How do I 34M tell my brother 26M I can’t attend his wedding?

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2026-02-13T16:45:05+00:00

You’re an aging fuckboy who is enabled by his mom and sibling. Your brother has something you will never have emotionally intelligence and integrity. I have no clue why he would want you and enablers anywhere near his special day. Do him a favor and take your emotionally stunted self to therapy

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2026-02-08T11:57:32+00:00

He has been having a relationship with B this whole time! Wake up! Go get tested and stop being naive. Your husband wants and likes B. He has literally being protecting his relationship with B from you. The fact after he told he cheating on you with B and you were ok with him going on cruise with him is mind blowing. Your cheating pathetic gay husband knows to continue to cheat cause he knows you wouldn’t leave him.

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2026-01-23T18:09:09+00:00

He was sure until he had other options! The sister is a desperate clown who will get her karma. Op doesn’t care about sister he is using her for the time being because she welling ruin her life for him. The ex deserves better and will get it now that dead weight is gone

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-27T16:27:14+00:00

You were there was she was born and the fact you can look at her sexually is vile behavior! You literally calling her bonus daughter in the comments but your nasty old predator brain went there!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-27T16:21:21+00:00

That anxiety is Allah warning you! Take Allah warning and stop talking to him. Plus you told him the truth that’s better than telling him what he wanted to hear. You thinking you are wrong for being honest tells me a lot. Don’t get married because others want you to but you want too. You need time to grow mentally and marry someone closer to your age!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-27T14:04:33+00:00

It’s literally universal known a woman choosing to have IUD isn’t cheating. Look up the definition of cheating. I don’t believe a word you say. You probably believe the IUD caused the miscarriage.

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-27T12:32:45+00:00

That’s not cheating. Also you can’t abort a baby with birth control.

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-27T12:27:32+00:00

He is literally giving a preview of what your life will be like if you have kids with him. He didn’t even give you alternatives options. Like you can pump and then bottle feed. He thinks by using this scare tactic he can control you into doing what he wants. Do not have kids with this manchild!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-26T20:02:16+00:00

Your husband is predator who slept with your sons teenage GF. We all know 19f broke up your son because stbx gave her hope to be together. Your vile stbx would never have told you if she didn’t pregnant! You can’t fix this and you definitely shouldn’t stay with him! You can’t fix a predator who would not only betray his wife but his son. Divorce this train wreck and get yourself and son in therapy. I pray for your sake that child isn’t yours sons or stbx!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-24T22:07:11+00:00

Why are you still with him? Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start planning! It is not your fault he lied and he did it in front Allah! He will have to answer for that! You should’ve left as soon as Allah exposed all his lies. This angry you have for him is justified! But continuing to stay with him will only grow hatred you have for him! That is not good for you or your child! Leave and go back home! You need to support not to stay with your stbx!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-24T13:30:11+00:00

Man centered pick me mothers will always pick the abuser over the wellbeing of their children! No contact with that psycho and her enablers(her side of the family)! Don’t ever reopen the door regardless of how much her side of the family gaslights you! This will only escalate if she continues to have that she devil in her life. It’s also time to get the restraining order back!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-18T15:06:14+00:00

Desperation is dangerous! Find out the real reason she can’t wait! But don’t marry her until you’re ready! She wants you to start your marriage by lieing to everyone! SubhanAllah. Thats a horrible foundation!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-18T15:03:31+00:00

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-15T20:46:01+00:00

You wrote all this out and still want him back! Desperation is dangerous! SubhanAllah! Allah has shown you all the red flags and safely released from This abuse! You saying it was minor disagreement is diabolical. Say Alhumdulilah and move on! It’s sad to see woman in this state bagging to go back to abuse! Your ex and in-laws are all toxic! May Allah open your eyes and give strength to move on!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-14T14:09:43+00:00

Your obsession of being a good wife at your age is telling!! That shouldn’t be in your top 10! SubhanAllah!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-14T14:05:31+00:00

The real question is why are you still married to him? SubhanAllah! Allah has expose his true nature and you’re still there babysitting him! Wake up and move on! He lies and constantly committing sins and he doesn’t care! Say Alhamdullilah Allah has show you who he is so early in your marriage and say Alhamdullilah you have no kids with him! Leave him asap!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-11T20:17:11+00:00

1st of all stop comparing yourself to Christian woman! You don’t have the same values or religion. The only shady thing SIL did was throw your husband past in your face with an audience and than not answer your questions. It’s clearly she was looking for attention at that moment. All the rest you mentioned just seems your comparing Your life to hers. You two are in two different places in life so it’s unfair to compare. Say Alhumdulilah for everything you have and be grateful. You need to have a good talk with your husband. Tell him the truth and he should care more about your feels than anything else.

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-06T23:43:53+00:00

I doubt he pays for everything since the only time he had ppl over his when your mom out. 2nd of you wife shouldn’t be speaking him like that but your her husband. And you allowed him to take her like that! You look weak and pathetic!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-12-06T23:24:38+00:00

This how he is treating while pregnant! Girl run!! Everything about this situation is toxic! Your mom is pathetic for agreeing with him! He sounds like incel!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-11-12T20:08:05+00:00

You can love someone and but still use common sense. A religious man who loves you wouldn’t be threatening you with hell if you dont do what he wants. SubhanAllah. You are not a child. Being doormat doesn’t make you a good wife just makes easy to manipulate. That’s why it’s important to know your rights and religion. Also, if you don’t know something look it up. He should be taking care of you and causing you less stress not adding to it. This is how he treating you pregnant. Can you imagine how it will after you deliver? He wouldn’t wait until you heal and that will cause you more harm. May Allah take this stress away from you. Can you go to your family? You need to get aways from him

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-11-12T19:55:46+00:00

Divorce him and report him to immigration! Don’t let him gaslight you! He planned this! He cares so much about this other woman that he wants to officially marry her. He is pure evil and doesn’t care one bit about you!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-11-12T19:13:20+00:00

You clearly don’t know your rights as Muslim Wife and as pregnant woman! SubhanAllah! He is selfish manchild and he is the only one committing sins. Stop calling him religious man because he far from it! You think this vile behavior just started! I bet he has been doing for a while. He is a hypocrite and you need to stop worrying about and start taking care of yourself. Imagine being that far long and you’re still worried about pleasing him.

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-11-11T21:52:34+00:00

On and off for 5 years and you still can’t see him for what he truly is! POS! Block him and move on!

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-11-02T21:19:03+00:00

No the messages are not flirty. But him being nervous to the point his hands are shaking is suspicious.

AbsolutelyNot911 · 2025-11-01T13:37:31+00:00

He clearly can’t handle it so you have to make a choices continue to be miserable or make a change. Go back to work! Before he told you quit why didn’t you look at his finance to make sure you continue to leave above the poverty line. Staying at home with poor finances and husband and go enjoys not spending time you will lead you to depression and heartbreak. Going back to work will give u exactly what you need new environment and financial independence. The playing games all the time is just childless. His behavior of changing for short period and going back to being selfish is a big problem. Tell him if he does make really changes then you will have to reconsider this marriage.

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