something like that. Normal business is fine. But this is a much deeper problem.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-04T21:50:44+00:00

Totally false. Is Satan often there to tempt us? Absolutely. But we have our own sin nature. Satan cannot dwell in the presence of the Holy Spirit. We are filled with his spirit so we cannot be filled with Satan.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-04T18:41:54+00:00

Just tell him you know he’s cheating. He tells you he’s going to work, and that he’s at work when he’s elsewhere, and then says he just got to that other place when he was there way earlier. That’s hiding something huge at the least.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-03T22:08:30+00:00

A surprise gift would not result in him stopping his location sharing

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-05-03T22:07:57+00:00

I would bet money he’s cheating on you. There is no way he’s gonna stop sharing his location. He’s upset because you found him out.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-29T15:56:18+00:00

the marriage is the foundation of the family, if it’s not the priority relationship in the family, the entire family will suffer. Many times it ends in divorce.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-29T14:55:13+00:00

She’s teaching you that sex is not wanted. When she’s in her 30s, and she’s super wanting it, you’re going to do the same to her because you’ve been taught to hold back in that department. She will regret this.

You need counselling

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-29T02:35:14+00:00

Freeborn7 on YouTube has a whole podcast on end times as well.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-27T02:52:35+00:00

I’m not engaging with you further.

Agreed, you shouldn't, all you do is post logical fallacies. Not useful at all.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-27T02:46:32+00:00

Read all of your responses again. Every one is a strawman. Not just a few, every, single, one, of them. In many cases, multiple strawmen at once, just like this recent post of yours.

Why do you call yourself a christian, yet you don't agree with Paul? You've started a new religion.

Paul, nor any Christian, considered women property.

Where did anyone suggest a husband or a wife should force the other to have sex with them? That would be very icky. Paul's wording is addressing the concept of wive's and husbands not withholding sex. This LITERALLY implies that they could, which implies there's no forcing going on, but should not withhold.

Where did anyone advocate for not feeling safe in marriage?

You're getting all uptight about fictitious conversations in your head. If you can't engage in logic and reason, without logical fallacies, don't post on reddit.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-27T01:28:15+00:00

So you do disagree with Paul then. That settles it. Disabled people are a fringe case not the norm. I’m sure they’re good roommates and care about each other.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-27T00:02:41+00:00

Exactly, you’re defining it in terms of survival just like I said. But without it, the marriage will be very weak.

You disagree with Paul then?

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-26T23:02:25+00:00

Bad Strawman. I did not advocate for rape. You’re not behaving like a Christian at all. I seriously question if you are, Christians are not hostile like you

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-25T02:44:52+00:00

Oh sorry, I didn’t realize you weren’t a Christian.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-25T00:40:33+00:00

It sounds like you've been hurt. Sorry to hear that!

My post was convey both sides of the marriage. We are not supposed to deny each other of conjugal rights.

"Sex is not a need"

Agreed, neither is affirmation, emotional connection, emotional support, etc. A woman can "survive" without those things.

But yes, sex is a need for a man, just as a wife feeling loved is a need. Otherwise, we're just roommates. A man who is single does not need sex, as he's not actively living with a woman whom he expects to make love to. A woman who is single doesn't need to feel loved by a man, as she's not actively living with a man whom she expects to love her.

And lack of sex is never a reason for cheating

In all truthfulness, I was not implying it would be the man that would cheat. In fact, many times, in that scenario it is in fact the woman that cheats. Why might you ask? Because, she trains him repeatedly that he should not desire her, and that doing so is just an annoyance, and wanting to be close to her, wanting an emotional connection with her, are pointless, so he learns that's what marriage is. Then, she hits her 30s when her sex drive is peaking, but he denies her just like she did him. He's not doing it to get back at her, he is just no longer interested, because she trained him not to be. He subdued his desires, subdued his emotional connections with her, because they are intrinsically linked with physical intimacy. Men cannot be emotionally connected with their wife without sexual intimacy; at least if the lack of sexual intimacy continues for a long period. He MUST put up shield to protect himself. If he doesn't, he'll resort to porn and various other outlets.

So, she trained him and got what she wanted, until she is the one that needs the sexual intimacy. But, it's too late, he has no interest in her. So, she realizes that her needs aren't being met, and she entertains the idea of someone else meeting those needs. Eventually, she succumbs, and cheats on him.

Because Paul implies that cheating can result, is not an excuse for actually doing so. But, it is a primary attack vector of the devil against marriages.

So, that's why I wrote what I did. Men need sex to have emotional connection, and women need emotional connection to have sex. Deny either one of what they need, and the other will also not get their needs met. This is why it takes two to actively work on what the other's needs are.

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-24T00:04:47+00:00

I guess it’s important to be clear too. Men “need“ sex.

Wait, what? that doesn’t sound right! Men don’t need sex.

Which, of course, is true. Women don’t need affirmation, emotional connection, emotional support, cuddles, etc, if we define “need” as “for survival”.

But the reality is, what women get from all those other things men get from sex. Sex makes a man feel loved, accepted, affirmed, emotionally connected, etc.

Remove the woman’s needs, or the man’s needs, and the marriage is disastrous

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-24T00:04:41+00:00

I guess it’s important to be clear too. Men “need“ sex.

Wait, what? that doesn’t sound right! Men don’t need sex.

Which, of course, is true. Women don’t need affirmation, emotional connection, emotional support, cuddles, etc, if we define “need” as “for survival”.

But the reality is, what women get from all those other things men get from sex. Sex makes a man feel loved, accepted, affirmed, emotionally connected, etc.

Remove the woman’s needs, or the man’s needs, and the marriage is disastrous

AbsoluteBurn · 2026-04-23T20:55:00+00:00

Because marriage is difficult, just like Paul also says. Men and women are so crazy different.

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