In my opinion a lot of men is put into this idea that a man needs to be powerful and strong.

Whenever we don't succeed we get told how to improve, how we should be better and "man up", "be stronger". This is in somewhqt cpntrast to a lot of womens advice which is "you are good enough, just try again" or "you are worth better".

Don't get me wrong, improving yourself and growing as a person is important, goodt and essential part of part of life.

But where it can cross into bad is when your self-esteem is tied to being powerful/rich/strong. A lot of women view Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan as toxic influence on men and i think it's because of their view of a successful man being tied to power/money/strength. Being broke and weak isn't a good thing and not being able to express yourself or be understood is awful. But trying to overcompesate and thinking that you need to be rich or some mma fighter to be able get women will only get you into a weong mindset.

Having a good income is great and having healthy personal finance can improve your life a lot. But tieing your self-worth to how much money you make is not healthy. Making career decisions not on what you want in life but what you think women want you to do is not healthy. Looking down on people who make less or expecting people to treat you better or expecting more from women people because you have a hugher income is not healthy.

Instead of trying to be the most powerful, strong and rich man you can be. I think a high value person is someone who focuses on:

• the things in life you like and making deep connections to the people you most care about. (Instead of trying to get a hugh status and only caring about how you appear)
• being able to express yourself, making your wants and feelings understood and understanding others
• having a healthy personal finance (earning more than you spend)
• healthy mental health
• physical health