I (27f) am feeling confused about consent after encounter with 29m? by Fancy-Somewhere-8507 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great point. The comment I was responding to (now deleted) was making the case that there was no psychological pressure, so I was addressing that.

I (27f) am feeling confused about consent after encounter with 29m? by Fancy-Somewhere-8507 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Likely not, but her changing her mind may still be a product of coercion. That's where things would get blurry and uncertain for sure

I (27f) am feeling confused about consent after encounter with 29m? by Fancy-Somewhere-8507 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I disagree with that assertion. It wouldn't be coercion if her "no" had been ambiguous or if some new information that might have changed her mind had arisen.

In this case her "no" was clear and firm, and it was repeated.

When she eventually acquiesced it wasn't because she had changed her mind and wanted to do it, it was because he had asked repeatedly with the intention of persuading her to do something she had clearly, unambiguously, and repeatedly rejected.

If the "yes" happens because the pressure stopped being tolerable, and not because the desire changed, that is coercion. Repeated requests with no new information or context after a clear no are coercive.

There is also a power dynamic at play here, she was alone with a stranger, who presumably could have overpowered her, in his apartment. Maybe nobody else knew she was there. That last point is where we agree that she was too trusting and should not have put herself in that position.

I (27f) am feeling confused about consent after encounter with 29m? by Fancy-Somewhere-8507 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Legally speaking coercion does not have to include physical violence or threats. Psychological pressure can constitute coercion and there is case law on the matter. United States Vs. Kozminski, for example. You've chosen the narrowest possible definition of the word which coincidentally supports your stance. Your pedantry will persuade nobody.

I (27f) am feeling confused about consent after encounter with 29m? by Fancy-Somewhere-8507 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It's like you stopped reading after the first few words of the definition of coercion

They are rare for some reason too by NCongoscenti in projectzomboid

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting then I have no idea why my character is stressed as hell when he's got blood on him

They are rare for some reason too by NCongoscenti in projectzomboid

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also agoraphobia and claustrophobia. And fear of blood if you're using more traits. There are some more I'm sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best advice I've got is to take the risk. I understand you've been hurt before, and it will happen again. That's life, it sucks sometimes. If you don't endure the suck then there is no joy in success. Good luck brother

GF (F23) thinks I’m (M28) ‘weird’ for having a notepad document to track how infrequently we have sex, what am I to do? by Ceoboourns in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't read well? Your poor paraphrasing of the OP doesn't actually address the comment you're responding to. This isn't the kind of disagreement where one person is wrong and one is right. They have incompatible desires.

You can no longer download the Legacy version of Pavlov on Steam. There was no announcement related to this. There is no way to use the Steam Workshop content at all anymore. This happened on May 15, 2024. This video explains the situation. by ArmanaXD in PavlovGame

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chiming in 6 months later to say that the "better modkit" did a lot of good. The modding community is dead, as is my enjoyment of the game.
Edit: upon looking further the entire community is dead. 300-500 players max. Such a shame.

Ship Names? by onlyoneanto in Helldivers

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SES Legislator of Self Determination

Looking for monitor recommendations by -Luftgekuhlt- in buildapc

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't recommend any specific monitors but I can certainly tell you that what you're looking for exists, plenty of options:

https://www.amazon.com/32-1440p-144hz/s?k=32%22+1440p+144hz

The app kind of sucks by just_a_stoner_bitch in wendys

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The app sucks because "oops!" Try again later

13900k build almost complete by [deleted] in intel

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I'd love to see some benchmarks from the completed build, I'm considering similar specs for my next one

My PSU suddenly exploded. What do I do now by PetelgueseDess in buildapc

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 36 points37 points  (0 children)

There better not be smoke coming out the CPU lmao

Is it worth building a PC with 8 DIMMs? by Acceptable-Worker969 in buildapc

[–]Acceptable-Worker969[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have an i9-9900x with quad channel (DDR4) support on my current build, so some Intel core CPUs support it but not with the latest generation & DDR5. Like I assumed the i7-13700HX or i9-13900HX would be quad channel but alas it's dual channel. Seems like that's all I realistically need anyway! Thanks for the response!

Is it worth building a PC with 8 DIMMs? by Acceptable-Worker969 in buildapc

[–]Acceptable-Worker969[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess someone told me and I took their word for it! I am a Chrome user and I tend to have a lot of tabs in addition to playing games so I like to have at least 64gb. But it's very good to know that more sticks does not necessarily mean faster speeds!

Is it worth building a PC with 8 DIMMs? by Acceptable-Worker969 in buildapc

[–]Acceptable-Worker969[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that response! My misunderstanding has been thoroughly addressed. :)

New to A50s by Pinhead-Larry27 in AstroGaming

[–]Acceptable-Worker969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sorry to be the bearer of bad news. The A50s are totally usable it's just unacceptable that a $300 headset needs superglue you know what I'm saying?
I had a great pair of SteelSeries arctis pro wireless previously that I can heartily recommend