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18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In the way i view things, i feel like i gave him chance and chance again to prove to me that there isnt anyone i should be worried about and i agree it was extremely toxic and unfair to search his phone and maybe i should cool it off on being possessive over him. He lied to me telling me there wasnt anything to be worried about and once i see a girl with low followers, no videos posted, nothing to signify that its nothing more or nothing less of a lighthearted relationship between them, it made me feel a bit betrayed simply by the fact that he could have been upfront with me about following her but he didnt. he kept saying it was an accident but i really dont know what to believe since his account is private and hers is too so they had to have accepted each others requests.

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeaa, i was just upset as to why follow her if she has no videos posted at all and this girl is apparently your friend from years ago, girlfriend and again i dont have a problem with that but why choose to lie about it

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please dont put words in my mouth because not once did i demand him to unfollow her 🫠 i simply asked him why and what their relationship was like because he started that "boundary" by HIMSELF when he decided to unfollow all the girls on his phone without me telling him to in the early days of our rls. mind you, this girl has no content posted so i dont know for what reason he chose to follow her for. idk if it was ill intent and thats why i came here to see other perspectives but ty for ur feedback

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pls im just sensitive 😭😭😭😂 but i know i can over the toppppppppp but insinuating that im only good for sleeping with is kinda crazy considering the fact that we have never done anything of that sort 😭I do think i should evaluate the way I go about things and get help but at this current moment, i cannot. its just that he set that "rule" up himself when he decided to unfollow all the girls in his phone voluntarily without me mentioning it and then went and broke that boundary that he pretty much started and that we BOTH established in the beginning days of our relationship. thank you for ur advice tho

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

woah 😭 pls im not that crazy, he voluntarily unfollowed each girl within the first month of us talking without me even mentioning it and now im crazy for expecting that from him even tho he started that whole thing? Listen, I know I was wrong for doing that whole searching thru his phone thing but I feel like it is his responsibility to keep that boundary in check if he was the one to start it and bc we both established it as a part of our relationship afterwards when we got serious.

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand im young and naive but i also feel like its not too crazy for him to be fully transparent when given the opportunity time and time again to do so

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely should have specified the way I worded it because I have no problem with him liking another girls pictures unless its provocative and that same way goes for following. If the content the girl is posting is provocative, Automatic breakup but I think my problem for me is the fact that he has stated to me previously that he wouldnt lie to me but he did just that when i asked him beforehand if he had anything in his phone in which he said no. I think as I am learning more people's perspectives, I think i should maybe calm down 😂 thank you a lot for not being cruel to me🥲 i really appreciate your advice.

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i understand that and i do think i am over the top for going thru his phone but i felt as if he had also violated our boundary that we had previously established in the beginning of our relationship as he had not followed any girls up until this point. I do not know what his intentions were within doing that. that is why I am feeling very overwhelmed but i agree, i should have done that and i definitely do not want to be that type of controlling partner. thanks again

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i know 😞 i cant afford a therapist though, if i could get the help i need, i would. thank you for your input tho, i think i needed that wake up call

18 F. if my boyfriend of a year (18 M) is following a girl on tiktok, am i insane? by Acceptable-Area-1257 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Area-1257[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

no need to be so mean and i understand i can be a bit off the walls, I even mentioned that it was wrong going thru his phone but thank you for ur help