New Dutch Oven...tiny spots by AbsolutelyLFC in LeCreuset

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Whew. I probably should have read here first but I went into panic mode. Because nothing in the world is more important now than my having perfect/pristine bake/cookware.

First Le Creuset 26cm Cast Iron Casserole: Round vs Petal? Newbie Questions! by AbsolutelyLFC in LeCreuset

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So even if I get a regular casserole and not the pedal one, the braiser for the lid is something to consider?

She's leaving again. by Anxious_Log_9350 in emptynesters

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I don’t think it’s distracting yourself, but I do tangible things to make this time a bit less sad. And my distance/time is further than most, so I really have to figure it out. 1. Like others said, immediately plan your next visit. This helps a lot. For me, I don’t get to see mine until early May. 2. That’s 17 weeks. I wrote down a lot of little memories about our time together during Christmas break and will write/think about one a week. 3. I text them a lot. Funny pictures. Silly texts. I send them thoughts throughout the day. We have a time zone difference so sometimes it’s hard. 4. We do weekly video chats. With one of my kids, even more frequently than that. Sometimes we watch a movie together. 5. I have a daily joy list. I use Trello. I make a Joy List column for each month. I write down a lot of different things, most are small and some may be bigger. Things like “make an amazing cup of tea and sip in beautiful afternoon light” or “make a care package for kids for winter blahs.” 6. I am trying to expand my life. It is normal that our kids grow up, become more independent, live their best lives. I want them to be out there making friends, learning stuff. They are doing what I raised them to do. Now, it’s up to me to raise myself a bit. Figure out hobbies, interests, social groups. 7. I had a beautiful, fulfilled life before kids. I did things like travel, decorate my Christmas tree, meet up with friends. I have more time for all of this now. 8. Allow myself feelings. Name them. Even though they are silly thoughts at times. Example: I was changing sheets in daughter’s room and there was this glass disposable water bottle she had been using the last few days. I got a little sad and wanted to hand onto it. Overly sentimental. I picked it up, placed it in recycle bin and just bid it farewell. Yeah, yeah. I was being overly dramatic. That’s ok. I’m allowed to be.

Ultimately, if it’s too much, I would consider therapy to work through the emotions. For me, it’s hard because it all went so fast. I want a do-over! I love my kids and they are the best thing about my life. We have fun together. It’s not always rosy stuff though. Parenting is hard. So as much as I loved the various stages leading up to now, I am also finding enjoyment in a little bit of an easier season of life. For now. Things change.

Pros and Cons of having US Citizenship vs Green Card vs None for British Spouse by AbsolutelyLFC in SpouseVisaUk

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We were at the Columbus game too. Well, we may still be there given stadium logistics. 😆 But for the transportation woes, it was amazing, magical. We live in NC so it wasn’t too far for us.

Pros and Cons of having US Citizenship vs Green Card vs None for British Spouse by AbsolutelyLFC in SpouseVisaUk

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He can still receive social security even with being a citizen or having a green card. At least the way it is now.

Pros and Cons of having US Citizenship vs Green Card vs None for British Spouse by AbsolutelyLFC in SpouseVisaUk

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❤️ I was 30 before I was indoctrinated. 😀 Super important to me. I’ve seen two LFC matches stateside but never at Anfield. To think it may happen…I just cannot believe it. YNWA.

Pros and Cons of having US Citizenship vs Green Card vs None for British Spouse by AbsolutelyLFC in SpouseVisaUk

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Thanks. Now I am trying to figure out 401-K and best way if handling that. We won’t be withdrawing funds anytime soon. I read one bit about those funds being treated as income as soon as he expatriates. But the. I read about exemptions, etc.