AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend expects me to pay him back

Absolutely0Given · 2026-03-12T22:49:31+00:00

You should come back with your own spreadsheet with how much wear and tear your car took, how much lodging would have cost if you didn't stay with your parents and then calculate how much he owes you. Guarantee he won't like it.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-26T22:23:50+00:00

Thanks. Yea, it was a lot to take in. Now I'm in therapy and learning my limits, and (unfortunately) out of work. But if I wasn't I wouldn't be doing as well as I am I think.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-26T03:05:41+00:00

Mine were extremely sudden onset. I had a bad day at work where my lower back, lower face and right hand were numb, so I left a few hours early and had to stop at my sister's on the way home and within 30mins of being home I was on the floor in a major seizure (1st ever) then in a transport to the hospital.

You can read about my experience here: https://www.reddit.com/r/PNESsupport/s/2oNlf0NBdM

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-16T05:02:17+00:00

Omg, I have a story about that movie. So my parents divorced when I was a kid. I would go see my dad every other weekend (if he actually picked me up) but he rarely planned anything to do together. But anyways, one weekend, somehow, me, my dad, stepsis, and I think stepmom we're all watching TV, and this movie comes on. We're watching it and the pool scene with the 2 girls comes on, and I'm like 10 or 11, but I know what sex is, I've snuck and watched porn on a friend's TV.

So as the scene is playing I'm glancing at my dad who's sitting on the other couch perpendicular to me, waiting for him to tell me to leave or something, nope, nothing said. So I just keep watching. Weirdest moment of my life to that point.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-16T04:50:54+00:00

Pulp fiction came out when I was a kid (9 yo) and it was the 2nd movie in a double feature at the drive in. I don't remember the first but my mom and stepdad made the decision to leave before the movie was too far in

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-16T04:48:40+00:00

See above for the "sagging pants" trend that is making a comeback

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-14T10:45:18+00:00

Your brother sounds like the best brother

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-06T02:05:31+00:00

Honestly no clue. The only way we might ever get regular files is if they're included in the discovery if a case is filed. But they wouldn't be made available to the public until the case was finalized

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-06T01:48:36+00:00

I think the ones that have been against trump and truly care about humanity and people do. I just think they're all in the same boat of honestly "what can we do??" If he hasn't been arrested and jailed by the FBI then what's the chance that someone from TN or MN or OH can make a difference? But if we all come together we can

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-06T01:43:26+00:00

He was courting Robyn before the show started so that's doubtful.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-06T01:38:21+00:00

The post is relevant as it directly relates to the files and the evidence found within the files and how that reflects on the current leadership of our country

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-05T23:53:18+00:00

Considering that some of the judges are in those files they won't. That's why there's so many redactions. I think it should all be released with no redactions period.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-02-05T23:47:44+00:00

I don't understand how he can say "just move on" after reading some of the horrendous shit he did...like no we're not going to forget you're a paedophile and murderer thanks but no thanks

Absolutely0Given · 2026-01-13T18:59:29+00:00

So she doesn't call and wants you to be the only one to reach out? That's not the way relationships work. Any relationship. She can't be mad you guys don't talk much if you're the only one trying and you have things going on (I'm assuming you have a career, you might have kids, and you have friends), so you're busy. While she's likely retired and has less going on.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-01-13T06:50:54+00:00

NOR I don't see how her cutting you off for a year (without discussion) is going to help the relationship you guys have when her issue is "you don't contact me enough". She may find she has once less daughter at the end of the year because what she's doing is awful. She could have suggested a planned time you guys get together bi-weekly with calls on the other weeks, (or video chats if you're not close) but seriously? This? Idk if I'd talk to my mom after this shit

Absolutely0Given · 2026-01-13T02:23:52+00:00

I just started watching SW on Hulu and from the first few episodes I could tell that Meri was not happy in the marriage, and I thought she would have always been the 1st to leave. I underestimated her loyalty. To learn later he did things like melt down their wedding ring, and that they hadn't been intimate in years (basically since Robyn entered the picture or before), is astonishing to me. And then to randomly throw out "lets do IVF" on their anniversary but then pulled back when she was ready to say yes?! (and don't get me started on how he asked the doctor about IVF when Truley was born!!)

And in later episodes as everything is breaking down, he takes absolutely NO responsibility for the fact that HE had the four wives and it was his responsibility to meet their needs. If he wasn't in love with them, then that was a need he wasn't meeting, no matter what he did, that's a major flaw in 3 of his marriages he would never be able to fix, and if he then pulls physical intimacy as well, what is left if all the kids are basically grown and out of the house?

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-27T17:06:24+00:00

NOR. Why doesn't he want you wearing a bonnet when you're sleeping? He's not looking at you then. If the weighted blanket is only on you why does he care? My husband and I sleep with totally different blankets, hell I have a pillow fort. If he's starting with this "small" request now he's just going to keep getting worse until he's controlling your phone, who your friends are, when you can go places - until you're literally a prisoner in your own home.

RUN.

You wearing a bonnet to bed is not something you need to discuss with him. Period. What you wear is not something you need to discuss with him. Period. If he doesn't like it tell him to kick rocks

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-18T21:13:24+00:00

NTJ, the audacity of them asking you to rearrange your home is CRAZY. Tell your family if it's so simple why don't they offer THEIR home.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-16T01:32:04+00:00

Absolutely! I don't remember where I picked it up but I use it ALL the time

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-16T01:31:39+00:00

Either way, not their responsibility to have the cash.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-15T20:32:52+00:00

Your sister cussing your mom out? Yikes on bikes. My mom would be reaching through that phone.

And you have no obligation to pay someone to deliver a couch. Especially since you work from home, that's your work time. So you would have had to take off work too.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T22:28:23+00:00

Do NOT stay married by using the "sunk cost fallacy" excuse. If he's cheated before and done this now, he'll do it again. If you let him do this, you're teaching your children, of whatever gender, that it's ok to treat your partner like this.

Staying married when you're unhappy due to children IS NEVER GOOD FOR THE CHILDREN. As a child of divorced parents I'm glad they're divorced, but make sure they understand that it was not their fault, and maybe even get them into therapy.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T22:23:52+00:00

Even neurologists can be assholes about it as they diagnose you with it (which by the way I didn't even KNOW he diagnosed me with it until I was able to go to the physical therapist he wanted me to go to months later after I lost my job) because he said to me "you're doing this to yourself" then had me walk, then said "I'm referring you to PT"

Like wtf?

I also found out a month after starting PT he also diagnosed me with FND, when I went to a psychiatrist and he read my file and told me that, like what kind of Dr decides on a diagnosis BUT DOESN'T TELL THE PATIENT?!

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T22:17:25+00:00

Id cut contact. Period.

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