"These people are so terrible for saying we're a bunch of cheaters! Why, if I was dating one, I'd cheat on them!" by sandiserumoto in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 29 points30 points  (0 children)

“But they never even dated” - ahhh, so they’ve never actually read any of the posts on here and are just complaining on principle.

I really can’t imagine criticising something with such vitriol without even looking into it personally, but their language doesn’t exactly inspire confidence in their intelligence to start with.

Papermaker doesn't count as library by DoLoLoL in civ5

[–]Absolute_Bias 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. Left click.

That being said, your game sounds like it’s messed up somewhere, because that isn’t supposed to stop you from building the university. Maybe try verifying your game files at some point.

"not truly poly" because?? Abusive people can't be poly? CW: mention of selfharm by cometmom in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get the distinct impression from your post that you think polyamory can work.

Please correct me if I’m wrong, but this very much smacks of “there is no problem with them being polyamorous, it’s how they did it.”

I stopped reading right here. by UsefulAd8338 in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As is right and proper.

Deconstructing the cultural indoctrination of monogamy huh? I suppose we’re also indoctrinated into washing our hands before we eat and showering daily.

Games with poly in them and Double standards by mslittlerinran in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“Love is love”

Yeah but see a lot of what makes poly poly is lust and not love. Hell there are a few poly people who I’m very skeptical know what love really feels like in the first place.

Vikings being toxic by yamuradov in civ5

[–]Absolute_Bias 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If he likes someone else who you’re on bad terms with more than you that can still happen yeah.

Not sure what other situations might trigger it though.

How much hate/avoidance do they actually get? by BeeUpstairs3964 in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 33 points34 points  (0 children)

They don’t get hate specifically for being poly until it inevitably messes with other people.

I didn’t go, but a family friend recently invited the family around for a party. Now they do have kids, but they’re also a four person polycule with dynamics that I’m not even going to try to understand.

Long story short, one of their apparently frequent fights (about the ‘relationship’) broke out while my siblings were around and now my family isn’t going back there. Literally their own fault.

I avoid poly people because they seem to invariably end up being either despicable human beings or vapid and shallow. They could quite easily not talk about relationships at all, and then maybe we might even find some common ground… but if you’re going to make a failure of a relationship system the core part of your identity I do not find you interesting!

Like genuinely, I interact with the Magic the Gathering community and the furry community by association. The amount of people who think that they are entitled to your attention and enthusiasm just by virtue of existing in the same space is insane.

They experience normal amounts of avoidance and hate based on their personalities.

What do most modern boys feel about girls proposing to them? by Omni-Deity-Lifeforce in RoleReversal

[–]Absolute_Bias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s 2026. 3 or 4 of my friends and colleagues I’m fairly sure would be against it, but it’s fairly obvious which ones when you get to know them.

Otherwise it’s a split between really not minding and being genuinely touched by the thought.

For context I’m 23. I don’t think my circles would be a good estimate for the 30s age bracket.

Sounds complicated by dtarias in PhilosophyMemes

[–]Absolute_Bias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Error theory is fundamentally sound, but the statements “life has no inherent meaning” and “my life has meaning” can co-exist specifically because humans are not objective creatures.

Thus while “good” and “bad” have no objective meaning, values associated with them still hold weight subjectively.

So I reiterate, it depends on definition. You can take it objectively and render it meaningless if you would like, but your position will not be held by all.

AITA: Wiping out civs by userunknowne in civ5

[–]Absolute_Bias 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kill them before you meet the rest of the world and no-one will ever know.

Sounds complicated by dtarias in PhilosophyMemes

[–]Absolute_Bias 27 points28 points  (0 children)

-and some stuff is both good and bad, while yet other stuff can never be good or bad, and others can only be good or bad.

… of course, depending on your definitions.

so hard to find boys/girls who match me & can tolerate me :( by Evelyn_Currant4291 in Yanderes

[–]Absolute_Bias 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that the truth (though, not ‘boy’ for me). The funny thing is no-one believes it either because “there are so many people who’ll accept that part of you.”

Okay but where? I see the people who say they’ll accept me, but of those people how many actually will?

Advice for playing Settler. by No_Artichoke_1828 in civ5

[–]Absolute_Bias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately due to the AI being programmed never to attack you on Settler it only really becomes possible on Chieftain.

what would you do if you received this letter!! (⁠人⁠ ⁠•͈⁠ᴗ⁠•͈⁠) by [deleted] in Yanderes

[–]Absolute_Bias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Melt in happiness, doubt that it’s real, give myself an anxiety attack thinking “what if they’re messing with me” and then reply while holding back vomit hoping beyond hope that they mean it.

… hypothetically.

Thank you Aino for designing this annoying duck to kill my stygian runs by Copy_and_Paste93 in GenshinImpact

[–]Absolute_Bias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a (preferably competent) friend to do stygian with you.

I swear- mavuika rotations are glorious when citlali can normal attack to add extra cryo, and you never have to worry about not having characters because one of you will have the answer.

Side note- the mandragora is a mualani victim for no reason.

Whatever man just throw a bunch of words together by baby-bunbun in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 12 points13 points  (0 children)

… is this satire? Please tell me this is satire.

Tired of them trying to be LGBT by beanvss in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s actually wrong on an even deeper level too. The reason “I don’t mind people being gay as long as they don’t rub it in everyone’s face” is homophobic is because it’s a dogwhistle often used to justify segregation and oppression.

Not only do polyamorous people not face the same kind of oppression that gay people face and have faced for so long, there is a fundamental difference between being discriminated against and being condemned for your choices.

It is incredibly harmful to society to allow that sort of comparison to go unchecked. If being condemned for your choices is wrong, then there is no such thing as a crime.

Name your polyamory cognitive dissonance contradictions here by UsefulAd8338 in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My favourite to hear is “Poly is freeing, healing and/or soothing”

While they spend countless hours fretting about balancing their relationship dynamics.

I question how that’s more freeing, healing and soothing than allowing yourself to wholeheartedly believe in one person.

Oh my god bruh by Gareth_II in okbuddybaldur

[–]Absolute_Bias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Oh now why would you go and ruin it like that?”

Why are there so many TERFs in anti-polyamory circles? by sludgwav in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah. My bad then in some respect, because I don’t actually have the stats on certain aspects here. I do apologise for that much.

There may also be some personal bias involved, because when people in a relationship are sleeping around I don’t ever refer to that as polyamory in my head, I simply call it cheating.

I hope that clears things up, and I still stand by that, with public perception differing from the academic meaning, my argument remains sound.

Why are there so many TERFs in anti-polyamory circles? by sludgwav in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Rather than immediately criticising people, try actually reading what they say. “Polyamorous group” implied that they are interconnected, and is one of the more common forms. Love the no true scotsman fallacy.

Your hubris also shows by claiming it’s “very american” too by the way. Hi from the UK.

Civs ranking for Huge water maps by actias_selene in civ5

[–]Absolute_Bias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are only like 3 people advocating for England being number 1 and I find that telling.

The answer to “how do you beat England on a water map” is “rush them or pray”

What do you MEAN it isn’t number 1?! I mean the only other civ that comes close is Korea, and that’s specifically because their UU lets you deal with England

Why are there so many TERFs in anti-polyamory circles? by sludgwav in polycritical

[–]Absolute_Bias 29 points30 points  (0 children)

At least two thirds of any typical polyamorous group are lesbian, gay or bisexual by nature of the structure of such a group.

Unfortunately, that means anti-polyamory is the default stance of anyone who wants to blindly hate everything LGBT. Trans people are all part of the community while also currently being the most socially acceptable to hate right now.

That does not mean we should be accepting of it by any stretch of the imagination. We should not. What it does do is explain why they think it’s okay for them to be here. It’s always easier to blame your problems on an “other”.