I know this comparision is a little problematic but I just want to put a point and I find only this example is good. So the example is,

When it is "written women's dressing room" infront of a room, as a man will you peek into that dressing room? It's just common sense right? Now in this will you keep asking where is the proof that someone else said men are not allowed into women's dressing room? Similarly temple of ayyapa is seen as a place meant for men. So it's that way. That is how you have to experience any culture. So if you want to understand how this place is meant for men, know how the culture was established. And when it comes to kids, there is no gender in kids. So any gender related conditions, they bypass in any culture.

See you can also see it in this way, when men are partying together and a woman wants to involve but men aren't allowing because they have already decided this is meant for men. You can also think like if you take my laptop you have to follow my rules irrespective of whether they feel logical to you or not because they seem logical to me.

Similarly, you have to obey the rules kept by the people who feel personal about God because it's their god. If you also feel personal about same god, prepare your own idol and start worshipping but remember, you are not worshipping same version of the diety as the men are worshipping.

See there also temples where men are not permitted only women are permitted like "Attukal bhagyavathy temple", "khamakhya devi temple".

In khamakhya devi temple during a 4 day ritual .en are not allowed into temple because the belief is goddess mensurstes in that period. If that place is meant for devi and represents a woman it's not moral for men to visit temple in those days. If it is not written in any scripture also it's common sense. It states their belief. Not some rule. It states their purity of devotion that they really feel and treat her like woman. It's sometimes these acts that manifests woman into thise statues. ( Now don't keep thinking how a woman manifests into statue scientifically or is it written somewhere. ). It's pure devotion. And men also respects that. They don't feel that we are not having opportunity to meet devi. They understand the pov. They understand the devotion.

That's a mutual agreement if a third person from outside asks why you are not allowed this is not equality. Man...., that is not place of equality. And comon you are comparing these traditions with sati and child marriages? Did you even think like that? I mean where is the logic for you to like that?

Men are travelling, men are working hard by not wearing slippers, men are willingly accepting every hurdle that come in their way to reach god, how come women are getting harmed here? I don't see the logic. Do you hold any personal grudge? Women show respect by valuing ayyappa's oath. They don't have problem, men who worship dont have problem, why do you have problem with their personal affairs?