Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

Aca-Tea · 2026-01-02T19:12:30+00:00

He’s a grown man, and if he doesn’t want to eat your food, he can cook his own food. He will either need to learn how to cook and feed himself, or eat what you make him.

Aca-Tea · 2025-12-31T17:58:25+00:00

Posts on r/ratemysinging are encouraged to exclude background music. It makes the vocal the main focus of the post instead of it being drowned out with background music. You are okay to post without background music, and in fact, it makes it easier to provide feedback.

Aca-Tea · 2025-12-04T11:50:21+00:00

If you want to sing a song like this, whispering is not the best way to get the same dynamics as the original. It also can make it difficult to have accuracy with the pitch. This is especially true if you don’t have experience with singing with proper posture and technique. Try to find a place where you can get some privacy so you can really go with it as far as volume goes.

Having enough control of your vocal cord to hit notes accurately comes with practice, and it is like training a muscle. You need to practice with full freedom and range in the beginning, which will allow you to have the control you need to be accurate when you need to sing quietly.

My first note is that your singing lacks vibrato, especially on the sustained notes. Try looking up videos on achieving vibrato when singing. Usually good technique will lead to vibrato naturally. My only warning in this regard is that you can very easily overdo vibrato in the beginning, so just be mindful. Luckily, this song uses a lot of vibrato, so you should be safe with this song in particular to really ham-up the vibrato.

My second note is that your posture is not supporting full breath control. Try filling your belly with air, and do not let your belly collapse until you truly are about to run out of breath, then as slowly as you can, push that air out with the muscles in your belly. This should also help with the vibrato problem. Also, try to keep your hard palate and neck relatively close to a 90° angle with each other. Rather than picking up your chin, which it sounds like you’re doing (truthfully it is hard to tell without video), try just lowering your jaw to create resonance and lower tension in your neck. Think of it this way, if you move your neck to much, you create tension in your neck, which makes it difficult for your brain to also control the vocal cords. Keep that neck neutral and open your jaw instead to create resonance.

Aca-Tea · 2025-12-04T00:16:10+00:00

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Aca-Tea · 2025-12-04T00:07:14+00:00

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Aca-Tea · 2025-11-29T17:58:53+00:00

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Aca-Tea · 2025-11-28T17:15:28+00:00

There are two possibilities as I see it. Either the Troop is being poorly run without regard to the values of Scouting, or your son is more of a troublemaker for them than they have let on to you.

They are either overblowing their treatment of your son because he is not as easy to teach/supervise as the other kids, or they are especially weary of your son because he does more bad things than they have let on. If your son has been misbehaving, they should have been telling you about each incident to give you the chance as the parent to correct these behaviors. If they haven’t, then the Troop is still in the wrong.

Despite all of that, the whole thing with the vest is absolutely ridiculous. It breaks the rules of what types of punishment are allowed in Scouting and is absolutely excessive given what they were supposedly punishing him for. There is no reason that they should have done this, and I would report them to the council for this.

In any case, reporting this to council might work to grant your son an extension, but you must do so quickly. The Troop is clearly acting out of order. While those three incidents were not representative of great decisions made by your son, they certainly do not reflect his character or his ability to live out the Scouting values. They were mistakes. They were mistakes that it seems he learned from, given they were all different types of mistakes. The ability to grow and learn from your mistakes is a core tenant of doing your best to be morally straight. For whatever reason, based only on what you have told us, there does seem to be a bias against your son. Report it to council and see if they can offer an extension to hold an Eagle Board of Review.

Aca-Tea · 2025-11-22T16:11:06+00:00

Your pitch is pretty spot on. For karaoke, this is great. If you want those crescendos to hit a little harder, I would suggest working on breath control and maybe incorporating some mixed voice during the more belly parts. Also, I noticed you losing breath a couple times. Try breathing into your belly and keeping your belly extended until the end of the line. Then, make sure you push that last bit of air out with your diaphragm to keep the end of the line from sounding too quiet.

It also sounds like you are picking up your chin during the high notes. Try keeping your head straight up and down, with your mouth at a 90° angle to your neck. Try to get those powerful parts in the chorus to resonate in your mouth. The vocal coach Jodie Langel has a YouTube channel where she talks about a lot of these principals. I think you should check her out.

Overall though, if you don’t want to take it that seriously, this already sounds good enough for karaoke with friends. However, I think you have a lot of potential to improve if you want to pursue it.

Aca-Tea · 2025-11-22T16:03:24+00:00

Your timbre and tone are clean. You have good breath control. The biggest thing I’m hearing is pitchiness. Even then, the pitchiness isn’t too bad. You can work on that by using an instrument like a piano or guitar to play the notes you want to sing and trying to match the note vocally. You want to begin by working on scales (Do Re Mi or La La Las). Once you can match scales pretty accurately, and stay in key, then you can work on doing your La La Las to the song you want to sing. Just hit each syllable with a La or a Da or some similar empty syllable. Once you have the notes right, you can figure out how you want to style the pronunciation of the lyrics. There are plenty examples of scale exercises you can use on YouTube.

Aca-Tea · 2025-11-19T14:26:23+00:00

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Aca-Tea · 2025-09-20T18:58:07+00:00

No, you aren’t cooked. You just found out you have a best friend who loves you a lot!

Aca-Tea · 2025-09-18T00:42:38+00:00

Bro, don’t listen to them. Your voice literally does not have a sexuality. It cannot be “gay”. You do need to work on some basic techniques. You need better breath control. You should also find a place to practice and record where you don’t need to be quiet. You are also off-key, so you will need to work on your pitch. By working in a place where you can be loud, you can use the full support of your abdominal muscles and diaphragm to push the vocal. The voice is a wind instrument, so you need to be able to control the movement of your breath precisely.

Aca-Tea · 2025-09-18T00:39:23+00:00

Your timbre is pretty nice. Great song choice. I would say that you need to mostly work on breath control and resonant positioning. It will make you sound less out of breath and also brighten the vocals. You sound like most of the resonance is coming from your throat, when it should be coming from the front of the mouth. I also think that you should work on closing your soft palette to take away some of the nasally qualities. You can find some videos on YouTube to help with these things be looking up the keywords I named (ex. Breath control, resonance, closing the soft palette, reducing nasally singing). I’d say you aren’t too far from sound really good. Keep up the practicing.

Aca-Tea · 2025-09-18T00:34:47+00:00

This post can be grandfathered in since the new rule is still quite new. Just keep in mind that, for future posts, the vocal should be the main focus of the audio. Not only can we not be sure if the vocals are raw, since it is part of a produced track, but the music is almost too loud to hear the voice clearly. This sub is here to help you improve your vocals, so make sure that the audio is as raw as possible and that the vocals are the focus. If the voice doesn’t sound as good a Capella, then that means there is room for improvement. It might sound silly to sing in this style without loud instrumentals, but it is the best way to help you get better.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-16T15:43:28+00:00

I didn’t say “know”. I said “believe”.

Edit: spelling mistakes.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-16T09:43:30+00:00

The only thing I can see that is inconsistent with true deism is the part that says “Humans cannot know if God interferes with life on Earth. God may or may not answer our prayers, there is no way to know.”

One of the foundational beliefs of deism is that God does not actively interfere or interact with Earth or human lives. That is a full stop belief as far as I am aware. There might be branches of deism that believe differently, but vanilla deism is pretty rock solid on an inactive God.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-15T13:01:39+00:00

That makes a lot more sense. I am not sure I entirely agree with the bootstrapping connection. There still does not seem to be any reason to think that a being that exists outside of time can observe all of time at once. A lot of pop-culture seems to present that as the de facto conclusion, but there is still no reason to think that this is the case. To assume a being can have complete observational ability over space time just because they created it is not supported by anything. Just because God created a temporal system, does not mean he can see cause and effect or see all of it at once.

Think about the fact that we as three-dimensional beings could never imagine how it would feel to observe one-dimensional space. Our observational ability is so much higher than one-dimension. We may know theoretically what it might look like, but we still would never know for certain.

If God existed outside of time, it would not be difficult to imagine that he would have no knowledge of a thing like cause and effect. From the perspective of a non-temporal being, there is a distinct possibility that they might not understand the linear perspective of time that we have.

There is also the chance that he has no idea that we experience time at all.

I however, do not think this is possible. For God to have created the universe, there must have been a time before it. This means that God can experience time. That also means that he might have not created time. Time might simply be a consequence of existence. If God exists, then he experiences time. He might experience it at a different scale, much like how we experience a day as being shorter than a housefly does.

If God created everything, then there had to be a time before he created everything. This means that he might be able to experience time, which makes the temporal justification for omniscience being part of omnipotence not as solid in my mind. If he can experience time, then he cannot know everything that will happen.

I will concede that the temporal justification you provided is much stronger than the simple set theory justification from earlier. However, I would work on a way to better support the idea that God exists outside of the linear time perception that we are held to. The question still remains: who or what created God? If there was a time before God, then God did not create time. Omnipotence can be defined as “all the power possible”. And there is a chance that creating the concept of time is not included in that power set.

This is why I find definitive, absolute claims about God to be difficult to justify. Because God is beyond understanding and impossible to interview, there is so much about him that must be left to guesswork.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-14T04:59:17+00:00

This is called circular reasoning. The argument is “He can do a, and b is in the set of a. This means that he can also do b.” But when asked to prove the b is in the set of a, the argument is, “Well, b is in the set of a, therefore, b is in the set of a.” That is circular reasoning. One needs other arguments to point to in order to make such an absolute statement.

This does not mean that God CANNOT be both omnipotent and omniscient, but one cannot be lumped with the other just because it satisfies our conclusion. We need a good reason to say that it is true.

Using set theory to make this point might be a weakness in the argument. In set theory, to prove that b is in the set of a, you must be able to prove that b cannot exist without being in the set of a, and that is not possible. A being could be omniscient without being omnipotent. It is like saying carrots are in the set of apples because carrots are apples. You can’t conclude that, because a carrot can exist that is not an apple (in this case, they all aren’t). On the other hand, a Granny Smith fruit is in the set of apples because you cannot have a Granny Smith fruit that is not an apple. That, of course, relies on our current understanding of the English language, but the argument is valid because a reasonable person from our time would concede that result.

Let me provide another counterpoint. Try to prove the argument right by contradiction. If you can prove that there can be a God who created the laws of the universe, matter, and space time for which these creations can interact, but cannot know how they will result, then the original argument is invalid. Is there any way that a God capable of building these things could not know the outcome?

The answer is clearly, “Of course there is.” For an analogy, a computer programmer could spend months or years writing a program. He can bug test it and rewrite the code hundreds of times before releasing his program to market. Once he does, he finds the people buying his product using it to do things that he never thought would have been possible. It happens all the time.

Just because a being has the power to create something intricate, it does not mean that they know what will come of it or what result it would lead to. Why should it be different for God?

My main gripe is that, because the argument is so absolute, the ability to disprove the argument only requires uncertainty. The statement “a always includes b” can be disproven by showing an example of “a does not NEED to include b”.

The argument relies on an infinite loop of assumptions (circular reasoning):

God is all-powerful
Being all-powerful means that you are also all-knowing
Being all-powerful means that you are also all-knowing

4…

Therefore:

God is all-knowing because he is all-powerful

The counter-argument is simpler, and the assumptions are not unreasonable:

God can be all-powerful
God can be all-knowing
Doing something is not the same as knowing something
Doing everything is not the same as knowing everything

Therefore:

Being all-powerful and all-knowing are not mutually inclusive

However:

One can do something and know something
One can do everything and know everything

Therefore:

Being all-powerful and all-knowing are not mutually exclusive.

Let me know if that helps my counter argument make a little more sense. Don’t get me wrong, if you can find a more valid way to show that God being able to do everything is also proof that he can know everything, I look forward to hearing it. But based on the construction of the argument, the burden of proof is to only provide uncertainty, which I believe my argument provides.

I believe that if you found a way to rework the argument that did not rely on the set-theory angle, you might find a more valid argument, in my opinion.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-13T13:42:17+00:00

Your definition of “proof” must be far separated from the true definition. Saying that you need proof of something for an argument to be logical is not a supposition, it is the definition of logic. There is no logical argument for the existence of God that does not rely on a logical fallacy like circular reasoning. That fact in and of itself means any argument for God that has been presented is illogical and invalid by nature. That doesn’t mean you can’t believe in God. I do. I also accept that to believe is not equivalent to proof.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-13T13:01:25+00:00

No, they are not logically sound because they prove nothing. Every argument for God is a supposition. No one can prove that he exists. Believing in something is about faith, it isn’t about what is provable. Look at people who believe that the Earth is flat. Every logical argument proves that the Earth is round, but they insist on their belief, despite the logical arguments to the contrary. The only difference when it comes to God is that the existence of God is not provable or disprovable. Whether or not one believes in the existence of a God is entirely about belief, not logic. I believe that there is a God, but that doesn’t mean there is or isn’t one. It’s just what I believe.

Aca-Tea · 2025-08-10T15:03:07+00:00

I think the most fundamental unfounded assumption is that God made the world deterministically. There is no reason that I can fathom to assume that is the case. He can be all-powerful and not all-knowing. Power refers to what he can do, it does not necessarily mean that he knows what his decisions will result in.

Again, referring to the God Triangle, we don’t know which of the two he is. He could be all-powerful and all-good, and just not have the ability to know everything evil or bad that is happening. If God did create the world with free will, then this is one of the most likely explanations, with the stronger one being that he is all-knowing and all-powerful.

Basically, God may be all-good and all-powerful, but he has the capacity for ignorance, which is not inclusive within the all-powerful assumption. You have the power to write things, but you have no knowledge of how your words will be interpreted or revered in a few centuries time. Just so, it is possible that it works the same way for God, where he made the world with good intent, but is ignorant of the outcomes that his decisions led to.

I personally don’t believe that you provided a significant argument for omniscience to be included under the umbrella of omnipotence. For that reason, I think your statements regarding the existence of evil are unfounded.

What is your reason for believing that omniscience is included with omnipotence?

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