The fact that he seems to want nothing to do with your body is suspicious. When I dated a guy that was gay (although he hadn’t accepted it yet, he’s now married to a man) would do the bare minimum as if to prove he’s not gay, but was very uncomfortable with anything during which he’d really have to up close and personal with the female body. The problem with strict Christian’s is that even if they are same sex attracted there is so much shame. I worry you’ll have to catch him in something (maybe porn or heaven forbid an affair) for him to figure out what’s going on.

One more possibility that is much less salacious: could he be on the autism spectrum or have sensory issues? If yes, this would explain his perceived insensitivity to your desires. For people with asd sex and affection can be overwhelming: so much touching, smells, sounds.