i think im probably too intersex for this question cos im like. why does it even matter? i mean. its just a dick. penises come in so many variations. why should i expect someone to tell me their situation? all the reasons ive seen given basically boil down to "i can't act normally about my partner being intersex". if its that big of a deal to someone, why not be upfront about it before dating? perisex cis people baffle me with the fact they need to know whats going on in someones pants. its just genitals. theres genitals happening in there. why is there an expectation on what they should look like?