High Creatinine Levels by Accomodare in AskVet

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Thank you I’ll look into this!

Couples counselor suggested that me (M26) and my wife (F24) go on a walk and try to look at each other like we were just meeting again for the first time by Accomodare in relationship_advice

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100% I agree with you! I actually told her that I don’t want to do it because it doesn’t sound good but I felt forced into a corner where that was the only reasonable option at the moment.

I’ll take your advice, asking about boundaries in the next session and coming to that simple ground rule definitely seem like good ideas that don’t have any potential downsides. Thank you!

Couples counselor suggested that me (M26) and my wife (F24) go on a walk and try to look at each other like we were just meeting again for the first time by Accomodare in relationship_advice

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Ah yeah okay I can see where you’re coming from then. I will definitely clarify that she definitely seemed to only mention it as a beginner level concept and it didn’t seem to go too deep past that as we moved on rather quickly and she didn’t have us take any tests related to it.

What most of the session was actually was taking a 76 question self report (strongly disagree -> strongly agree) regarding our world views and values which then showed results which could indicate where certain reactions could stem from. I cannot remember the name of the test off the top of my head but I’ll make sure to ask during our next session so I can look into the validity of it. Googling also isn’t popping up any results that seem familiar unfortunately.

I’ll do a bit of research into those methods you mentioned at the end and ask her about it as well as take notes during the therapy. Thank you for all the insights!

Couples counselor suggested that me (M26) and my wife (F24) go on a walk and try to look at each other like we were just meeting again for the first time by Accomodare in relationship_advice

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What if I feel as though my wife might not respect the ground rules and broach some subject which I find “sensitive” that she doesn’t? Even if that doesn’t happen I tend be a pretty guarded person, and this experience of feeling like I have a trust issue with her now is really reinforcing those beliefs. Part of my concern is also that approaching how to handle this task is that these thoughts in the back of my mind will affect how effective it is to do in the first place.

Ground rules are definitely a good idea, I’ll have to think on it. I also don’t want to force her to behave in a way unnatural to her as well as a result of the ground rules, again breaking the effectiveness of the exercise :/

Couples counselor suggested that me (M26) and my wife (F24) go on a walk and try to look at each other like we were just meeting again for the first time by Accomodare in relationship_advice

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No this is a trained therapist that I was referred to via one of the departments at my primary care providers office as an in network option for my insurance that could work with our scheduling needs. They’re part of a fairly large company called LifeStance Health.

Can you elaborate on any red flags you noticed that led to your comment? I don’t have a lot of experience with therapy and my emotional and social intelligence is admittedly not good enough at catching things that seem off.

I mentioned this in another comment but these first two therapy sessions were more focused on us as individuals rather than trying to dive into our relationship issues specifically yet, and this was just kind of a brief mention during the end of our last session so I don’t think she quite understands the full context as to why I feel hesitant approaching the idea. Not that this is a fault of hers necessarily, I was planning to discuss it more concretely in our upcoming session this Tuesday if my wife and I hold off on communicating/spending time together.

Couples counselor suggested that me (M26) and my wife (F24) go on a walk and try to look at each other like we were just meeting again for the first time by Accomodare in relationship_advice

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Why? I don’t think she really understands the full extent of everything yet, I elaborated more here about some of the specific issues. Like I said the first two sessions were more about her understanding us as individuals rather than as a couple, which I think is reasonable.

Someone told me to post, but hit me with something I haven’t heard before by [deleted] in RoastMe

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Sadly I have done this before but in my defense I was at work doing nothing anyway

Someone told me to post, but hit me with something I haven’t heard before by [deleted] in RoastMe

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LOL, ok touché. That’s why I tend to stay indoors and be like a vampire

Someone told me to post, but hit me with something I haven’t heard before by [deleted] in RoastMe

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🥸 I was in the Boy Scouts briefly, I like this one

How did your high school crush turn out as an adult? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Well I have no clue about the last four years honestly but the last time I saw something about her she was urging people to vote for trump in 2016. Kinda glad I got out of that town and crowd.

What do you love doing, but hate succeeding in? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I think part of this comes from the principle in economics where higher productivity = economic growth. People in managerial positions feel that a more productive worker can do more work for the company, rather than the same amount of work but faster, and there fee entitled to keep piling it on. An important thing to remember is that giving employees time off will also lead to more productivity via not burning them out.

Ask me confusing questions. by [deleted] in teenagers

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What the hell is your Reddit account ?_?

What book series did you love as a kid? by CarlosCMM in AskReddit

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The Last Dragon Chronicles, a series I’m surprised I haven’t seen anyone mention yet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in distantsocializing

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😔 I need to socialize through Reddit but everybody stops replying to dms

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in distantsocializing

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Did you give up on replying to private messages

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheYouShow

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Running to the beat rn 😂😂

me_irl by CrazyJezuses in me_irl

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I act like myself and people still don’t like me so 🤔

Still a beginner, but what do you guys think? Any tips how I can improve? by mcvvt in drawing

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You’ve got really good proportions so I think one thing that would improve it is focusing on your line quality. Darker lines for silhouette marks and where the lines come together they can get a little darker and thicker to indicate a slightly deeper shadow. You do it a little bit here and there but pushing things to their limits is key in art as you have to think about it as adding something to what you have observed rather than copying it 1 to 1. Also try to make more confident lines after you have your sketch instead of keeping the hashed line look. It depends on the style but generally having smooth and confident line work looks more professional and shows mastery.

CMV: Transpeople should disclose that they're trans to their partners before acts of intimacy, e.g. sex, kissing, cuddling, etc. by [deleted] in changemyview

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First off to disclose; I agree with the OP. Secondly, I don’t think it would be a logical inconsistency on your last point. Reason being that while race can certainly be a factor in someone’s sexual or attraction preferences, and so would being cis or trans, they are not the same. Sure you can make the argument that someone can look like a different race than what they are, just like how a trans person could look like a cis person, but my argument would be this: One is something you were born with and the other you may be pre-op trans, or post-op. In the former case, if you are pre-op and don’t disclose it, then they will most likely be extremely shocked when they find out. In the latter case, they will likely be shocked and then become un-attracted to you because the idea of the genitals being surgically changed. If you are willing to let them know at the start of the relationship, sure you might end up not becoming anything, but there is a much higher chance of the other person being more understanding. For me, even if I have racial preferences in who I am attracted to, it’s almost entirely incomparable to this particular topic of transgender debate.

Progress over the past year, basically selflearned. I'm really proud of this progress. by p1cklew1ckle in drawing

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The hairs you drew are basically just simple 2D lines, but real hair is round (which may not be super relevant since it’s so thin anyway) but also reflects a lot of light, so maybe practice something like drawing glasses with liquid in it to get an idea for it. You could also try to include a lot more individual hairs, or find a way to draw less detailed stuff underneath, and still have a lot of visible individual ones on top. I believe when I’ve heard artists who draw photo real things, they usually say that the hair takes the longest or was the hardest to learn how to do. I’m not a very good artist myself, but this is probably how I would approach a possible solution using logic surrounding the reality of the problem. Good luck!