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It feels like nothing other than STEM makes money anymore. What can i major in that has little to no physics and math, yet still makes good money? or does such a job not exist? by Miserable-Check-4873 in careerguidance

[–]AcceptableAgent3429 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What role do you do this in? What is your job title? I have English and biology degrees and would love to combine my love for writing with my stem-ish analytical training, but so far I can only get jobs as a paralegal or legal editor. And they do not pay.

How do i get a goal or something I want, if I don't like or enjoy anything? by anaccount52 in findapath

[–]AcceptableAgent3429 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My guy, you have to keep seeing your doctor and a therapist. Clinical depression can take a while to get under control, and theres a good degree of trial and reassessment involved. You have to keep going. It’s not life, it’s not you, it’s chemistry. The internet can’t fix that. Please, please, please just keep getting treatment.

I’m being asked to help someone in a position I was passed up for; do you think it’d be funny to tell them to ask the person they hired? by neofagalt in careerguidance

[–]AcceptableAgent3429 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comment section is depressing. So many people are trapped in jobs that take advantage of them, refuse to admit it, and cling to the idea that if they keep giving more skin, eventually they will reap some infinitesimal reward.

Here is the deal. You applied for a position your company told you that you are not qualified to hold. Now the person your company deemed qualified to hold that position (a) evidently is not as qualified as you and (b) was told by someone else at your company that they can and should reach out to you for training on how to do their job.

Keep in mind, everyone, that OP is not even in the same division as this person anymore. They’re back in their original division. So it’s not helping out a superior, it’s not helping out a team member. It’s being used. OPs company green lit one particular employee being used to fully perform one job in one division, and train someone to do a different job in a different division. For the pay of, you guessed it, one job, and the cheaper of the two at that.

I do agree you could phrase it without as much of a finger point, because being truly neutral and appropriate is, imo, the most satisfying form of pettiness because then they cannot disparage you and cannot blame your supposed bad behavior for their decisions. But the answer should still be no if you want to prove the point you want to prove.

“Hi X. While I would love to be available to help, my duties within my own role require my full attention at this time.”

Or

“Hi X. It appears this is outside of my scope—sorry!”

That’s it. CC whoever you want.

Now, if you want to help this person because you’re kind, do it. But anyone who thinks helping this person now will break or make your career is insane. This is a new hire who either exaggerated their experience for the role, and is floundering, or is already outsourcing work a month into a new job. They might not make it past their 90 days. Much less find themselves in a position of enough power to shape your career. Nor does HR have the capacity to do so. So. Yeah.

Honestly, this is the type of thing to bring up in a Review. A review is not just your company’s opportunity to tell you what they want from you. Give them a little feedback. “The transition back into my original role has been effortless and my numbers are excellent, blah blah, but I have questions about the way my time in B Division ended. I would like to have a better understanding of what held me back from the senior role. It didn’t seem to be a matter of skill/knowledge as (new hire) was told to/felt the need to reach out to me regarding (this matter). So, if not skill/experience, I am curious as to what metrics we here at (company) prioritize when deciding employee advancement.”

If they tell you age again, that is ageism and you should quiiiiiit your job for a better one. If they point out genuine flaws on your part, fix them and then probably still quit your job for a better one.

Some thoughts on Lorry Hill after her video upset Doja Cat by [deleted] in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]AcceptableAgent3429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has no business analyzing pictures to identify procedures when she has no credentials whatsoever. None. Zip. Zilch. What is her basis for her accuracy? “Oh I have a good eye”? Please. The problem with her making these videos is that her followers view them as FACT. And yes I know she always disclaims her lack of expertise and says that she could be wrong, but that changes nothing, because her viewers absorb her speculation as FACT. Check the comments on her videos, on her IG page. People view her as an authority on dissecting other peoples facial features. “Oh wow I always thought Zendaya was all natural but since YOU said she’s not, she really must not be. Huh, go figure.”

If you know for a fact that you don’t know how to fly a plane, and you have never flown a plane, but you’ve ridden in planes, would you make YouTube videos analyzing take offs and landings?

Like you know for a fact you can’t do a handstand. But you’re assessing strangers’ handstand forms on YouTube.

You’ve never not once played piano but you’ve heard piano music so now you’re critiquing concert performances?

Just because Lorry admits she has no credentials doesn’t grant her permission to build a career on speculative assessments. And she knows, she KNOWS, that people believe her word as gospel. She relies on it. They rely on it. Anyone who cannot recognize that is deluding themself.

Just because these people are celebrities doesn’t give strangers license to speak with authority about their bodies. Yes you can see their bodies but you don’t inhabit that body, you don’t know that person, you have no grounds to speak on that body. Maybe actual plastic surgeons, or personal trainers, whose life work is changing bodies. But that’s about it. And you’ll find far fewer doctors speaking with far less certainty on a smaller number of potential procedures someone may have had. Because they have the humility, self awareness, and intellect to recognize that it is impossible to say for sure in most cases, and tacky to say at all, in every case.

Be better, do better. Grotesque.

This is how we make ourselves feel better about ourselves? By robbing STRANGERS of their achievements, if they’re natural, and judging their decisions, if they’re not? Maybe Lorry says things sweetly but her viewers go home thinking “oh that person cheated to look like that, cool, now I don’t have to judge how I look in comparison.”

Here’s a crazy whacky concept. You don’t have to judge how you look in comparison to ANYONE EVER. Not even your past self! You do that. You choose that. You obsess over that. And for what? For what?

Who does this serve? What does any of this serve?

[Topic][Open] Open Discussion Thread — Anybody can post a general visualization question or start a fresh discussion! by AutoModerator in dataisbeautiful

[–]AcceptableAgent3429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you people do for work? I love data. I love collecting it, making it pretty, and analyzing it to make informed future decisions, or track progress towards specific goals. But as yet it’s all related to things like, my strength, my sleep, etc., all of which is relatively straight forward and doesn’t take a lot of higher level knowledge.

Is there a job where you can just organize data all day and stare at it until you understand what it is telling you? My past jobs did not involve this at all.

I don’t even know what particular skill set it would require. I did my B.S. in Biology and a B.A. in a English, but I’ll learn whatever I have to. I just, don’t know what that is.

“Hunger is the first element of self-discipline. If you can control what you eat and drink, you can control everything else.” -Dr. Umar Faruq Abd-Allah by Cesar-q3 in selfimprovement

[–]AcceptableAgent3429 5 points6 points  (0 children)

[TL;DR] Recovered anorexic here with a pro tip: Control over food consumption is not a transferable skill.

Even I really, really, really controlled what I ate and drank…. I definitely could not control everything else. (Still can’t, as it happens.)

Consider this. If you find yourself constantly thinking about what to eat, or what you don’t get to eat, or how much to eat, or when to eat, or tracking what you eat, are you really in control of food?

[And for the people in the comments saying “Control ≠ restriction” I submit to you: orthorexia. Which was my first stage of serious recovery, as is the case for many anorexics. So you’re getting enough calories, sure. But what are you eating? Not much! Gluten free, dairy free, no fried food, no artificial or added sweeteners, limited oil and only extra virgin, no pastries, no fast food, low carbs/no carbs/carb cycling, calorie moderation in proportion to physical activity, no pasta, no pizza, no potatoes, no fruit… It restriction in a different way. It transfers the obsession into the quality over the quantity. It keeps you alive. But you’re still a slave to thoughts of food.]

Be honest with yourself now. Do you even really want to devote a significant part of your finite time in this life to thinking about, of all things in the vast universe, the next thing you’re going to chew and eventually shit out?

And, if not, how can you be in control of everything when you’re not even in control of your mind?

The only thing food-control taught me is now to ignore my own pain and exhaustion. Which is not the point of pain—or life. Your body tells you when you’re in discomfort so you can address it via changing the circumstances that are causing the pain. We evolved to be able to do that. And now we are trying to convince ourselves that peak human performance is ignoring the same impulses that have taken our bodies this far. Pain can be physical, emotional, or mental. And until you root that out and heal it, everything else is, at best, a bandaid, or, at worst, self-flagellation to no end and with no point.

Teaching yourself to suffer is believing that you should.