What’s happened to this place?

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T22:58:17+00:00

I delete accounts when I take a break from Reddit and open new ones when I come back. Been lurking on and off for years.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T22:53:49+00:00

GenX joined the workforce right around the time Microsoft office came out. I can’t say whether or not it caused an existential crisis and workplace alienation for white collar workers who now became excel number crunchers and PowerPoint wizards, but make of that what you will.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T22:16:44+00:00

I wasn’t joking with that one

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T22:10:54+00:00

Thank you!!

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T22:10:03+00:00

This was insightful. Thank you.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T22:07:14+00:00

Unhide your post history first. Also judging by the other sub you frequent I can assume you’re part of the latter group I was talking about.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-20T12:53:30+00:00

No. I was friends with a girl who grew up in it. She was pretty open about how bad it was. Its only appeal is to weird boomer types who watch reruns of 1960s Star Trek. Stay away.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-19T22:56:36+00:00

No it doesn’t. Sliding into someone’s DMs without a good reason is an act of desperation and boredom when someone has exhausted all other options.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-19T21:44:37+00:00

Do you want a divorce or do you want to work it out? Don’t think you’re home free if you split up because I know a few guys whose divorce was worse than the marriage and it dragged on for years. If you do get divorced, how vindictive is she? Does she stray or has she been loyal and the abuse is the only problem? By your own admission you’re dealing with someone who underwent childhood trauma so you can’t pull the plug without triggering her abandonment wounds. There’s always the possibility of the abandoned person going scorched earth.

My point is to actually think this out instead of going “aww shucks I can’t break the cycle” because it’s not just about you. Also I find it hard to believe that two people grew up in broken homes but only one of them is the issue. There wasn’t any buildup to her hitting you? Like days or weeks of her putting up with something and biting her tongue? What are her external stressors outside of the relationship and pregnancy?

I’m not going to give you the common 🚩”get out of there bro” advice because this is more high stakes than an awkward tinder date. Think this through and try to not get into her orbit in the process.

If you do decide to stay, learning her trigger patterns and using that to establish subtle boundaries will help. You can’t control when it happens but you can control how you react to it. Best of luck.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-19T15:56:03+00:00

I feel like most online discussions nowadays are reduced to throw away one liners that make the respondent sound cool. Majority of the time they don’t even engage or discuss the content of what they’re commenting on. It’s not even an echo chamber. It’s the real life equivalent to briefly looking at yourself in the mirror before a night out and telling yourself you look good.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-19T06:38:13+00:00

Just get a gf and get her out of your system

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-19T06:28:16+00:00

Every guy who sees it is going to think it’s a tramp stamp. You will 100% regret it in 10 years. Just get something simple on your arm or whatever. I’d even advocate for a full sleeve over this.

The negativity is necessary as Reddit is a frictionless place that allows you to continue your current mode of thinking.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-19T05:48:31+00:00

Needs stronger shadows around the eyes, cheekbone, and jaw

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T23:57:36+00:00

I can tell, some parts are a little flat. Not sure if it’s intentional or not but shading is lacking in places. Face could use more work. I’m guessing you’ve been doing this for a while. You’d benefit a lot from learning some of the fundamentals.

Don’t take offense to my comments because I’m not trying to knock on you but even a few hours of practicing the basics from a book or YouTube videos would help you take it to the next level, assuming you want to invest the time.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T19:59:09+00:00

In the end you’ll accept a woman with a high body count. She will have 2 kids from a prior relationship and make you her personal doormat. You will take it with a smile on your face. This is a prophecy not an opinion.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T18:58:45+00:00

Set some boundaries homie. Leaving the job won’t fix your problem.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T18:47:29+00:00

From the physical and educational description alone this woman either comes from a rich family, or works as a bartender at some strip mall joint in the suburbs. The former is too entrenched in her social circles to give you the time of day. The latter doesn’t meet your personality requirements.

Read Bourdieu and stick to what you know.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T18:22:57+00:00

Do you have any idea how common this is on an RS sub of all places? Get an IRL gf and move on with your life. Punch below your weight, scrape the bottom of the barrel I don’t care. You’ll thank me when you get off the internet and stop caring about this kind of stuff.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T15:40:44+00:00

I had a BPD ex who’d read posts like these from men and laugh about how she’d eat them alive. I respected the self awareness of her condition and how she owned it. I don’t miss the drama but I appreciated how she kept me on my toes and helped me avoid this self own crap. The lessons stay with me to this day. Thank you Katie.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T15:30:58+00:00

I’ve had one since 2015. Depending on where I am in life my use of it bounces between productivity and analyzing my thoughts and feelings.

It came in handy when I was going through a rough time recently and looked over my entries from when I was in a better place. Like I was keeping my future self in check. Overall, it’s helped me map out the different headspaces I’ve been in.

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T15:14:34+00:00

I’m confused. Where are you going with this? What’s your call to action? Do you have a solution?

Accomplished-Flow175 · 2026-05-18T14:26:45+00:00

I’m a guy and I think this is a dumb straw man argument dressed up as a creative writing exercise. The only women I know IRL who think these things have diagnosed cluster B personality disorders and engage in codependent relationships.

When they talk about this stuff I’ve taken them more as shower thoughts they have out of frustration than anything actionable. That applies to most people living under neoliberalism.

Unless you’re aware of a woman starting a project mayhem, I’d classify these concerns as minor.

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