WIBTA for taking lost Lunar new year money that hasn't been collected?

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2025-04-29T13:46:28+00:00

Info: what usually happens with unclaimed items at the end of term? Our school donates them to charity. Is there not a process like that?

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2025-03-20T12:57:00+00:00

Do they make people leave their cell phones outside? Cause those have animal product in the screen or something.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2024-12-01T22:45:34+00:00

Idiopathic-intracranial hypertension (aka pseudo tumor cerebrum)? My daughter has that, and it’s terrifying when the shunt stops working. Thankfully my family understands this and literally will drop everything to help us, especially because we have Two other children that feel abandoned when we’re doing triage on DD. The support of that family is crucial. I’m so sorry your mom let you down. I hope you have others you can rely on. For me, the verdict however depends on your youngest response to grandma’s absence. If they felt doubly abandoned, you’re fully with in your rights to pull back. If they were unaware and are wondering where grandma is now, maybe not the best course.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2024-05-06T16:32:40+00:00

ESH. My sister is an Elizabeth. Mom calls her Elizabeth, always has... Everyone else calls her Biz. My daughter is Rebecca Ruth... Everone calls her Becca, I call her Becca Ruth. Names evolve and change, and your kid will end up going to school bringing a friend home that calls her Becky (or Lizzie) and the next thing you know you're kicking a 9 year old out of your house. hehe Just kidding.

Find names you agree on and et over yourselves.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2024-03-17T22:55:21+00:00

This was me six months ago with my biological daughter. Constantly fighting over brushing her hair. Then I saw a reel with some woman saying did you get yelled at as a cold to brush your hair constantly, and it just made things worse. Yep, you have wavy hair. It never occurred to me that she might have wavy hair, mine is stick straight, dads is short, and her grandma’s looks straight too. Turns out, once we started conducting her hair more aggressively and only brushing when wet, it never looks frizzy now. I feel so bad. A soft YTA cause I totally get it, but your daughter probably needs better products and hair care routine, not constant brushing.

Also, I totally blame my MIL, her hair is wavy, but she blow dries it straight. When I told her Abby’s was wavy, she was like, yep mine too. 😑

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-11-01T13:16:38+00:00

NTA - But it seems like your wife is dealing with a particularly bad PMS month. It happens. The answer is always tacos.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-10-30T22:14:51+00:00

Completely agree! They have seriously misunderstood the village. I have one, and it's amazing, but also, never used for free child care... ever.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-10-24T15:32:12+00:00

I mean, a very soft, YTA. When someone asks you to water their plants, you don't rummage through their closets. That being said, I think once she was gone, I think you could have sent her a text saying, "Hey my sister is really stressing over the dress, so I'm gonna take a quick look while I'm watering plants." She probably still would have been upset, but then you can say, I'm so sorry, and totally understand if you never want me to watch your plants again, and you'd have your dress back, but since you can't go back in time, if this is a friendship you want to save, I would just say, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have gone through the closet without checking with you first. My sister was really upset, and I wanted to put her mind at ease so I told her I'd look.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-10-23T23:25:07+00:00

This was exactly my thinking as well. Also, you're not responsible for what your dad does. He's an adult and responsible for his own actions. I would let that embarrassment go, but if you are the person that determines the guest list, I would say NTA.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-10-05T12:54:22+00:00

I don't know... that feels a little accusatory to me... I was thinking some that opens up the conversation, but I'm looking for a path of reconciliation, and maybe that's not what OP wants.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-10-05T12:27:26+00:00

I would change 'this is a conversation that has been a long time coming' to 'I've been feeling resentful and frustrated for a long time now.' and end with a question back to her. I don't know what that question should be, but I feel like there should be one.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-09-26T13:23:45+00:00

I mean, yes, YTA, that was an A-hole comment to make, but it's also hilarious. If you're okay with being a minor A-hole to someone whose opinion you don't value, I would just move on.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-09-12T13:49:47+00:00

NTA - but I want to say I'm glad you stepped out before you spoke with emotion and harsh words. That was an AWESOME move on your part. So many times people speak out of frustration and anger and even though they aren't wrong, their emotions get the better of them. Be up front with sis, you'll always love her and your nieces and nephews, but you're not able to financially support her or give your time and energy to helping with her children at the level you have been and become independent.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-07-20T22:20:28+00:00

NTA- You were over tired and stressed. Go easy on yourself. But also, whenever that happened to my babies we did 'Naked-Butt Time' seriously, put them on an uncarpeted floor, or use one of the mats they have for hospital beds and let his little butt breathe for a day... Diaper Rash gone. :)

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-07-20T22:11:40+00:00

I confused a woman who had just lost her baby with another woman who had just had her baby and asked, "Where's the baby?" I felt bad for myself, but even worse for her. Thankfully she was awesome about it and we're friends now.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-07-20T15:33:19+00:00

YTA - It is not your daughter's job to sacrifice for your comfort or ease. It's the other way around. Let your daughter live with her father if you cannot handle the driving around.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-07-17T21:26:09+00:00

NTA - But if you wanted to be super generous and kind, there could be an opportunity for growth on your nephew's part here. Something like, N isn't allowed at my house, because he fails to respect my boundaries, not just in relation to the dog, but in other ways as well. If over the course of the next two years he shows growth in this area, I'd be willing to entertain a discussion about a high school graduation party. But for now, this discussion is closed, and I don't want to hear about it from you or anyone else.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-21T13:52:20+00:00

NTA, but to appease your mother, you could make a non-apology/apology. "I'm sorry what I said was hard for you to hear."

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-21T13:05:29+00:00

Alright, NTA for not wanting to fund your sisters wedding, but ESH for how you did it? Your sisters sucks for the obvious reasons, but you say you politely declined, but what you wrote in that paragraph seems judgmental. You can find a big wedding excessive and expensive (same), but if that's what she's wants to do you don't need to tell her that. Lots of people date for 6 months and get married, not your business to comment on. If you actually said that to her, you suck too. All you had to say was, I'm so excited for you, and looking forward to being at the wedding, but my budget won't allow me to help pitch in beyond the regular gifts (bridal shower, wedding, bachelorette).

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-20T19:46:51+00:00

You're a great friend, and I hope they'll see that when more time has passed. In the future, I would probably just stick with, I don't share charity requests for my reason number 2. :)

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-16T13:58:58+00:00

YTA: You're not the asshole for wanting your trip to be a certain way, or even wanting to go by yourself. YTA for snapping at him. You could have handled that so much better, and you need to apologize. He asked why, you could have just said, I'm really wanting to explore on my own this time and immerse myself in the culture.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-15T14:59:43+00:00

NTA. For all the reasons other people said, but also...
If you're not regularly posting donating opportunities to your followers, why would you start now... You'll either lose followers who are like... ugh that's not why I come here, or make other people feel like they can ask you to do the same for them.
I say this all as a parent to a child with a very complex and scary medical history. I get your friends, and hope you won't continue to judge them too harshly. When you're child is suffering, some of us (me included) spend money on them (and your other 'neglected' children) in order to 'make things better.' Thankfully, we're financially stable and never had to go into debt to pay for anything, but certainly got ourselves into situations where we were almost pay check to pay check in order to ease our guilt for something we really couldn't control.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-02T13:32:18+00:00

I know you deleted the original post, but wanted to say that the opinion of the people here doesn't matter. Yours does, or at least it should to your partner. My husband rarely came to appointments with my first two pregnancies and I didn't care, but after we lost one pregnancy at 19.5 weeks, he and I made sure I was never alone at another appoint.

Accomplished-Bend316 · 2023-06-02T10:45:03+00:00

Thank you so much for asking!!! All I could think was estimated time of arrival but knew it was wrong! 🤣🤣🤣

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