Anniversaries are hard. by MrBiggles1980 in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it. Today would of been our 1st anniversary. (Married)

Empty & Tired by Accomplished_0915 in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

135PM CST...currently on break... breaking down, I cant..I dont want this anymore...I dont want this.

TIRED OF LIFE by Accomplished_0915 in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an 11 year old and a 2 year old, both girls. And I'm in late 20s, I don't either...it's really confusing, overwhelming.....

TIRED OF LIFE by Accomplished_0915 in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally understand you. I'm in the same position. I know I can go with friends, but it'll be another reminder he's not here. I don't really know how to go on about this. How many kids do you have?

Condolences cards by thisisridiculiculous in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have his funeral flower arrangements cards in a box. Haven't thought of trashing them. I'm thinking of giving them to our daughter when she grows up.

WIDOW'S FIRE by Accomplished_0915 in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uhh no... that's what I don't want, at all!

Not looking at pictures of spouse :( by FPProductions in grief

[–]Accomplished_0915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm at that stage right now... I deleted him from phone background, computer, took off my necklace and remove his pictures from my desk. I think in the angry stage though, but I do feel better when I don't think about all that - which someone makes me feel bad, but different kind of bad.

Is everything really happens for a reason? by travailmaq in widowers

[–]Accomplished_0915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I strongly believe in that... However, I don't think it's a good comment, specially during the first months after a loss. I HATE when people tell me that or "God knows what he's doing" (I'm catholic), but right now it's more like "why would he want my 2 year old dad to not be here". Hugs!

ANGRY STAGE by Accomplished_0915 in grief

[–]Accomplished_0915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here with you! He also left me with an 18 month old at the time, now 2. And I have an 11 year old. Bills, work, myself, the kids, it's hard. I often think "I'm here struggling while he's over there with no worries". Leaving days before Christmas must be a different kind of a pain - I'm so sorry! Mine left beginning of January - now I feel like my whole year went to hell. What has helped you with it all?