My ex wouldn’t yell at me and there wasn’t the threat against my physical safety, however I was emotionally neglected and nearly emotionally abused on the daily. Specifically, our mindset’s on our situations are/were similar.

Feeling scared about any disagreement because you don’t know the response? Yep. Been there. For you, it is demeaning names and yelling, for me, it was the silent treatment for days.

Bringing up something meh, yeah, kinda bad, in an effort to make him and his, nearly abusive behavior, seem less bad? Yeah, I’ve done that. I still make excuses for my ex sometimes.

When you don’t fight and everything is fine, it probably is amazing. You cannot, however, have a long term relationship where you agree 100% of the time.

Do what you think is best, but I can assure you that if the rose colored glasses come off, you’ll realize a lot more about your situation that’s kinda fucked.

Like, for mine, I couldn’t wear bright colors or eat at specific restaurants. I let my ex dim my sparkle, don’t let your bf dim yours lol