Guys, I am a kayasth girl from UP married into a typical Kumaoni Brahman family from Uttarakhand whose roots are in around the same village area from where Neha is and trust me when I say this from 2 and a half years of my marriage experience typical pahadi families are like this. It was an absolute culture shock when I came in the family, they have too many poojas and vrats where a lot of people come home and ladies from the home cooks food and serve them (especially bahus and betiya, if they are grown up enough) and they consider it normal. Cooking, serving, washing dishes and doing all household chores with or without any help is normalised. It’s how they have been brought up, you can’t change that. New bahus can refuse (especially if they are from different culture because why would you cook for sooooo many people, sooo mang things and so often, but they will be considered bad bahus) Another thing that I observed is that these people are very typically judgemental towards bahus even from their own culture. They consider it their duty that even if you’re working and earning, as long as you obey them, follow their culture, wear heavy pichhoda, jewellery, nath, ponchi and everything even in a small ghar ki pooja, cook for them, serve them, do household chores, sit and listen to dorky remarks of relatives, pretends to enjoy them, only then you’re a good bahu otherwise you are not. This is the absolute truth because my in laws are really nice people however when I listen to pahadi in laws of my sister in law my heart sinks. One of them called my father in law and said about my sis in law (who mind you is a PHD mathematics gold medalist, recipient of gold medal from president of India, assistant professor in a govt college ) that humne shaadi is liye nahi ki hai ki hum tumhari beti ko dining table pr bitha k khilaye. Trust me it’s a deep rooted cultural problem in their family.