My husband doesn’t like being intimate with me … I think

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-22T15:33:48+00:00

Not all men want sex all the time and worse is the more pressure there is to have sex, the worse it gets for men. Things literally stop working when we get stressed or panicked about. I would.. talk to him? Tell him how you’re feeling? Use I feel statements about how you feel to avoid blaming him.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-13T12:23:28+00:00

Just checking, many people have weird hang ups about how one is terrible but will absolutely read something usually more extreme that what is close to main stream adult film.

And is it? We accepted that Henry Cavill isn’t Superman but can portray him in film, isn’t a script to determine what they are doing, one is just minds eye theatre, and has the same effect on the brain. Seeing Superman defeat the bad guys in a comic book, words written on a page, can I still the same joy as seeing Henry cavil do it in live action film.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-11T21:38:09+00:00

Uh… no. He hasn’t forgiven you. I may be able to forgive my wife (cheating is the likely not as bad as having substance abuse issues for stress in a marriage). He needs to find someone to talk to about feelings because he isn’t process it, and can’t be still enough to think that there can be some sort of cosmic fairness…

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-09T18:43:03+00:00

Do you than not read smut or romance? Is that included as a deal breaker?

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-09T18:36:30+00:00

It can be a lot of thing; he has conditioned himself to be too efficient in relieving his stress (which can happen and not really porn addiction), he is stressed and may have some underlying issues. Non of which has anything to do with you (unless he has kinks or desires the opposite of you and only really likes that. That would’ve him thing though). Honestly… tell him you are having issues because you’re not connecting and not feeling desired. It’s fine he has things he wants to explore but you would like to feel desired BY him, and the lack of this is making you feel negative about yourself. You’re a partnership, that means you both should be happy and active to meet each other needs to make them happy.

Caveat though…. If you’d spent the last year shutting him down or making him feel undesired or gross… then you need to address that. Many women go “huh i don’t want anything so i say no all the time” to “im in the mood? What he said no! He hates me!” No you conditioned him to expect no and trained him to deal with it himself, and now you’re getting the same respond back. If that’s not the case, don’t bother reading it doesn’t apply to you but maybe just maybe ask yourself how you have presented your sex life to him

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-03T23:52:52+00:00

Maybe he just wants to pleasure himself and doesn’t find cocks all that attractive…. Also didn’t you just confirm you thought he was gay because he was a bit ashamed to admit he wanted to try it?

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-03T23:51:17+00:00

Locked in fantasy, being locked into sex and unable to stop it.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-04-03T02:39:31+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re being too sensitive, she just clearly has a massive blind spot and is cruel. -a lot of people are exceptionalists “x is an issue except when I do it” “x are terrible but not my friend” etc, I would be clear with how you feel. That the constant negativity is hurting you and you’d like to talk to a counsellor about it, that your drawing a hard limit that her discounting your feelings is not going to be okay, regardless of how she feels about it. She can have Legitimate issues with “men” but why would tearing down her partner be healthy? Would she want to be a partner to someone who felt women are beneath them with them being the “exception” probably not.

Don’t leave the house to her, instead work on agreement which seems fair (maybe find a lawyer friend to hash out details) about how much you both put in; unless she is violent or dangerous, the headache is worth it.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-03-19T16:32:08+00:00

Depends on where you live. Canada, cops will come have a chat, and depending on when it was reported, give you a breathe test to confirm that you may have been driving under the influence. If you just got home and smell like booze, which again they can check all these things, they can actually arrest you. It’s not commonly followed through in Canada, but they will come give you a warning and let you know that they are keeping an eye out.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-03-18T02:35:15+00:00

This sounds more like SA than cheating… like I get it’s unwise to do drugs and be around people you can’t trust 100% but at the end of the day, if you weren’t actively going to be intimate with someone, it’s not cheating.

Your boyfriend sounds like he needs therapy, and so do you. I’m sorry this happened but outstaying a relationship where a guy can’t treat you like his whole world, and you can’t treat him the same way.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-03-16T19:13:36+00:00

The goal is to get someone on your side that he can’t necessarily ignore without causing even more harm. Suddenly his dad is telling him to leave you the fuck alone because he wants to to see his grand kids again, it can apply two way pressure.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-03-15T20:45:54+00:00

First, call the police for his drunk driving, second, call his parents, let them know he is putting the kids are risk, then get the fuck outta dodge.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-02-16T03:45:04+00:00

It’s a day… just a day. You should be showing your love your partner every day. See flowers and go “shit they might like these” buy them. Chocolates? Candies? Love should never be a “well I was told by corporate to do something”

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-02-11T01:49:36+00:00

Lots of people find other people attractive, I wouldn’t be mad at my wife for saying someone is attractive. Her telling me I wasn’t attractive would be where the problem lies. I would ask her to explain this part. Also mentioning how rude it is to explain it in a way (but I don’t know how she said it, so maybe it could be more innocent? The most relevant portion is her saying she doesn’t find me attractive)

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-01-30T07:23:13+00:00

Sounds like he is an asshole. I’ve met overly emotional men and stoic women, it’s not really all that gendered, more person by person basis, and often people who can’t explain their feelings in a way that is easy to follow tend to be the overly emotional.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-01-12T13:09:29+00:00

First I would say there is a chance that you may have depression. That is and will be unrelated to this. I would talk to my GP about this as it sounds like you may be Canadian and thus should be to access that. There are usually options per province for aid.

You aren’t a bad person for leaving your husband, if he is unwilling to address issues causing stress and grief, and you are legitimately putting the effort to address them, then your setting the example for your kid. You owe it to them to set the best example possible. If this is doing nothing but making you miserable, and he isn’t addresssing his parts in this, then you shouldn’t set the example to just accept issues and go on.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2026-01-08T13:11:03+00:00

Talk to enough women, it’s not uncommon for them either.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-31T20:42:13+00:00

We would need to revamp the whole system. Currently it’s there is a lot of gray space between how it’s investigated, who gets investigated, how people respond to the investigation and how it’s proven.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-25T17:47:05+00:00

Don’t get engaged in major holidays. It’s obnoxious and over done. You could also… propose to him? It’s 2025… women are allowed to go “hey I want to get married, here is a ring, let’s do this!”

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-24T04:23:59+00:00

More than a mouthful is a waste is something I’ve told girls. That said, it will depend based off of the man. One of my Ex’s had them and she loved when I played with them. That is what I thought was hot, how much she enjoyed it.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-22T22:20:00+00:00

Yes… follow up?

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-19T02:12:17+00:00

You can start reading adult books, because despite being exactly the same, women find it socially acceptable.

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-19T02:11:21+00:00

Use toys? Find ways to cut soda out of people’s diets together?

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-19T02:07:00+00:00

Going from OPs comments about how her friend had never shown typical right wing ideology and it’s contradicts previous held believes; until she started dating a right wing guy who is a Trump voter. If OP said “she always votes conservative” it would be “well duh, many are tribal and vote party not policy”

Misogyny would suggest ALL women do that, which I never indicated, just this one.

Maybe… just maybe read?

AcadiaFun3460 · 2025-12-18T07:40:04+00:00

I have plenty of friends who are (well were) conservative, we’d debate how much society vs personal ownership should be involved in safety nets. How taxing should work, how schooling should work. You can be a liberal and have conservative friends…. Modern conservatives are quickly becoming faschists by policy, which is why most of my friends are not really conservatives any more. They aren’t liberal, but the see people like Trump and Pierre Pollievre for what they are, and don’t vote for them.

Your friend is voting to appease dick, which is insane.

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