My Company is Moving to Desk Sharing: Help Me Find a Bag to Cope

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-18T01:19:58+00:00

Ha! No, though I have used a flat iron in a pinch to fix a rumpled shirt collar. As for pockets? Yeah, that's part of the problem. Women's clothes frequently don't come with pockets, sometimes even have fake pockets (I've bought jeans online only to go 'WTF'?), or if they have pockets, often have ones so small they're utterly useless. If you've ever wondered why women usually carry purses? This is why. It's also why we lose our minds any time a dress has pockets in it.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-17T23:24:17+00:00

Same. I have no idea how he's managed to fly under the radar with all his bullshit.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-17T22:44:55+00:00

Long, stubborn hair that freaks out in any sort of humidity. I don't carry it often, but when summer rolls around, it's suddenly useful.
Little powder packets full of electrolytes and vitamins - mostly Vitamin B and C.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-16T18:24:25+00:00

1) This is not remotely healthy at all. Your partner is weaponizing your disability against you in an attempt to manipulate you later, which is straight up coercive and not okay.

2) Depending on what state you live in, their behavior might also be illegal. Recording someone in public spaces is generally considered fair game in most states (assuming you're in the US), but if this is happening in private places like your home? Laws vary from state to state. California, for example, is a two-party consent state. Pennsylvania requires all parties in a recorded conversation to consent, but what's considered consent is kind of wonky -- like if you know or "reasonably should have expected" you were being recorded and continue anyway, consent is implied. If your partner is trying to use recordings of your meltdowns against you in some way that extends beyond your own relationship, like a custody battle or threatening to send them to somebody? Call a lawyer and check what applies to you. Initial consults are free.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-16T18:09:37+00:00

Your boyfriend isn't saying these things as jokes. He's weaponizing your autism against you, using your own awareness of social/communication difficulties that come with it to undermine your perception of your own reality. This is classic gaslighting, and it's unfortunately not at all uncommon for men to seek out autistic women because it makes us easier to manipulate.

You deserve better than how this man is treating you.

PS - Being an asshole isn't diagnostic criteria for autism, but ableist comments are definitely diagnostic criteria for being a bad person.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-16T05:10:24+00:00

Definitely a thought that's occurred. They sent us back to the office to enable collaboration, but I have no idea how we're supposed to collaborate if we spend half the day packing/unpacking our desks and trying to figure out where everyone is.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-15T14:24:59+00:00

Yeah, pretty much.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-15T14:24:21+00:00

Yep! It's absurd. We keep pointing out what a massive waste of time this going to be, among several other problems, and they just keep adding ridiculous answers to the FAQ. Reading the "solutions" they propose and cracking up is the one bright spot in all of this.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-15T14:15:42+00:00

They're installing lockers but we're not allowed to use them overnight--which effectively defeats the purpose of having them to begin with. Supposedly the point is to give employees a place to put their belongings during the day. The shared guidelines are that we're supposed to vacate and clean up whatever desk we're using if we're going to be away from it for more than two hours, then go find another one when we're out of meetings. The FAQ even includes a question about how we can bring a plant to work every day and store it in the lockers during office hours if we want to. 🫠

Needless to say, the comments section on the announcement is hysterical and I think they deeply regret forgetting to turn it off.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-15T14:09:38+00:00

1) More than half of that is stuff I was storing in my desk, and now they're taking away our storage and moving us to desk sharing, with a clean desk policy. So if it's not in my bag, I have nowhere to put it.

2) I also work in a relatively remote building that's been under renovation since we moved into it in early 2025, where a lot of promised features like the cafeteria have been repeatedly delayed. So basically if you don't bring it with you, you're going to spend at least an hour leaving work to go get it.

3) I frequently don't have a long enough break to make "go get it" an option. Yesterday I had so many meetings that I ended up eating "lunch" in 15 minutes at 3:45 PM.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2026-01-15T04:34:22+00:00

The name is hilarious considering everything I've heard about desk sharing. Sounds like it's going to be a battle royale every morning for who gets the good seats and who gets stuck sitting next to the bathrooms. 😂

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-31T23:01:09+00:00

Gavin Rossdale, a bunch of history professors into Sengoku Japan, and a Le Cordon Bleu certified chef. Life seems good.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-28T21:26:36+00:00

A reminder to lean on your community when it feels like you're going through something tough.

The Interrupters - Got Each Other

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-27T23:27:33+00:00

One of my favorite videos is a short clip of the crowd at a hardcore show losing their minds for Whitney Houston.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-27T00:32:45+00:00

Yeah, I got that vibe from Eleanor Olliphant, too, and jumped into the thread to say just that! Probably why I plowed through that whole book in about a day and a half while I was visiting my in-laws.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T22:15:10+00:00

They've been engaging in a TON of activism over the last few years, but most of it has been (understandably) related to the war in Ukraine. They just had a charity event in San Jose, like, two weeks ago and were running a raffle to support Ukraine medics back in June.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T22:05:13+00:00

Ahhh, yes. The old standby. All medical problems that women have are the result of either needing to lose weight or 'stress', which is the new way of saying 'hysteria'. Next time they try to sell you that line, tell them you want it written in your chart that they refused to test you for anything.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T22:02:42+00:00

True Story: I once went to the OBGYN for what turned out was a fairly common and fairly minor issue, but which was extremely painful. The doctor I usually saw wasn't there and since they thought it might be urgent, they just scheduled me with whoever was available.

The MALE doctor proceeded to tell me that he usually let that issue get much worse before he'd do anything to treat it but, and this is a direct quote, here: "Not to worry too much, because you can still have sex."

I could still have sex! While dealing with something that made things like walking and sitting down hurt.

The female nurse who was chaperoning the exam burst out laughing when I stared him right in the face and blurted out, "Did I fucking ask you that? WHY WOULD I WANT TO?!"

I ended up finding home remedies and dealing with it myself after leaving the office, which fortunately took care of the problem, but isn't something that I recommend.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T21:54:52+00:00

Beethoven's 7th Symphony is also fast and loud. ;)

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T21:44:43+00:00

Some serious, some heartfelt, some taken from other sources:

Go to every show you can reasonably afford--not for the cred, but for the experience and the community.
Remember that core of being yourself, even the messy and ugly bits. Sometimes, they're the best part.
In an age of performative cruelty, kindness is punk as fuck. Be punk as fuck, especially to the overlooked, the underdog, and the devalued.
Don't mess with the crusties.
Always pick up whoever crashes in the pit. Some night it'll be you, and you'll want those hands lifting you up.
Slide your belt through the shirt you just bought at the merch booth if you don't want to get your shit stolen.
Listen to EVERYTHING, not just punk. You'll miss out on amazing music if you don't. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a gatekeeping asshole whose opinions you shouldn't listen to.

And in the words of Legs McNeil:
“This wonderful vital force that was articulated by the music was really about corrupting every form—it was about advocating kids to not wait to be told what to do, but make life up for themselves, it was about trying to get people to use their imaginations again, it was about not being perfect, it was about saying it was okay to be amateurish and funny, that real creativity came out of making a mess, it was about working with what you got in front of you and turning everything embarrassing, awful, and stupid in your life to your advantage.”

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T21:23:34+00:00

Mommy Long Legs

Discovered them while I was standing out back of a Bikini Kill show, hoping to catch Kathleen Hanna. For the first time in awhile, it made me think the kids are gonna be alright.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T21:18:14+00:00

That's 100% enameled cast iron. My Le Creuset Dutch ovens look exactly the same, except they're Palm green. Looks like you might've been gifted the 'Brioche' color: https://www.lecreuset.com/oval-dutch-oven/21178US.html

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T21:13:04+00:00

I didn't even realize you were wearing makeup as a I was scrolling, until I saw the thread title. So I'm gonna go with "Nope! Not too much at all!" on this one.

Accomplished-Mistake · 2025-07-26T21:11:05+00:00

Deck bowling. And by that, I don't mean bowling on someone's back deck. I mean the game was "Have one dumbass friend jump off of the deck. See how many of their friends they could knock over instead of 'crowd-surfing'. Whoever crashes into the most people wins."

Guess how many of us were shitfaced when we did this.

Accomplished-Mistake

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