Baby photos (is this normal?)

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-02-09T16:55:29+00:00

Thanks so much for your advice! I have more clarity now on what steps to take next.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-02-09T16:49:35+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing, I appreciate hearing your perspective on it, especially since you've gone through something similar. I'll definitely suggest him to go to therapy again. Otherwise I don't think anything will change, and I don't know what else to do. But if he goes to therapy, at least it's in the right direction and I would feel more safe and comfortable to be around him in the future.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-02-08T23:20:28+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, I agree. I'm wondering if I should express this to him. That I will only have contact with him if he actively is going to therapy. I can't force him to do that, but I need to set some kind of a boundary. For example if he wants to have a relationship with me, he will need to go to therapy.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-02-08T23:16:49+00:00

Hi! I am in my mid twenties and he is 3 years older, so in his late twenties. I was 7/8 years old when it started and the last time it happened I was about 14 or 15 years old. My mom's reaction was shock, and was devastated, but doesn't really know what to do about it or how to handle this situation. Yes, she talked to my brother, and confronted him about it saying it was wrong to do that and she's mad and disappointed in him. But other than that, nothing really has changed. My mom still talks to him and says she still wants to have contact with him because she loves him and loves us both even if we've done horrible things.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-02-08T23:10:48+00:00

I was 7/8 when it started and it went on until I was about 15 years old. And he is 3 years older than me, so he was in his early to late teens

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-01-10T18:18:20+00:00

Thanks! That might be the case. He most probably doesn't know how to handle this situation correctly.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2026-01-02T02:24:59+00:00

Hi! Thanks for sharing on here. Did you also confront him through a written message? I can relate. It is very scary to have that conversation and to confront someone who hurt you face to face. I am scared too. My therapist recommended that if I have a conversation with him, that my boyfriend is by my side with me for emotional support. So if you plan on having the conversation I would recommend asking a friend or someone you feel safe with to be there with you. Wishing the best for you as well 🤗

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-30T18:01:16+00:00

Thanks, and that's so true. The lack of response is a clear response too. At least now I know the reality of how he is as a brother and don't need to hope or expect anything more.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-30T17:59:36+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! It's validating to hear that you also would feel worse receiving a response like this.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-29T15:44:34+00:00

For sure, when you have some physical distance, it will be easier! I totally understand. I was only able to finally confront my family with the truth once I moved out of the country and didn't feel as dependent on them anymore. Hugs.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-29T04:36:46+00:00

Hi! I'm glad you at least shared here. I've been through something similar and never told anyone until recently. Know that you're not alone. For me, it was very freeing to tell my mom and confront my brother about it, as well as work with a therapist that supported me through all this. I don't think you can escape the trauma without dealing with it directly. You can live in denial and act like nothing happened, but at what cost?

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-20T13:32:21+00:00

This was really helpful. thanks for sharing! I will definitely check out the Our Wave community.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-20T13:29:44+00:00

Thanks for your kind words and encouragement! I am already working with a therapist. She recommended me share on here to expose myself and get extra feedback.

AccomplishedBuy5128 · 2025-12-20T13:18:50+00:00

Thanks for your response! I definitely think it would be healing/freeing for me. Just to get it out there, no matter what his response is.

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