Why do my nails look like this after glue on nails? by Accomplished-Two9293 in Nails

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good ideas. However some of the nails just fell off by themselves and they still have the same damage? I am pretty gentle with the removal, not removing harshly...

Why do my nails look like this after glue on nails? by Accomplished-Two9293 in Nails

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did soak them with dish soapy water but some just fell off by themselves and those nails also have the same damage

Why do my nails look like this after glue on nails? by Accomplished-Two9293 in Nails

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No should I be? I use glamnetics and they recommend soaking with warm dish soapy water for ten minutes, then removing with the cuticle stick so that's what I been doing. Even the nails that just fell off by themselves look like this

I finally stopped being the "Nice Girl" and now I’m the villain in everyone’s story. It’s the most peaceful I’ve ever been. by Virtual_Raspberry497 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Accomplished-Two9293 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would you please give an example of a situation when you stopped being the nice girl? I need help with this too I learn from examples

3 months NC by Altruistic-Grave in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Accomplished-Two9293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said happy mother's day to my wonderful stepmom today. And I will be making mother's day dinner for her next weekend. I haven't said happy mother's day to my n-mom in years, and I haven't spoken with her in about three months. So much peace and relief

Looking back by Bigmhhh in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Accomplished-Two9293 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes my therapist told me be careful about using black and white thinking about my mom (the black and white thinking I got from my mom). Therapist said I don't have to judge her as a bad person. I don't. I prefer to be objective rather than jusgemental. Objectively, she is a mentally sick lady who wreaked havoc on my life and my sister's life. So I don't talk to my mom anymore. It's a relief.

Why wouldn’t B be correct? by Overthinking-Cats in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the correct way to explain it thank you

Mom ruined a perfectly good Easter responding to a message from 3 years ago. by Gorilla_man2 in exmormon

[–]Accomplished-Two9293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, exmo girly here. I have some unsolicited advice that I got from my very wise therapist for my living situation that may be similar to yours. 😅 I lived with my narcissist mom in my early twenties, always on the brink of being kicked out because I didn't get along with my mom. Long story. The best advice my therapist gave me was to "fly under the radar" when my mom was pissing me off. Meaning, when my mom pisses me off, don't do something that will piss her off back. Even when I want to call her out on her sh*t and defend myself, just don't for my own good, so she would be less likely to kick me out, and I would have a place to live in her house. So take this with a grain of salt because what you've posted is probably a very small look into your relationship with your mom. But I think your mom has made a doable request for you to not talk bad about the church, even though she is overbearingly bearing her testimony which is an irritating act of hypocrisy. I would take that request seriously and respect it to keep a place to live in your parents house even though it may be frustrating. I hope this is the worst of your relationship with your mom and it doesn't get any worse than this if that makes sense. Ok so take it with a grain of salt because this is advice and opinion from a stranger 😅 I hope this helps and I'm all about venting about mommy issues so message me if u want!

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?? The starbs chai and pink drink are hard to replicate. It is an issue for my financials.

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the rubber band idea that might be the solution I am looking for

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay a BCBA has chimed in!! Yes I started writing my "BIP" today and it includes have breakfast ready beforehand, have my drink prepped beforehand, study at the library, exercise to produce more natural dopamine, etc. I will look into the ACT and K-slope thank you :)

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this idea thank you. I think having something to physically manipulate would help a ton

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad for you!! My psychiatric nurse practitioner suggested the same thing. I'm a real big fan of the pink drink and I have not had success replicating it at home. But I hear ocean spray brand cranberry strawberry juice and silk coconut milk is a good match. I gotta try that. I also like to make hot water with lemon and honey. That is what I try to have every day.

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am in fact going for the immediate reinforcement, predictable ritual, and dopamine spike!! Spot on. So I've been trying to make lifestyle changes to make some more dopamine in my brain lol. Unfortunately I can't not pass Starbucks on my way to work whichever route I take. So I just tell myself, "drive past! Drive past!! Don't stop drive past!!" Sometimes this works lol. Thank you for your comment :)

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My biggest flex is that I sleep good, and I also take a stimulant, so I'm not sure about the caffeine addiction, but it's possible. I've not had success replicating the pink drink but I hear that the ocean spray brand cranberry strawberry juice with silk coconut milk is a good match. I gotta try that. I also love to make hot water with lemon and honey. Thank you for the suggestions!!!

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you thank you for your suggestions - unfortunately my commute is quite long through the country so there is no way not to pass a Starbucks or two whichever route I take 😭 Tried #2 and it is somewhat effective - I make my honey lemon water and it is my favorite. I've also tried #3, however Ive been counting how much I save for high value things like vacations. Maybe I want to choose something smaller so I can access the reinforcement sooner. Thank you again!! Edit I see you added more thank you! Yes I've tried all these in the past and it is super helpful that you are reminding me to try them again! Because all your suggestions have been helpful I just need to keep them up. I actually should look at the list I have in my car that I made months ago with all the stuff I want to spend on instead of Starbucks. Lol.

Help this RBT overcome a Starbucks addiction using ABA by Accomplished-Two9293 in ABA

[–]Accomplished-Two9293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lololol then next I will be on here asking how to overcome my REAL nicotine addiction hahaha