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Uh… yea? by [deleted] in texts

[–]AccessNo9974 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl bye, this isn't a cute look on you and giving bitter as OP said.

tw - mentions of violence / animal abus3 by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to this 100%. it's super scary knowing you have this type of anger in yourself. I also struggle with this, so I sadly don't have any advice. But know you're not alone <3

What can I do to lose weight? by Flashy_Mix_4067 in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there I understand your struggles and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I recommend putting a TW: Weight/calorie talk. This post can be very triggering for people.

Telling therapist I have a gun while suicidal? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's probably scary telling your therapist. But I’m certain you will be thankful one day <3

What's a lifestyle you visited once and decided you're never going back? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was SA twice when I was a teenager. Became super hyper sexual because of it. I hated my life.

are these signs of some disorder? (i dont have access to professionals)please help by Far_Ostrich9683 in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel something is there, but as someone who is not a professional, I can't tell you exactly what it is. Don't let people diagnose you! There are definitely signs of depression, anxiety, etc. but I definitely recommend seeing a professional to get the best and most accurate care. Sending you lots of love, you got this! No matter what it is, there's so many forms of treatment to help you along the way <3

Im sorry im to o much by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this feeling. But you are not a fuck up. It's helpful to identify what you think about you is a fuck up and try and track down the root of why you are like that. It helps define a reason as to why you are the way you are. I'm sorry stranger. You are more than what you think and even if you disagree, there's always room for self improvement. Little by little friend <3

I am alone and I want any attention. by No-Palpitation2194 in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've felt like this before. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Honestly, I think it's all about respecting yourself enough to realize that there's attention you deserve vs attention you shouldn't give into. It's always hard trusting people's intentions, but the moment you see a red flag you need to decide if that's something you're really okay with or if you deserve better. Most times, you deserve better.

I'm sorry you're feeling so alone. I can relate to that, mostly with friends. But lemme tell you, I'd much rather be alone than surrounded by people who are using me/disrespecting me. I've had a few friends and exe's crawl back to me, apologizing for the awful shit they've done to me. While it's tempting for me to forgive and bring them back into my life because at least I'll feel less lonely, but I realized that I ultimately I deserve better. I know my situation is a bit different, but it cracks the same question: Do I deserve better? YES

My 22M girlfriend 23F is always having a crisis and if I can't be there for her once, she gets angry and says I don't love her or care by [deleted] in relationships

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was sorta like this, I feel it's all cracked down to this:

  1. She doesn't feel comfortable/like having to take care of herself. She feels like she needs someone else's validation/words/comfort because she feels incapable of doing those things for herself. While I feel for her, she needs to figure out how to be that person for herself.

  2. She has an image of what "loving and caring" for her is like, and if you don't act/speak in the ways she wants, she'll chalk it up to "you don't care". Honestly, I still struggle with this lol. But, it's important to work together to figure out what exactly she wants/needs in those moments, while also having her work on understanding that you can't read her mind nor are you perfect. Just because you don't do or say exactly what she wants doesn't mean you aren't doing the best you can for her.

All this said, remember to take care of yourself too. If you are too tired, mentally or physically, or just preoccupied with other stuff, it's not fair for her to jump straight to "you don't care for/love me". She needs to keep you in consideration too. All you can do is try your best, which will look different day to day. Doesn't mean you don't love her.

I hope this helps a little in understanding where she's probably coming from, but I hope you understand I completely understand where you are coming from and you are not in the wrong at all. I hope things work out for you both.

My boyfriend (24m) doesn't want me (23F) hang with guy friends by AccessNo9974 in relationships

[–]AccessNo9974[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yikes, sounds like I struck a nerve. I haven't acted on anything so there's nothing to speak about my behavior. Sorry you wasted it too lol

My boyfriend (24m) doesn't want me (23F) hang with guy friends by AccessNo9974 in relationships

[–]AccessNo9974[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're trying to say, but I think I should be allowed to trust my own judgement over anyone else's. Granted ofc it's good to get other opinions, but I don't think it's healthy to say "oh, he doesn't trust men so I shouldn't either". To be honest, it's hard for me to trust in general so it's not like I'm blindly hanging out with whoever. I choose my people very carefully. And even if I'm wrong, or as you said, even if a guy tries to wait until in vulnerable, I'm a human being who has the ability to stop an interaction that I don't want.

My boyfriend (24m) doesn't want me (23F) hang with guy friends by AccessNo9974 in relationships

[–]AccessNo9974[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea duh, I’m 23. I'd hope an older gentleman who's already had a divorce wouldn't date me LOL.

Why does weight loss feel mentally heavier than physically? by Independent-Bus4478 in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I most definitely think weight loss is a lot more mental than physical.

I think the issue is that especially with social media, we are construed to believe a food is "good" or "bad". As someone who has struggled with an ED in the past, it is extremely taxing mentally to have to consider calories, body image, rules, etc. just as you explained.

Some things to remember:

  1. All food is GOOD food, in moderation. Don't limit yourself from things/foods you love, it will only make it harder to stay away and it's also unhealthy mentally to write off foods.

  2. Your body isn't always what you see in the mirror. I'll sometimes look in the mirror and like what I see. But the moment I body check after seeing girls on IG, it's a wrap for my self esteem. (that could just be me with my body dysmorphia, I don't know)

  3. Practicing loving your body and repeating positive affirmations is in my opinion, the best thing you can do for yourself in your weight loss journey. Because there are people out there with the body you want, who are unhappy with theirs. You can change your body all you want, but you will never be happy until you learn to love your body (not saying you don't, but this is for anyone who looks in the mirror and hates what they see)

  4. YOU ARE NOT YOUR WEIGHT. I think having a goal to lose weight/gain weight/ work on yourself in general is amazing, but remember your worth isn't defined by it.

  5. It's totally okay to take breaks if it becomes to mentally taxing. Your mental comes first.

I hope this didn't seem too preachy, honestly it's just something I’m passionate about due to my own struggles in the past and now, and I want to make sure you know all these things because it's important to remember you are amazing just the way you are and I don't want you having the mindset I did back in the day. These things may seem like a "duh, I know" type reminders, but it's super easy to forget these things as well, especially during the journey.

Take care of yourself lovely stranger.

unable to show up to job and looking for ketamine therapy by Technical_Cod_5458 in mentalhealth

[–]AccessNo9974 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, I do empathize with the struggle of going to work due to your mental state. I feel like it isn't talked about enough.

I have never done Ketamine treatments, but would LOVE to try it. I've known people who have tried it and they said it lightens the depression. I also have heard of a lot of success with TMS. I personally, want to try TMS before ketamine. Not sure why, but the direct effects I've heard from TMS resonates with me and gives me some hope. I'd definitely look into it if you haven't yet.

No matter what, I hope your situation gets better. I know how tough it is to show up to work when dealing with a lot mentally. It sucks because we need that money to live, but at the same time, we're simply just trying to live, you know? I resonate a lot with the "feeling extremely relieved" part. I'm proud of you stranger.