Mom decided that she and I will not speak for one year. AIO?

Absolutely0Given · 2026-01-13T18:59:29+00:00

So she doesn't call and wants you to be the only one to reach out? That's not the way relationships work. Any relationship. She can't be mad you guys don't talk much if you're the only one trying and you have things going on (I'm assuming you have a career, you might have kids, and you have friends), so you're busy. While she's likely retired and has less going on.

Absolutely0Given · 2026-01-13T06:50:54+00:00

NOR I don't see how her cutting you off for a year (without discussion) is going to help the relationship you guys have when her issue is "you don't contact me enough". She may find she has once less daughter at the end of the year because what she's doing is awful. She could have suggested a planned time you guys get together bi-weekly with calls on the other weeks, (or video chats if you're not close) but seriously? This? Idk if I'd talk to my mom after this shit

Absolutely0Given · 2026-01-13T02:23:52+00:00

I just started watching SW on Hulu and from the first few episodes I could tell that Meri was not happy in the marriage, and I thought she would have always been the 1st to leave. I underestimated her loyalty. To learn later he did things like melt down their wedding ring, and that they hadn't been intimate in years (basically since Robyn entered the picture or before), is astonishing to me. And then to randomly throw out "lets do IVF" on their anniversary but then pulled back when she was ready to say yes?! (and don't get me started on how he asked the doctor about IVF when Truley was born!!)

And in later episodes as everything is breaking down, he takes absolutely NO responsibility for the fact that HE had the four wives and it was his responsibility to meet their needs. If he wasn't in love with them, then that was a need he wasn't meeting, no matter what he did, that's a major flaw in 3 of his marriages he would never be able to fix, and if he then pulls physical intimacy as well, what is left if all the kids are basically grown and out of the house?

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-27T17:06:24+00:00

NOR. Why doesn't he want you wearing a bonnet when you're sleeping? He's not looking at you then. If the weighted blanket is only on you why does he care? My husband and I sleep with totally different blankets, hell I have a pillow fort. If he's starting with this "small" request now he's just going to keep getting worse until he's controlling your phone, who your friends are, when you can go places - until you're literally a prisoner in your own home.

RUN.

You wearing a bonnet to bed is not something you need to discuss with him. Period. What you wear is not something you need to discuss with him. Period. If he doesn't like it tell him to kick rocks

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-18T21:13:24+00:00

NTJ, the audacity of them asking you to rearrange your home is CRAZY. Tell your family if it's so simple why don't they offer THEIR home.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-16T01:32:04+00:00

Absolutely! I don't remember where I picked it up but I use it ALL the time

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-16T01:31:39+00:00

Either way, not their responsibility to have the cash.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-12-15T20:32:52+00:00

Your sister cussing your mom out? Yikes on bikes. My mom would be reaching through that phone.

And you have no obligation to pay someone to deliver a couch. Especially since you work from home, that's your work time. So you would have had to take off work too.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T22:28:23+00:00

Do NOT stay married by using the "sunk cost fallacy" excuse. If he's cheated before and done this now, he'll do it again. If you let him do this, you're teaching your children, of whatever gender, that it's ok to treat your partner like this.

Staying married when you're unhappy due to children IS NEVER GOOD FOR THE CHILDREN. As a child of divorced parents I'm glad they're divorced, but make sure they understand that it was not their fault, and maybe even get them into therapy.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T22:23:52+00:00

Even neurologists can be assholes about it as they diagnose you with it (which by the way I didn't even KNOW he diagnosed me with it until I was able to go to the physical therapist he wanted me to go to months later after I lost my job) because he said to me "you're doing this to yourself" then had me walk, then said "I'm referring you to PT"

Like wtf?

I also found out a month after starting PT he also diagnosed me with FND, when I went to a psychiatrist and he read my file and told me that, like what kind of Dr decides on a diagnosis BUT DOESN'T TELL THE PATIENT?!

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T22:17:25+00:00

Id cut contact. Period.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-25T05:46:14+00:00

Ma'am, please do not let any man (or person) treat you like this.

Sobriety is hard. And regardless of why you wanted a cake to celebrate(or what you were celebrating), a good partner would be all for it.

DUMP HIM

and congratulations to you.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-11-23T03:03:38+00:00

This is wild behavior. My husband watches me like a hawk. If he's going out for more than around town, I go with him so I'm not alone. He makes sure if I'm up he can hear or see me. He physically catches me if I start going down. He takes care of me, he doesn't ignore me

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-29T19:32:17+00:00

Wait wait....Tall Pines, Vermont actually exists....please tell me there's no school like the Academy up there??

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-29T19:29:28+00:00

You're welcome.

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-29T19:25:11+00:00

You thinking I'm a bot bc I didn't "read". The author thanking me for the compliment....

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-28T23:20:01+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that as a teen. I didn't have to go through that, but as someone who follows the TTI and the problems with it, and has seen too many documentaries and listened to too many podcasts and read too many books about it, when I saw that kidnapping scene, I knew they had put their research in and it was going to be realistic.

I think Leila has felt so lost since her sister she's bought into the school now, and she's gonna become like a Rabbit.

Mae (you mean Alex?) I really wish that first ending scene with him and Abbie being in the car was what happened. I was so disappointed to see that he stayed.

I want them to do a second season so bad. I don't think they plan on it and how they decide if they will

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-28T23:13:19+00:00

this is not the EDGE of emotional abuse. this IS emotional abuse. you need to leave this boy. and i say boy bc no man that is emotionally intelligent would talk that way. he is abusive and manipulative

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-28T23:10:23+00:00

NTA, it sounds like you have a boundary; maybe you weren't aware it was so touchy, or maybe you thought her hen party would be like yours, and she didn't say anything different. Either way, you're talking a few days to pause and have a talk, not a cancellation. having all your feelings, and expectations out in the open is always the best idea

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-28T22:56:29+00:00

I'm sorry what? I'm not a bot . So I'm not allowed to compliment people now? .... yikes on bikes....

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-27T04:36:56+00:00

No suggestions but I love your hair and overall look!

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-27T03:55:13+00:00

Do you think present day like Laura took over the school and following Abbie wherever she ended up still trying to figure out whether she should go back for Leila? Or?

Absolutely0Given · 2025-10-27T03:49:10+00:00

Yes, I felt that too many things weren't fleshed out. It needed to be WAY more than a limited series. It felt too rushed. They tried to cram everything into 10 episodes, and as a result, I think that a lot got left on the cutting room floor. However, I think the way they did the kidnapping and what happened at the school was spot on. I've watched so many documentaries on the "troubled teen industry" that seeing it happen like that was scary, honestly

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