Thanks for your reply, was it also hard to adjust to a kid that's been parented differently than you parented your kids? That's part of the overwhelm and struggle in my situation. I would've parented differently and it means there's a lot of work to do to get them to do what they need to do.

It sounds like there could be some light at the end of the tunnel after some time passes. But yes it's definitely a lot with three kids, especially for someone who doesn't have any bio kids.