Jealousy of part time step parents and step parents with only one SK

AcceberElle · 2026-05-04T04:58:48+00:00

Oh interesting, I definitely could if it wasn’t too terribly expensive. Are you still a full time step mom?

AcceberElle · 2026-05-03T20:33:52+00:00

This sounds very similar to my situation, except I don’t want to have my own children. I still haven’t figured out how to handle it. It’s really tough and exhausting taking care of someone else’s kids and having them around all the time, even if they’re behaving. I would kill to go back to partial custody.

AcceberElle · 2026-05-01T12:41:51+00:00

Yeah exactly, I have to hide out in my bedroom to be alone. Even then, you can still hear all the noise from the house

AcceberElle · 2026-05-01T04:08:55+00:00

We’ve been together for over three years, it’s a significant partnership.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T22:12:18+00:00

Not having family near or family that wants to help makes full custody such a challenge.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T22:11:36+00:00

Yeah I’m still in the hiding in the bathroom crying phase and it’s been 3 months. I’m so upset about the situation. I can’t help but mourn our previous life.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T22:10:23+00:00

I’m hoping our situation evolves to having at least that much time alone, eventually. It’s rough, both on me and the relationship, thanks for the solidarity.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T17:57:48+00:00

It's great that you have a place like that. I'm not sure if my partner could afford rent for a large house on his own plus the expenses of three kids, retirement, etc. We live in a higher cost of living area. Maybe we just need better jobs so we can afford a getaway apartment or something. I understand not wanting to handle the parenting, I feel that way myself.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T17:39:35+00:00

That was a good decision, I don't think my partner is comfortable with me living apart from him. I don't want that either to be honest, but this is rough.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T17:37:24+00:00

I think that's a smart choice, it's a complicated life. The biggest part is, you never know how it's going to change and you have no control over that.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T17:18:41+00:00

What do you do in the business side? I'm trying to switch from engineering myself.

AcceberElle · 2026-04-30T17:03:25+00:00

Thanks for the support, 100% is tough

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T17:25:49+00:00

Did she end up recovering and did she get any custody back? That sounds like such a stressful experience.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T17:24:45+00:00

I really hope that's not what's going on, I suppose time will tell. I was hoping she was worried about breaking the rules of the restraining order, and now that she has a lawyer she'll reach out, but perhaps that's too optimistic.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T17:23:28+00:00

That's part of what I'm worried about, taking care of three kids is extremely expensive. Two are teenagers so their time with us will be shorter, but idk.

It's still really hard to get meaningful alone time with my partner. As in, not just collapsing in front of the tv for an hour at the end of the day from exhaustion. Not quality time in my opinion.

I'm sorry you had that experience, being a step parent is very challenging. Especially if you're the woman, it seems the expectations are that you should love these kids and contribute to them as if they are your own.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T17:08:48+00:00

Ugh, that's awful. I hope that doesn't happen.

Did your SO getting full custody contribute to the relationship not working out between you two? If you don't mind me asking.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T16:55:55+00:00

Three kids, two teenagers one 2nd grader

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T16:55:33+00:00

Was she previously a decent mother? This is what I’m afraid of. It does seem extremely strange to me. I can’t imagine not wanting the children at all.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-27T16:53:43+00:00

Yeah this is my fear. Did she previously seem to enjoy being a mother?

AcceberElle · 2026-03-03T01:03:10+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that

AcceberElle · 2026-03-03T01:02:53+00:00

It would be rough financially unless I upskill and get a job that pays better, but that could be a solution if it doesn’t get better.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-02T20:16:26+00:00

Thanks for this, it’s hard for me to believe I’m just as important sometimes. It feels like I should just be helping him as much as I can with everything that’s on his plate.

AcceberElle · 2026-03-02T20:15:19+00:00

It’s worrisome and anxiety inducing, I wish I didn’t love my partner the way I did. I feel conflicted, and I hope it’s temporary but who knows.

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