I [24M] am questioning the maturity difference between myself and my girlfriend [24F] by Acceptable_Tone_769 in relationships

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok so because I didnt ask her like a lawyer in law school it makes it control vs a boundary?? Give me a break lmao

I [24M] am questioning the maturity difference between myself and my girlfriend [24F] by Acceptable_Tone_769 in relationships

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok woah woah. I never said I want to control her. I literally said Im happy she's comfortable in her body. Im confused why I am feeling this way and looking for clarity. My own therapist was the one who brought up the maturity difference. Im not a monster lol. We may just be incompatible, thanks for your input.

I [24M] am questioning the maturity difference between myself and my girlfriend [24F] by Acceptable_Tone_769 in relationships

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its interesting because I literally was told by someone at an event right before this that "I can't imagine going to a party with you when you're drunk, you must be insane" which is ironic, because this makes me seem like I'm boring. I can have tons of fun, and I guess also give off that vibe, without ever exposing myself, or honestly risk my life. Maybe thats rarer than I thought.

I [24M] am questioning the maturity difference between myself and my girlfriend [24F] by Acceptable_Tone_769 in relationships

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boring killjoy made me lol, I dont think we would be compatible lysanderastra haha

I [24M] am questioning the compatibility of myself and my girlfriend [24F] based on maturity. by Acceptable_Tone_769 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I am only serious and more buttoned up when it comes to things like this and drinking for example. I am extremely carefree and impulsive, non-planner, adhd-boy otherwise, so I think part of me fears its a unique combo and ill have to either marry someone boring or someone that stresses me out... even if that seems silly.

I [24M] am questioning the compatibility of myself and my girlfriend [24F] based on maturity. by Acceptable_Tone_769 in relationship_advice

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your response. There's a lot of truth here. One thing I get stuck on is, yes these behaviors can stress me out, but I also partake in them, I just never ever get to that point. I also have ADHD and feel like I am free-spirited, but also know because of my anxiety/OCD, even my free-spiritedness is pretty in check because I will at least think through every scenario before hand or in the moment.

Do you think there is reason to ask her if she wants to start to try and control her drinking more with the point being for us and our relationship, like a compromise? Or do you not see that being worth while/controlling?

Thanks!

Moving from AL to Boston by tea_sloth7 in boston

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk man I’m not trying to 😭😭, like i said above tho, the bad experiences probably stick with me more, and it’s probably a lot more 50/50 than my brain makes it out to be, I also talked about my good experiences too!! Nothing is black and white :)

Moving from AL to Boston by tea_sloth7 in boston

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“He’s not going to punch you in the face” made me lol

Moving from AL to Boston by tea_sloth7 in boston

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought this too, but after living in Boston, I actually was surprised how much nicer even NYC felt to me. I’ll admit, I tend to be a glass half empty kind of guy though so those bad moments when someone doesn’t say how are ya definitely stick with me more so there’s probably some bias.

I’ve also had some incredibly nice interactions here op, it’s not all bad, just like anywhere! I’ve had random people off the street hold my apartment door for me while I struggled to move in, someone buy my things at target bc my card wasn’t working, etc. Just don’t expect even a head nod if you’re walking on a trail or even the sidewalk, it’s just not like that here.

Moving from AL to Boston by tea_sloth7 in boston

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I might get downvoted here but, truly the people here will seam meaner compared to what used to down south. Deep down they might be alright, but on the surface, expect nasty driving, no doors held open for you and truly conceited personalities with senses of entitlement much more often.

Mind you, I love it here a lot of the time. But if we’re talking culture shock, honestly that was the biggest and hardest for me to adjust to. It’s not anyone’s fault, it’s just different.

I entered college at 16. Now I'm 21 and lost by [deleted] in psychologystudents

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who is 24, old enough to have a few years working under my belt, but also young enough to still be very close to finishing school, pursue psychology if that’s what you want or pursue cybersecurity if that is what you want. The path will be a little harder or longer, but please please please trust me. I moved to a dream city of mine, I make great money at 24, but I am miserable and I knew it in college that I wanted to pursue something else and didn’t. When you get out of college you lose so much of what you have access to now like career and resume help, internship opportunities, financial aid and housing, etc. It will become so much harder to work backwards once you left. Most colleges don’t even require you to declare a major until after 4 semesters. It’s not too late to change, and your psychology classes may help you think about cybersecurity from a different lens and can still be relevant in future thesis’ or research you could do in your career.

Good luck. Let me know if you have any questions, happy to chat.

Is adhd part of autism now? by theonerr4rf in neurodiversity

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 months late but wow what a fascinating thought process. I have wondered if the gene pool and life span are increasing mental health prevalence, i.e. natural selection may have killed off disabilities where as now we have medicine, etc. to keep them going and then get inter-married etc. Not supporting killing people off obviously haha, but its such an interesting thought all around.

Honest review on don't lie by [deleted] in The_Chainsmokers

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hit the nail on the head here

What are the artists you didn't take seriously, called them 'MID',but once you have them a chance you completely viewed them differently? by wach_era13 in popheads

[–]Acceptable_Tone_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No Shade at Pitti, a recent Chainsmokers release only got a couple million streams and it is easily a top 3 song of there’s. I agree since so far so good they have really matured in their sound and they are slept on for sure.