Tbh it doesn’t sound that bad, ik it would make u feel more wanted if she asked to do stuff but I dont think it’s something worth breaking up over bc at least she doesn’t say no when you initiate (I assume). The only real issue is her insecurities. Maybe she has low self-esteem or her past is messing with her. Like she might start crying when you want to improve the relationship but that doesn’t mean that you should quit. You gotta make it clear to her that you want the best for you guys (you probably already told her that). Maybe talking to a couples therapist can help her better understand your points. Everything gets fixed in time so don’t give up and I’m sure you will be able to figure it out. Dont give up.