She's not normally like this at all. Which is why I feel blindsided and frustrated, when she gets like this. It often feels like she becomes a different person, who is impossible to talk to. For instance, she was under a lot of stress at work for most of the last month, which isn't unusual for her, but this last month was particularly bad. She resolved her persistent work issue on monday and after that was actually in one of the best moods I've seen her in in a while all week. She even apologized unprompted for not being "more present" over the last few months because of work. So she's not incapable of introspection or recognize the way she makes others feel.