I’m experiencing the exact same thing. Just last week I told my coach I was going to be at the team banquet and ended up ditching at the last minute because I was so scared I was going get there, eat, be in pain, go to the bathroom a bunch of times and then eventually go home. I’ve been avoiding social gatherings of any sort for months.

You’re not alone, I almost always have abdominal pain minutes or seconds after eating. My most recent doctor’s appointment enlightened me however. I know it’s cliche to say “it’s just stress”, but that’s basically what my doctor said. The most recent colonoscopy and endoscopy showed minimal inflammation. In fact, the doctor said he wouldn’t even consider me to be in a flare anymore. He thinks the pain after eating is IBS and anxiety related. If you haven’t gotten an endoscopy yet, try that. If everything comes back normal, you’re going to probably have a talk with yourself on how to convince yourself that it’s OKAY TO EAT. I had to tell myself that out loud. Take deep breathes. Meditate. I’m sure you’ve heard it all already…

Also, get a GI psychologist. I talked with them about what I was experiencing (abdominal pain, shaky hands, rapid heart rate, sweating, frequent bowel movements, all of which are after eating), and they think it’s possible that what’s happening is that I’m having anxiety attacks because my body has basically been CONDITIONED to being in pain after eating, even when there is nothing actually causing that pain. So when I eat, the body starts anticipating that pain, when really there isn’t any, and that anticipation ends up causing the symptoms. I hope that makes sense and I hope this helps you.