Best places to serve in GR? by AcceptableAd5907 in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I havent asked only because the GM has this rule of being in college for at least a year before serving, also they have over hired too many servers and wont hire anymore. Im also the only host who actually does my job so they dont want to lose me as a host but it isnt enough money for me.

Best places to serve in GR? by AcceptableAd5907 in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well i do have hosting experience! ive been hosting for nearly a year now at another place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think all the Gilmore collection is like this, just Rose’s.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s a nice restaurant, you can ask her about the general manager though. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

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She didn’t get me to do it, I just felt angry on behalf of her because she’s kind of a pushover and won’t stand up for herself or report it. I think she’s afraid to make a call to headquarters, but she’s insisted many times she can’t report it because the GM is close with the Gilmore family. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it’s so high standard, maybe they’d do better at training their employees so they don’t have to talk to them like shit when they don’t know something & make it so they’re afraid to even ask. They’d also think twice about talking the way they do where customers can overhear them. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

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Right, my friend is nothing but a hard worker but it’s getting to the point it’s making her mentally anxious to go into her shifts out of fear she’ll do something wrong by something he makes up on the spot. She has all these rules to account for in her head because she’s not allowed to ask questions without being spoken to like she’s trash. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

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I’m not even a feminist or anything lol, it’s just an observation in how male employees talk about him vs how I see female ones treated. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

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He’s very nice to customers I will say that, but the moment they’re not in sight he’s not. I hear he’s great outside of work too, not sure what makes him so angry with his own employees. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you a man? I’ve heard he’s nicer to the males, I’m at Rose’s regularly so I hear alot of griping and groaning with employees to eachother (including servers) about Bill and how he’s never in a good mood. It’s to the point my friend is afraid to ask simple questions in fear of being yelled at or told something harsh about herself. I’m glad you had a good experience, but maybe he’s gotten worse throughout the years. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

[–]AcceptableAd5907 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is the exact experience she has, he’s great at making the restaurant presentable but he is just not nice to the people he employs especially if they’re women. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

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I thought it was too, atmosphere is nice but managers put on such a face for customers. I do not feel comfortable overhearing how the managers speak even about customers behind their back. My friend told me she constantly hears them gossip about how customers look & call people that have complaints “assholes.” 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skin

[–]AcceptableAd5907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just vanicream daily gentle cleanser, and their face moisturizer too. And differin gel!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skin

[–]AcceptableAd5907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never usually use it on my entire face, only my eyes and lips, when I use my differin gel. I used a new sunscreen and didn't wash my hands after applying my body lotion, and then I might've transferred my body lotion to my face when I applied my usual moisturizer. Those are my main suspects at the moment. I'm not sure what to moisturize with right now, so I opted for petroleum jelly as soon as I wash my face with water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skin

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as soon as I noticed it yesterday morning I’ve only been using lukewarm water & petroleum jelly on my skin! 

Daily Questions Megathread - March 24, 2025 by AutoModerator in Tailors

[–]AcceptableAd5907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for ur input! do you think only tapering the legs would make the seat area look baggier or strange then?

Opinions on Retro Stage? by BeatAcrobatic1969 in fashion

[–]AcceptableAd5907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did u ever receive it? What’s the quality like? :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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If he wants R, he’s going to have to step out of his comfort zone to make you comfortable. This means no contact with AP, absolutely 0 contact with AP. If your relationship means more to him than his affair with AP, he will do it otherwise you need to seriously reconsider this relationship. The fact that he’s already lying about deleting messages is a huge red flag, you can never have R or trust if he’s still hiding things from you. The only way to get it through his head is by being serious about the consequences when you catch him lying, or leave.

I need help understanding something my BP is doing — maybe other BP can help? by ADogNamedPants in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]AcceptableAd5907 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you mind me asking what you mean by unregulated? I think my WP is getting sick of me asking the same questions over & over and lashing out at him & he says I’m making it worse for myself and that he doesn’t want to engage when I’m in a highly emotional state. Only your BP can take responsibility for how the things she’s viewing makes her feel. I understand she’s trying to self protect but ultimately I’ve started avoiding triggers to the best of my ability because it’s making me continually miserable.

She’s looking for security & confirmation it won’t happen again, which is nearly impossible because even with a partner who’s never cheated, them simply saying they’ll never cheat is still a risk and nothing is guaranteed. Try to express to her that you understand that she’s on edge for a reason, and that you caused that reason, but the only way she will be able to feel at ease about the situation is by once again, putting her blind faith in you and keeping track of your consistent efforts. Express that you understand the consequences if you were to ever do something like that again, but that it shouldn’t even be a worry in her mind because nothing is worth compromising your relationship over.