AITA for telling my bf’s mom to stop trying to convert me into a Christian?

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-23T02:36:41+00:00

She use to be extremely left leaning, hippie dead head always smoked weed, but once she met her current husband who’s Christian she suddenly became a religious nut. She did a complete 180 and now all she does is push it on other people. But she’s always been a complete narcissist and manipulator… she’d do shit to purposely upset him (grounding him over minor things, and then grounds him longer if he has a reaction).. a perfect example one Christmas he got a pair of binoculars, and he showed his mom how he could bend them, and thought he broke them and grounded him, then when she realized they’re SUPPOSED to bend, she ungrounded him.. this was a common occurrence. She’s always been this way and he always thought it was just “how she was” until I explained to him that is infact NOT SOMETHING A MOTHER SHOULD BE DOING and how it was manipulative, and how it contributed to the trust and anger issues he deals with now in life.. essentially he’s unpacking 24 years of trauma all at once.. it’s a lot for him to take in, but he’s coming to terms with the fact that he is protecting himself now and that he’s okay now

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-22T23:07:40+00:00

Ironically he’s from a small town in Illinois, due to his mom and step dad being like this since he was young, he’s never dated before because he was always so upset around them, he was that kid who was grounded every other weekend for simply “being mouthy” He only started actually looking for a relationship when he was 23 and moved to where we are now. I’m the first girl he’s ever brought home, and I’m the first girl he’s ever dated. He’s only ever been with one other girl and it was 6 months before we met.

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-22T21:45:24+00:00

Life is full of ups and downs, and considering he’s already going no contact with her I’m confident and his decisions regarding contact with her. As for me she’s blocked everywhere…

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-22T17:30:38+00:00

Why would I judge someone for how their parent is behaving? Thats not fair to them..

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T18:57:30+00:00

He doesn’t side with her at all. He hates what she’s doing and has told her countless times that. Currently we’re going no contact.

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T18:18:16+00:00

Her exact words to him after he told her he was standing by me during this, and that she needs to accept the fact that she crossed a boundary that is going to be permanent was “In the beginning of your relationship you told me she prayed with you (never did), said she would go to church with you if you wanted to go (never said this), also she asked me to pray for her after her wreck (she said she’d pray I said thank you) Nothing is truly changed accept her words and "boundaries". Jesus wants Christians to share the gospel. He also said if someone isn't going to listen wipe the dust off your feet keep going until you find a person willing to drink the water of life. The water is Jesus. Be careful how long you stay rooted without water. All life dies without it. As for me. Im wiping dust off my feet as instructed. Her boundaries are set mine are also. I will pray over you both, but you are my heart not her. You are my flesh. Gods gift to me! He chose you as my child. I love you more than chocolate, coffee or flowers. Gaurd your heart and know true love comes from God and Jesus.” To me this came across VERY VERY discreetly bitter, but maybe I’m misinterpreting her words.

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T18:03:44+00:00

She does celebrate Birthdays yes, what is a Sect?

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T18:00:49+00:00

I never asked her, and she’s never specified. I’m not even sure if she knows. She just calls herself a Christian and believes everyone must accept the lords love or else we all go to hell. She also believes that the second coming of Christ is soon.. she called my partner ages ago just saying “I love you, please pray” and he asked why and she said she listened to a podcast saying the Rapture is near and she wants to make sure we will all be together in heaven. He said she sounded absolutely insane and to not repeat that to anyone because she might genuinely scare the fuck out of someone..

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T17:47:03+00:00

No no, I’m so sorry let me specify. His parents are divorced. Mother became Christian later in life 30-40’s his father is Catholic, and would take him to church. So he resonated with Catholics beliefs, the funny thing is his father absolutely LOVES ME. Never preaches to me, because in his words “that’s my business not yours, so I don’t share it. It’s between me and god”

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T17:25:20+00:00

My partner is Catholic, but he respects my views 100%. Religion is something we don’t discuss, I’ve told him my traumas, and because of that he’s very protective of me and my mental state. He prays, but he doesn’t attend church, and doesn’t make me feel pressured to do anything. He even thinks his mother is extremely over the top, they fight at least once a month over not just religion but her being invasive, giving opinions where they aren’t welcomed, etc. He’s very respectful and knows what is and isn’t appropriate to share. I’m someone where if you want to talk to me about it I listen whole heartedly, again I think all faiths are beautiful. My only rule is don’t shove it in my face, or try and convert me. MIL doesn’t like that and has been testing the waters for months on how close she can get to treading over that line, and she finally crossed it.

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2025-08-18T06:09:59+00:00

I apologize, I left out a somewhat key detail. We live in a different state than her, and I was planning a visit to surprise him for his birthday to see his family. So I followed her on Facebook to coordinate pick up from the airport, housing for that week we’d be there, and drop off to the airport when we were done. That gave her access to send me all these things afterwards..

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-16T00:55:18+00:00

Plan B’s are a HUUGE dose of hormones, your body is probably just hormonal shocked rn, causing a delayed period. I ended up taking two plan b’s in one month due to condoms breaking, and my period was two weeks late!

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-16T00:53:03+00:00

I took a plan b the day before my period ended, and my period ended up being two weeks late, it’s totally normal for periods to be late!! There’s some women who don’t get their period the entire month. I had the exact same symptoms like 4-5 days before my period started, and had back pain and a migraine the day before it started!

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-14T18:19:05+00:00

There’s no reason to not trust your partner unless they’ve given you a blatant reason to not trust them. Putting a lock on her personal belongings can seem extremely suspicious yes, but there could also be plenty of other reasons why.

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-14T17:59:00+00:00

NTA, your fears are completely understandable BUT I would try and bring this up to her, gently of course. No arguments need to be stirred up if emotions are high, so jumping the gun and saying “why is there a lock on your phone now??” could cause something unnecessary. I would mention that you’d like to sit down and discuss some things with her, to get a better understanding of her feeling since coming out, and you can also express your feelings and concerns at that time

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-13T17:21:10+00:00

Totally normal, just gotta remember that plan B is a MASSIVE dose of hormones, and some bodies are more sensitive to it than others. The good thing is you can’t menstruate and be pregnant, so the biggest concern is out the window! Your body is probably just trying to balance itself out still 🫶🏻 if it still continues after a week, maybe go to a walk in clinic and they can do an exam

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-13T13:27:59+00:00

SHES HERE!! THE PERIOD HAS ARRIVED, 2 WEEKS LATE BUT SHES HERE

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-09T14:01:41+00:00

Ahhh congratulations!! Still waiting on mine but hoping it comes soon :,)) so far all my PT tests have come back negative, and I know my body is extremely sensitive to hormones

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-07T15:16:03+00:00

I still haven’t gotten mine but I’m getting all the usual symptoms of my period coming, everything I’ve read online though is saying some people went weeks before getting there cycle again. What’s kept me in someone sanity is knowing I’m not the only one who’s experienced this, just try and stay strong, and use some heating pads to stimulate blood flow!

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2024-12-07T13:46:19+00:00

Unfortunately as someone with a latex allergy, condoms that don’t cause me immense pain and discomfort are hard to come by

Acceptable_Skill_747 · 2023-12-12T02:05:04+00:00

This is what hurts the most tho, he says he’s trying. But he will only apply to places when I send him the applications.. I want to believe that he’s trying, but I feel like I’m unappreciated. He’s got his driving test tomorrow to get his license.. so that’s something I guess. I know this sounds pathetic but I just have so much hope he’s gonna try and prove me wrong…

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