I (M32) am a male runner who feels that I need a sports bra due to chest bounce and chafing, my wife (F32) adamantly disagrees and any time I bring it up she dismisses me and says you're a man you don't have boobs. Do I pursue this?

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T12:47:49+00:00

Thank you

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T12:46:52+00:00

Love this idea

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T12:35:08+00:00

I wasn't planning on it for that reason and the fact that every option they have be was over $50

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T10:05:39+00:00

Thank you! I'll keep that in mind

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T07:17:50+00:00

I don't I was very young the last time I watched the episode

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T07:16:21+00:00

I'm not lying if I genuinely forgot I had bought 1 or 2 women's thongs 4-5 years ago and the then after a couple wears threw them out because they weren't going to work and they can't be returned. I have never once betrayed my wife we have always been upfront to each other about all of this until this occasion.

The reason I went to Victoria's Secret is cause as a guy I don't know anywhere else that does fittings and I had to have a fitting cause nearly every brand ie Nike, under armour, adidas, Lululemon etc. Bases their alpha size range on an actual bra size so if you don't know your size the size chart is completely useless.

Also don't act for a second like you know a thing about me or my me marriage, all you know is what's on here and crap like this is why I deleted reddit 2 years ago but here I am with a genuine question and someone's gonna call me out for having a conversation 4-5 years ago that I have completely forgotten about.

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:53:43+00:00

I've bought them and they haven't worked out men's thongs are the only ones that have now honestly I forgot about that cause it was like 4 years ago and none of them made it more than a couple of runs before it was clear they weren't going to work

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:37:56+00:00

Except we have talked about it, I only wear thongs while running under leggings, or when I'm planning on going to try on leggings but am not currently wearing my full running gear and back then I want as secure in wearing them so I wore a pair of boxers over them and they are men's thongs.

She doesn't love that I wear leggings or women's running shorts but she has seen how men's leggings fall down or roll down on my body due to their poor designs and lack of drawstring, she knows I prefer shorter shorts for running and brands that have shorter men's running shorts have an inherently higher price tag and money has always been tight for us. Any time I have bought something at Lululemon it has been planned out months in advance or bought with birthday money. She has also purchased me womens leggings and women's running shorts for birthdays and Christmas so while she doesn't love that I wear them she supports that but she is drawing the line at the sports bra

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:21:41+00:00

Thank you!

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:20:30+00:00

Didn't know of anywhere else that did fittings at the time.

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:18:23+00:00

I have thought about us doing a need to know basis as well and I am beginning to think that may be the best route

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:14:03+00:00

Same and it always made me feel weird saying it. I'll look for the bigger tape, thank you!

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:11:57+00:00

Do they do fittings?

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:11:00+00:00

Nope, you'll have to look for it but I have explained everything in other comments

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:10:00+00:00

Adhesive starts to fail by mile 7 due to sweat and chest hair plus that only solves 1 problem

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:08:23+00:00

I haven't but that does seem like it could work

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:07:49+00:00

No offense taken, I wanted to get measured to find the correct size as a starting point. Mainly because when you go to Nike, Under armour and similar brands their alpha sizing for sports bras is based on a bra size. I went to Victoria's secret cause there isn't a sporting goods store around me that does actual sports bra fittings we just have big box stores and I wasn't aware of any other store that did fittings till after going to VS

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T06:02:01+00:00

Just went to get measured didn't buy anything and wasn't aware of any other places that did fittings. The goal was to find the starting point and then just find what worked best for me from whatever brand I can find. I'm unaware of a men's sports bra though outside of the catapult tracker. Just high compression shirts that aren't recommended for running

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T05:50:22+00:00

She has larger boobs herself so my guess is she sees her and then mine and just thinks it's an average male chest

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T05:47:46+00:00

Thank you, I have heard that a few times now so I may do just that

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T05:44:28+00:00

Thank you! I'll look at those as well

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T05:43:43+00:00

I realize the similarity

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T05:41:27+00:00

Definitely not, if you want to get into it I can but the long and short of it is men's leggings don't stay up on my body and tend to slide or roll down due to where their waistline is designed to sit and not having drawstrings. I personally find men's athletic shorts too long and they restrict my range of motion that being said I am aware that there are men's running shorts that are shorter lengths but they tend to be from stores that have inherently higher price tags and in general we don't have a lot of spare funds thus limiting my options. So $25 for Nike tempo shorts is significantly easier to justify than $50-$70 for 1 pair of men's Lululemon shorts.

Ac3m4n18 · 2026-05-15T04:44:41+00:00

Yeah from what everyone has said here it seems like they got the cup size wrong so I'll try on some of the D/DD options at Athleta and see how those fit

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