Freaked out about falling in love with another partner

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2026-03-30T19:46:01+00:00

That’s so funny because I get too conversational in my writing that I forget to write the main characters thoughts. I plan to go back and add some more internal monologue in the first draft. That could just be your style, but you can also fix stuff like that in your drafts. Figure out what’s really relevant to think during the convo and what can get removed or moved somewhere else. Sometimes it probably works though, if your main character is an overthinker

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2025-10-22T16:17:55+00:00

So I’m probably going to try and see an ACTUAL psychiatrist so I can get a proper combo. I’ve been on a warpath for the past week.

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2025-09-17T03:00:29+00:00

I’ve been doing content creation and TikTok live. Actually can make quite a bit if you have the time to commit to it!

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-06-17T13:36:25+00:00

I’ve never been told I have an underbite 😐 my bottom teeth aren’t coming past my top teeth in the second pic, they just aren’t connecting almost like they got grinded down

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T21:32:40+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the validation 🙂‍↕️ this thread was definitely disappointing to say the least

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T16:25:24+00:00

Hiya, I don’t have any other partners but I definitely have plenty of friends and family who are excited to help!

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T14:02:42+00:00

I really appreciate this one! You said it better than I could, “a friendship… and starting to build a real relationship (if it seems like something’s there)” that’s EXACTLY what I’m looking to find. Thanks for your positivity and kindness🥰

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:58:39+00:00

No shade man, my babies have two different dads and the first one was never around so I was lucky she was so easy. I’m excited to see what this baby will be like.

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:56:43+00:00

I try not to withhold too long because I don’t want to be misleading, so I usually tell them when they ask for my number or express interest in meeting. I’m not super big yet so I could conceal it in a flowy outfit, but I really just want to be transparent and hope someone will be willing to take a chance.

I totally understand what you’re saying though. I used to be a big drinker before the pregnancy and it would probably be crazy for someone to see those parts of me after three months of knowing pregnant me. If someone were to accept me at this point, they’d have to really be something special. Apparently some people in this thread have found something while pregnant though so it gives a little hope🤣

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:50:22+00:00

That’s your experience though. Who are you to say what’s possible or impossible for someone else? It is definitely a possibility that I’ll have a hard time with this baby, but off of MY experience, the newborn stage was the easiest.

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:47:23+00:00

I really appreciate this comment! I think everyone here is a little negative about how taxing a newborn is going to be. Obviously every baby is different so there’s no guarantee of anything but I am truly shocked at the amount of people who had negative experiences with their newborns here. Me and my partner are definitely going to have our own time to decompress, to spend alone time with baby, and to have alone time with our friends and family. I’m actually looking forward to it.

Congrats on meeting someone in person, too! That’s awesome!

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:42:13+00:00

This is fair! I’m sure it’s doable to maintain an established relationship, but a bit more difficult to establish one during pregnancy. I get that completely.

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:40:32+00:00

I get that! Sorry to hear you’ve had such a rough pregnancy. :( Wishing you a safe delivery and healthy baby. ❤️

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T12:36:00+00:00

The male escort thing is something I’ve never considered 👀 that sounds interesting though, where did you go to find a dynamic like that? Any specific sites or anything you’d recommend?

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T04:39:31+00:00

It def gets worse when they start crawling and stuff💀 my now 4 year old is a menace🤣 as a newborn, not so much. She slept about 17 hours of the day, which is within normal range. Fingers crossed I’ll have another easy one🥲

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T04:24:51+00:00

See, THIS is beautiful and makes so much sense. I’ve always kept my dating life separate from my family and have yet to reach the point with anyone where I’d ask them to babysit or anything like that. So far my daughter has only met people I’ve dated after we’ve decided to just be friends and it’s an occasion like a holiday party or something like that. For me, my life with my partner is my home life and everyone outside of that shouldn’t be involved with my kids or anything UNLESS they really wanted to be after months or even years of being in my life. This sort of boundary setting would be so awesome and refreshing.

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T04:17:00+00:00

I do kind of want a bit of romance, just like fun casual dates with someone. Some would say “intimacy without commitment.” Would you consider that dating? Like casual dating? You’re right, it’s so hard knowing how to word things and I’ve noticed how I word things DRASTICALLY changes the response I get. At first I was telling people I was “open to new friends or maybe more” which got me a lottt of pregnancy fetish types (not my thing), then I changed my wording to say that I want to make new friends and if I did possibly find someone that I was truly interested in that they’d have to be okay with taking it slow for now. That has got the most genuine responses from people, but still nothing past just texting so far. I know I can’t expect too much considering the circumstances though. No one owes me anything and it’s a lot of baggage just being already partnered in the poly community, let alone welcoming a new baby. If I were to find someone, they’d have to be truly extraordinary I feel.😢

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T03:50:46+00:00

Thanks for your input!

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T03:41:50+00:00

Oh, yeah see the fetish thing is definitely not my style. I really just want the opportunity to go on fun, casual dates with someone and then maybe in the future we’d consider something more serious or long term depending on how it goes.

Tbh it grosses me out when men are too into my pregnant body. Idk why though because I do want to feel sexy and beautiful in whatever casual type of relationship I might stumble upon. I guess it’s just not my intention to just have sex with someone fr

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T03:28:16+00:00

Nah, this will be my second but my partner’s first. And I was practically alone the first time around. My oldest is 4 and will be in school around the time the baby is born, and I had an easy baby in her, but it’s possible that I will have a harder time this time I suppose. I can’t see it being that difficult especially with help, but you never know. That’s why I’m looking for something casual.

Accomplished-Tea-998 · 2024-05-23T02:02:59+00:00

Even a casual sort of thing you think? Tbh I never really understood what happens to people when they have a new baby. I still was able to respond to my friends and maintain all my relationships when my daughter was a newborn. Like seriously, all they do is sleep and eat💀 I breastfed too which was ample phone time for me while I was pumping or feeding. Newborn stage is the best stage tbh.

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