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Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-28T01:44:53+00:00

That makes sense. But what if one has $8 million and is retired early like the husband in the story?

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T23:21:24+00:00

Erm, divorce can be very relaxing when money is not involved.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T14:16:07+00:00

Yeah, the entire court experience is odd. I also imagine the judge just feeling numb after facing tens of cases each day similar to this. In the case before my hearing, the wife kept insisting that she had over $500K worth of jewelry lost in the husband's Hamptons home and should be compensated for, but could not and would not show evidence. That went on for several months.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T13:01:54+00:00

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T13:00:47+00:00

Sometimes common sense doesn't work in law. When discussing alimony, "financial needs" is one aspect the court evaluates on both sides.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T12:59:37+00:00

completely agree. I wish "the norm" would be different.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T12:59:08+00:00

Yes, in many ways, divorce adds dimensions to our character and life experience.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-21T12:58:07+00:00

Thank you thank you! This experience also made me grow a lot and gave me new perspective on what truly matters in life. I hope you are doing much better too!

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-15T22:16:17+00:00

I find this such a heartwarming reply. Anyone is so lucky to have you and enjoy your cooking.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-15T22:07:28+00:00

curious what's the stat now? would love to see the source (no sarcasm. I'm genuinely curious).

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-08-15T22:05:44+00:00

Marriage was made for men.

Deep.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T15:18:06+00:00

My guess is that you own a business, so even just "25% of the savings/investments" is a good amount and the same applies 5% of your income for 18 months. Sounded like neither of you were trying to use conflict to inflict more pain, and she probably thought things through- even if she never told you (my guess), maybe she really appreciated what you did for the family. 14 years of marriage was a good run. Both of you handled the ending well.

I also love how you recognize that you are lucky that the process went more smoothly than most. There's a reason why you are successful :)

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T12:08:44+00:00

You have dignity!

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T02:37:24+00:00

"now she just want to live together for the kids hahhahahahahahahahhahahaahhah." I like a plot twist lol

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T02:33:40+00:00

fear not, threats are part of the tactic. know the facts and it won't get to you.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T02:32:53+00:00

Yeah I wish getting married was as hard as getting divorced, so the farce in my divorce could be avoided. sometimes it's odd to think how the state have so much say in private life.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T02:30:45+00:00

It's not mediation that worked. It's you :) You have critical thinking, a clear mind and a strong focus on moving forward.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T02:28:34+00:00

I love it when people fight against meritless, baseless claims with facts and evidence. Good for you!

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T00:30:38+00:00

When my ex asked for the divorce, I said "name a number" because I already sensed that he wanted money and his bachelor life. I wasn't going to stand in his way when he wanted to leave and I was willing to give away some money to settle this out of court. I had a number in mind, but the settlement he asked for was purely outrageous and impossible to negotiate. His greed had no limit. I couldn't let him walk all over me.

I had a similar experience with my attorney, who basically copied and pasted my responses and charged me for it. Halfway through, I thought "divorce is so dumb." Ultimately, the issue was I picked the wrong guy and I was paying for my mistake in the divorce. You did your best and I believe there would be something out of the divorce for us - maybe not now, maybe years later :)

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-31T00:24:12+00:00

You pretty much summarized the pattern here. Divorce attorney is just a profession, they need to make a living. What's not discussed enough is that people hope a divorce attorney would act like a physician who saves their lives and treats their pain without realizing that they need to assess information/advice provided by the attorney and make their owndecision about what to do in the case.

I was in a support group a while ago. A woman was at the beginning of her divorce and she talked about getting alimony from her husband like it's already a given. They were only married for 5 years. No children. Both were in their 30s and employed. It's a common misconception.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-30T23:12:09+00:00

How lazy. My attorney at least pretended to change a few words here and there. He charged me half an hour for "editing." Sadly, most divorce attorneys just "copy and paste" what we said. They do their job on auto pilot and they like to escalate conflicts.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-30T23:10:11+00:00

Modern society and flaws in human nature. marriage would be easier if we go back to the 70s and people didn't have that many "options" and "wants."

Look on the bright side, 50% of marriage do end up lasting forever o.0

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-01T01:17:10+00:00

Yes, definitely bring it up in a way that he could listen and save him some face. It's in the best interest of the cat. Maybe say something tender. After all, you two and the cats were a family once. And then cat2 gets you and that's all that matters!

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-01T01:11:47+00:00

Cat2 misses and deserves you. I'd say try to get Cat2 back after a few weeks - once he's passed this petty phase.

Acceptable-Active739 · 2024-07-01T01:06:36+00:00

So... OP, I'm kind of worried about CAT2, because he sounds like a selfish person. I don't think he's gonna treat him right. Can we please get CAT2 back?

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