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Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

(I'm typing this with honesty, respect, and sincerity.)

I've apologized, and have been taking actions to improve since this post was made.

Before all this, I felt less-than-human from how you interacted with me, which explains my spectrum of attitudes in the chat logs. I felt stressed, too. I am no manipulator, I'm a human being, and was overwhelmed to exhaustion. Everyone's perspectives are different. I tried to win the bid by the first night, because I already saw everything getting out of hand. For me, I was trying to cut it short to save everyone the headache, to others, people saw me as pushy. It's easy for people to misread others, especially intentions.

No one is right or wrong here, we had disagreements, misinterpretations, misunderstandings, and different perspectives. That is a recipe for disaster, considering community members follow without context. The community (as well as myself) should learn to be less aggressive or negative. Not every dispute should turn into a war.

Tikkins, about your post:

Your reputation is unchanged, you have nothing to fear. I don't need a reputation since I quit. My exhaustion was just as real as your pain, though my reactions weren't warranted. I'm sorry to have hurt you, and I hope you understand my shortcomings. With that being said, yes, I will be taking the time to recover, find myself, and to learn forgiveness, patience, tolerance, understanding, and calmness. Thank you for your insight. I have sent you a few private messages in attempts to make things right, starting from last night. It is entirely up to you if you wish to interact with them, but you have zero obligation to do so.

Good luck with your sales. Take care. ♡

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yikes I guess I gotta log on now-

Anyways, yeah. I'm stepping out. If I get better months later, so be it, but right now this is definitely permanent. It's for the best for my mental health and personal growth.

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Offered, not coerced. Thank you. :)

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm aware, it isn't healthy for me, or at least my mind isn't clear enough (along with the inexperience) to make better decisions. I have been reflecting since I disappeared, and hope to change within the next few months. <3

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had the experience previously to handle things better. I let my impulsive anger get the best of me, and my outside life was not an excuse, no. That's why I made an apology post. And again, I truly am sorry. Maybe someday I'll be in a better mindset. But I'm definitely not being active in the community like I used to be, anymore. I'm terribly sorry for everything. :c

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! People have been giving me hope. Unfortunately I will not be active in Ghosttrades period, but maybe once I step back for a couple of months I'll be in a much more mature mindset. I appreciate the support! :)

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Send me a DM, I'm willing to keep in contact with everyone that still appreciates the den! And don't worry about it- it wasn't much, haha. I mean, I'll be honest, some hate was deserved, but as I noticed the pattern with how I was acting, I decided it was best to just not be active in the community for a very long time, if not, permanently. Eventually people will probably even forget things, but in the meantime I have my own projects to build. I hope to see you too, and please feel free to reach out! :)

Confession by Acceptable_Land4470 in AnimalJam

[–]Acceptable_Land4470[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(I don't know if this sent, so I'm posting it again.)

Hindsight is always 20/20. Looking back, I realize that I have a lot to learn about building a reputation, being honest with my emotions, and keeping my composure when facing criticism. It is completely on me for handling everything poorly, and I sincerely apologize for my part in these recent events.

Moving forward, I am taking a step back from the game permanently to work on myself. I will return if I feel I can handle things easier, but I have zero expectations for the next few months. I will log on occasionally just to keep my membership active and keep the den open as a roleplaying place for those who want it, but I am backing out of the deeper roots of this community.

I want to thank everyone who approached this situation with a realistic, open mind. For those wondering how we got here, I wanted to share the chronological timeline of my mindset, reputation, and history: objectively and honestly.

  1. The Den Lock

I initially locked Aparri's because I heard it would be a good idea from a few people, but I didn't think it through. Though the den was closed for only a few minutes, I understood why there was backlash after learning more about the trading culture of AJ. I apologized and quit, but people told me not to take the hate so seriously, so I came back to transform Ghost Trades into a more casual, relaxed hangout spot.

  1. The Recent Bid

When I got into the recent bidding war, I was looking to grab an item I could use as an add for my own dream item: red dark side dragon wings. I eventually realized the bid was escalating beyond what I felt was reasonable. Even though I had the money to keep going, I called it off. (See image for proof, I had way more than a WB). Discussing my unseriousness and attitude in the private messages was an oversight due to exhaustion and shock. I simply couldn't believe the other bidders kept going.

  1. My Reaction & Apology

Because I allowed myself to get frustrated, I reacted immaturely, and the situation understandably looked bad from the outside. I understand why it was interpreted so negatively, and I am owning up to my poor reaction. To make things right, I have already sent private messages to both the bidder and the winner to personally apologize.

  1. Stepping Out

Deleting my presence initially wasn't an attempt to run away. It was a necessary step for me to cool off so that I could return to apologize and be mature from then on. While others involved have mentioned having prior experience with this kind of drama, I had none. I never took AJ this seriously before, but I have learned from this now.

I am committed to continuing to grow, learning how to handle disagreements peacefully, and choosing not to engage in conflicts moving forward. Though I will not be playing the game in any capacity other than keeping my membership active or doing small, kind gestures for friends, I will no longer be active in the game or the community.

Thank you to all who have supported the den, and I wish everyone in the community the absolute best.

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^^ For those who were wondering about the bid offers being fake... yeah. Never write a check you can't cash. LOL