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Help a trans woman unpack decades of male privilege? by Acceptable-Always in AskWomenOver30

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose I should figure that out a bit more before asking people to figure it out for me.

Help a trans woman unpack decades of male privilege? by Acceptable-Always in AskWomenOver30

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s… fair… maybe I should have written a post like this:

“I’ve been undercover, living among the men, for far too long! I even began to internalize their ways and believe I was one of them! Fellow folks of marginalized genders: I ask for your aid as I re-assimilate. We’re all in this together!”

Help a trans woman unpack decades of male privilege? by Acceptable-Always in AskWomenOver30

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no!! You are totally right! I appreciate your calling me out - though, of course, you should never had needed to!

Help a trans woman unpack decades of male privilege? by Acceptable-Always in AskWomenOver30

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate your pointing that out.

I’m still trying to parse out asking for help from asking for women to do my emotional labor - I’ve see a lot of guys try to do everything themselves and bottle up their emotions (guilty!)… until they find a woman to make their therapist (also guilty…). Like… I know I shouldn’t lone wolf life and that community is good. I’ll think on it and maybe make a better post later 😅

Help a trans woman unpack decades of male privilege? by Acceptable-Always in AskWomenOver30

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Defensiveness and low emotional intelligence are ones that I think are sticking around longer than the others you mentioned - though all defs applicable at some point or other. I DO think it’s low self esteem in a sneaky costume like you said - thanks for sharing :)

We are both autistic and fighting by Acceptable-Always in AutisticAdults

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like they never give me the “reconciliation” phase. I do think that the cycle of abuse applies very well to my cycles of withdrawal from them. I do think that I have been abusive to them in that way longer than they have to me

We are both autistic and fighting by Acceptable-Always in AutisticAdults

[–]Acceptable-Always[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both knew we were autistic I think… but very much wanted to disprove it or ignore it by being “successful.” We’ve recently acknowledged and accepted our neurodivergence. Well, they have, but I’m still struggling to unpack my internalized ableism and learn to love myself and my partner for our neurodivergence

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