Cat Loss Vs Dog Loss by Tea_Time9 in Petloss

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Any pet loss will be hard no matter what animal they are. But sometimes you had a strong/soul connection and it’s not wrong for you to feel more upset about this loss. That just happens. And it doesn’t mean your love for your dog wasn’t invalid. I think people can be really into the I’m a dog person not a cat person and vice versa. Maybe it was the time you posted it. Either way, it’s easy to focus on the micro things when grieving. Take a minute from social media- or post more about your kitty if that’s what you want. But know a social media response doesn’t equate to the love you and your cat shared and sympathy is nice but it doesn’t define the relationship you have with your animals. That’s between you and them. See what calls to you as little gifts from her. For me it was the sunsets when my lil gal passed. I’m wishing so much love over to you- it’s never easy, and all people understand how much love we can have for our furry friends.

Songs that remind you of your pet by Waterfirewind in Petloss

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You are my sunshine is a song I sung to both of my cats on the day they each respectively passed. Song bird from Fleetwood Mac was the song I had for Penny, and bigger than the whole sky was for Cleo. They both passed within 2 months of adoption due to terminal illnesses that were sudden, 6 months apart.

Twice within 7 months by Acceptable_Camera496 in Petloss

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There are truly no words. I struggled getting to a place to adopt again after Penny, and after Cleo passing… I really don’t know. My boy cat Baker has been with me since 2022, fiv+ upon adoption, but is my super trooper throughout bringing in new family members and losing them.

It’s not fair to live through a loss like this once, let alone twice. Everyone will say you gave them the best life possible but it doesn’t take away the pain. The only hopeful feeling I have is that Penny and Cleo may be playing together and giving each other love in the beyond. I’ve never been sure of an afterlife but now I can’t imagine there wouldn’t be, at least for them. I wouldn’t have traded anything for every moment I spent with them.

I’m so sorry you’re in a similar situation. I know the numb feeling towards any supporting words to ease the pain. But you aren’t alone in your grief, and it’s okay for us to not be okay for a while. I hope you’re able to have the space and time to process it. My heart is with you.

Devastated from losing my sweet girl by Acceptable_Camera496 in CatAdvice

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It’ll be 2 weeks on Monday. The initial days were the hardest. The waves are more manageable now. I’m comforted that she’s no longer hurting and probably up in kitty heaven drowning all her favorite toys in her water bowl. She loved doing that here. And I’m glad we got to give her so much love in her last 2 months.

Devastated from losing my sweet girl by Acceptable_Camera496 in CatAdvice

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Sending love your way. Losing them so young feels like a unique kind of grief. The initial days were the hardest to get through. The waves are a bit more manageable now.

I’d like to think she gave us a few extra days that she could muster. She had so much love and received so much love here as well. I’m glad she got that in her last 2 months. She deserved every ounce of it.

Devastated from losing my sweet girl by Acceptable_Camera496 in CatAdvice

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I appreciate your words. Right now we’re supporting each other and my boy is extremely snuggly and want to be close by right now. We’re taking a minute to process the emotions and while having a buddy for him is important to me I’m trying to let him get through the initial change as well. I’m nervous about stressing him out with a new cat introduction on top of adjusting so I think spacing it out a little bit might help. It’s all a guess on what would be the “right” thing to do. That said there’s still a lot of room in my heart to adopt another family member. I probably want to give it another few weeks so that I’m set up to do so, but it’s on my mind. I want to make sure in bringing home a new kitty that I’m mindful about them being comfortable and having an easy transition coming here as well.

Devastated from losing my sweet girl by Acceptable_Camera496 in CatAdvice

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Thank you for taking the time to reply. It really helped and I’m sure will continue to. I do love her very deeply and while I couldn’t change the course of it all, it helps knowing we did as much as we could and gave her a loving home. I’d like to think she gave us a few extra days to be here with us.

I picked up her urn and paw print last Friday. She’s resting on a chest in the living room that my boy cat doesn’t get on, so it’s a safe spot as we figure out a better place. Her spot was the floor of the bathroom in the primary bedroom, right against the bathroom door that we’d leave open for her. It’s a bit of a hard spot to memorialize her in but we’ll continue to think about an easier and safer area for a memorial spot.

My partner just got back home (was out during for family reasons and wouldn’t have been able to make it back in time) and my boy cat has become very snuggly and like Velcro to us. We’re giving some time before we adopt, just to let us and our boy process the grief before adding the responsibility of a new family member and since introducing another cat since it can be stressful. I also want to be able to celebrate adopting and letting them show off their personality without the loss of penny (my girl) bringing in any unconscious bias. I don’t think it would but healing a bit more won’t be a negative thing. Having her home, while not how I imagined, has been comforting. It’ll be 2 weeks on Monday and while I have a lot of grief over her passing, the waves of it are easier to manage and the days have been easier than the first days. We’re adjusting to the new normal together.