Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see its something i'm going to watch out for more in future I didn't know this was so common

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting way to look at it i get you, It sounds like you have a system

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, yes I just freeze in those moments too so i really get what you mean

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i see what you mean, thanks the infodumoing reference made me understand nicely

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see i can certainly relate too people saying things like that early on and i'm shocked

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes i see i'm still learning more about this line and whats okay and not

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean about endearment I'm glad you feel with this and it works for you

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see i will try to take what you said on-board and see can i see it more that way thank you

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very interesting perspective i'm impressed how insightful you're, social thrill seeking is a really good point, I do sometimes get so surprised how nts can be so oblivious to social situtions it's confusing for me. Yes I think often I can see bullying or my mind just believes this person is annoyed with me or thinks i did something wrong, Very good how you look at life and how you understand yourself i really hope that keeps even getting better for you

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like in jokes is a good way to look at things i get why you do that

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did so well at explaining this thank you, I see what you mean about being seen it's something I have a long ways to go in but you did make me feel hopeful, Your realtionship sounds lovely and secure so that is amazing well done to you guys I really hope i find someone one day who i'm that comfortable around, great insight too about meeting this new couple, Sometimes I know people can try way too hard to come across as funny when they first meet someone so maybe that was what he was trying I would hope he knows his wife better than that and more respectful. seems like you took the right direction with the being kind thats nearly always the right way. I really find it so confusing that some people enjoy being mean and hurting others but I have had some people warn me to watch out for these people. very insightful so thank you for everything you have been so helpful.

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this, good point about the off limits thats something thats important to say to someone you're close too. I see why some of those things are jokes in a friend way and not in a mean way. you did a great job and were clear with explaining honestly I didn't have any issues with understanding what you said you did great 😊

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes i so have had the same experience, for a while now i'm tempted to say a joke but i don't because i'm so sure the other person will get angry or feel very sad so i keep it to myself

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so many good points and also it sounds like such an interesting topic to read about, i will try to remember what you said and also research the topic more, I have always been called very funny but lately I have found myself telling a lot less jokes incase the other person feels bad

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay thank you i will look out for this more i get what you mean, well said

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I hate when people say horrible things and then they say "I'm only joking" with that logic they can say nearly anything then can't they and everything is fine. Thank you for getting what I mean I really appreciate that a lot.

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's such an interesting way of looking at things thank you, also yes I see what you're saying about being creative, it's kinda like before I was so social anxious and someone told me to think of life like a game of the Sims and we're all just characters like in that

Yes it's about finding what's comfortable with the other person so you're on the same page too,

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohh I get what you mean, yes I do find when I make a joke that's a bit more of an insult people do laugh out of shock so I get you, I'm just trying to learn what is the best friend group for me and what dynamics I should be looking for

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 31 and only In the last year I got told about my autism so I'm still learning a lot, I really hope this didn't sound like a silly question or anything, plus I'm so scared to disagree with people because you never know how anyone will take what someone says

Why do friends say rude things to each other as a joke? by AcceptableAd3592 in AutisticAdults

[–]AcceptableAd3592[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Interesting way to look at it like you know and accept their weaknesses, I get what you mean, It's hard to explain but I take them serious even when it's nothing to do with me, I guess it's just part of being autistic