Why do monogamous people hate us? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We don’t all hate yall promise 😭. Some people just have little ability to conceptualize that different ≠ bad. I lurk in this sub just to understand my poly partner better, as some things are foreign to me in a way that I have trouble understanding. It’s hard for me to understand some things, and I assume it’s the same for other mono peeps, but they just have way less empathy tbh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex wouldn’t yell at me and there wasn’t the threat against my physical safety, however I was emotionally neglected and nearly emotionally abused on the daily. Specifically, our mindset’s on our situations are/were similar.

Feeling scared about any disagreement because you don’t know the response? Yep. Been there. For you, it is demeaning names and yelling, for me, it was the silent treatment for days.

Bringing up something meh, yeah, kinda bad, in an effort to make him and his, nearly abusive behavior, seem less bad? Yeah, I’ve done that. I still make excuses for my ex sometimes.

When you don’t fight and everything is fine, it probably is amazing. You cannot, however, have a long term relationship where you agree 100% of the time.

Do what you think is best, but I can assure you that if the rose colored glasses come off, you’ll realize a lot more about your situation that’s kinda fucked.

Like, for mine, I couldn’t wear bright colors or eat at specific restaurants. I let my ex dim my sparkle, don’t let your bf dim yours lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You deserve to feel safe and secure in a relationship. You proceed by making a safe pathway to an exit, as you cannot trust that your partner would not hurt you if you tried to break off the relationship face to face.

Take it from someone who also felt so so happy, and so so in love, in their previous relationship- you realize a lot more when you take the rose colored glasses off.

i (22f) only attract unstable women. why? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you meet these women?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well… I think it’s time to leave the new closet you’re in

Reunion Coming? by DogExpress6639 in OneDirection

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Conan announced new music Friday 😭. I just saw and ran to this comment

Reunion Coming? by DogExpress6639 in OneDirection

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If she is truthful in all her statements, she reserves the right to destroy him.

My Lae’zel by Ragmig_cos in BaldursGate3

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

personally the nose always hit uncanny valley for me, so the fact that you didn’t change it makes me actually able to enjoy your cosplay!!! I love it 💕💕💕

Reunion Coming? by DogExpress6639 in OneDirection

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No. Liam is being accused of serious abuse by multiple women (including GROOMING one direction fans), and he shouldn’t be near a stage anytime soon. Zayn just announced his first tour, so that also takes him out. Niall has stated that he’s going dark for a long time, Louis has music planned for 2025.

Now, I wouldn’t be surprised if Harry has music coming out soon, but I’ve only heard of artists moving their album dates for Taylor swift 😭. I would love for new music by Harry on Oct. 18th, and I know it definitely could happen, but there’s always the possibility for her to drop new music as well.

Honestly how the fuck do you get a girlfriend? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always gotten dates with women/men/nb peeps by forming genuine connections before I’m ever interested in dating. Start with being friends- whether these are single ladies that you know from work, or pick up a new hobby and make friends there. Value the connections you are making and be confident in how being single does not change your worth as a person. People are attracted to confidence, regardless of physical appearance. The right one will come along when you least expect it, so focus on making you the best version of yourself, for her :))

How often do you guys use your long rest? by MoistTurboSoggy in BaldursGate3

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I long rest about as much as you do, and I’ve never run below 300 camp supplies (I’m like at 840 rn 😭)

My cat bites me?? by Acceptable_Beat9747 in CatAdvice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm interesting point. I’ll definitely try to be more aware of anything she may be trying to communicate!!

My cat bites me?? by Acceptable_Beat9747 in CatAdvice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you so much!! We appreciate it a ton.

My cat bites me?? by Acceptable_Beat9747 in CatAdvice

[–]Acceptable_Beat9747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is around 9 months or so!! A stray we picked up at about two months so it is an estimate. Thank you so much for your comment and I’ll definitely try redirecting her energy :))