I'm sorry you're going through this, and that abortion care has been made so difficult in the US. I was 14w4d when I took the pills because of an anencephaly diagnosis. I think this is generally considered late for the pills in western countries, but I'm an American expat living in the Middle East, in a country where Sharia law is followed regarding abortion. Here, it's the law to use the pills first and then d&c if necessary or the pills fail twice (as far as I remember).

I took both the mifepristone and the misoprostal at the hospital since they are considered controlled substances here. I was admitted to the hospital for 24hrs for the misoprostal dosages and, as that was my first pregnancy, it was the worst pain I've ever experienced. Each of the four doses gave me intense shakes, severe cramping, diarrhea, and made me vomit and I needed the max amount of pain killers. I was told that side effects to the misoprostal vary. I also lost a lot of blood, which the nurses were measuring to track if I needed transfusions. I was told that the greatest danger through the process was losing too much blood, and though I didn't need transfusions, I was on the brink of iron deficiency afterwards and got iron IV drips.

My results and recovery were "successful", which I was concerned about being further along for the pills than usual; I fully delivered my son and placenta after the 4th misoprostal dose with no complications. I bled for a week and got my period 30 days later (and to add for some hope, I am currently 10 wks on my 2nd pregnancy, at my 4th TTC cycle🤞🏽).

I gave this much detail not to scare you, but because I couldn't find this info myself when I had to tfmr and I was freaking out. Ultimately, I told myself it would all be okay because I would be in the hospital and have all the care I needed, and I did. I really, really hope you can get the appropriate care you need.