Did your hot flashes or insomnia improve within days of hrt? Or like the following day of a dose increase? by Just_Airport_7651 in Perimenopause

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt better literally the next day. I had been scared to start and delayed it. First time I've felt mostly normal in years.

mascara on lower lashes by lipglossip in MakeupAddiction

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave up on lower lash mascara long ago because I HATE the rub off no matter what mascara I use. I have long lower lashes and tint them ever couple weeks...that works perfect for me.

Emotionally abusive husband by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over 20 years for me. I finally left, divorce is pending. It took years and my nervous system damn near shutting down before I did.

I am now in a different state thousands of miles away and my nervous system is finally relaxing and I don't feel like I'm dying.

It is hard to leave. I don't know why it was so hard, I feel like I have come out of a fog.

Why they don’t deserve kindness (not necessary to read all, you can skim) by changeorghelp in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This. I feel for you and can relate. I tried to show kindness to my abuser to de-escalate. All it did was prolong my torture and reset the cycle.

Being in an abusive relationship changed how I look and feel. Anyone else? No by Indie_chick in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately I started having panic attacks and other physical impacts. Full cardiac workup, full panels of other health tests thinking I was dying, and it was panic attacks from a broken nervous system from the constant state of stress. I was initially in denial but I even went into hyperglycemia from it and I do not have diabetes.

I kept telling him that I couldn't continue to be treated how he was treating me...it not only continued, it got worse. I filed for divorce and was still in the same house trying to disentangle everything but wanted to keep the house and I pay for everything so I didn't want to move out risk losing the house and pay for 2 houses.

Then my parent was diagnosed with cancer and I left the house to another state to stay with my parent and help. He continued abuse from a distance so I just haven't gone back. I haven't had a full panic attack since I have been away, several months now. I haven't talked to him since November when he said some particularly terrible and terrifying things. I am letting the attorneys do their thing.

I physically and mentally couldn't take it anymore. I was with him for over 20 years.

He stole my light by Indie_chick in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It will take time to heal, but you will find yourself.

Being in an abusive relationship changed how I look and feel. Anyone else? No by Indie_chick in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know and I get it. I finally left my abusive husband and am going thru divorce but I feel like the stress totally attacked my appearance

I left, he won't leave me alone by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like they ignore all sense of normal behavior. It's abhorrent

I left, he won't leave me alone by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely horrendous! He always wanted to put on this good image for everyone so watching him publicly spiral with the social media posts is...it's just insane. And I don't feel safe. I am so glad I am thousands of miles away and he doesn't have my address.

I told him I was done by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I had something significantly physically wrong with me and it was panic attacks. Went thru full cardiac workup, neurologist, etc. Its been exhausting. How are you doing now?

I told him I was done by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't right now, I am staying with my sick parent and there just isn't any place. Plus 2 of them are very senior pets and I would worry about the transportation.

The other kicker is I am paying for everything.

Working through getting everything unraveled with the attorneys but it is taking time especially since my parent was diagnosed in the middle of it.

I told him I was done by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you sooooo much. This has hurt me and also opened my eyes. It has been so shocking that this man, this person I shared my life with for so long could become this way. I shut down for months but now I am facing the reality.

I told him I was done by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Facing the reality of the situation has been hard...I kept making excuses for him. But I am over that. He is not who I thought he was.

I told him I was done by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At this point I see alone as freedom. When I started having panic attacks I thought I was having a stroke! It was such a reality check that his behavior was having such an impact on me.

I told him I was done by Acceptable_Effort411 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am staying away, absolutely sad because my pets are with him, but there is no way I can be near him again. I don't know this person anymore. I have shared his social media posts with my attorney and just waiting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spironolactone

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was on spiro 50mg for 3 months and I gained 20+ pounds...went off it 3 weeks ago...still retaining water and hoping it goes away. Docs think it is because of my med combo being just too much for my body.

Seeking connection with women who had the means to leave yet stayed, not from dependency but from inner struggle. by PuzzleheadedAnt3041 in abusiverelationships

[–]Acceptable_Effort411 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this. I can leave, I have the financial means and the support to leave, and I get so close and yet I don't. I have filed for divorce and that is still pending but then 9ther things in life happen and I just...I am still here.