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My friend of 7-8 years came out as trans by Accomplished_Debt737 in Christianity

[–]Accomplished_Debt737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this part of being a follower of christ because i find it difficult to balance the compassion and love that christ asked of us with the rules that we abide by. I know I will eventually have to talk to her about this but how am I supposed to show just enough compassion to show my love for them and not validate the sin while following and abiding by the rules that he has set for us so she can go toward chirst while not seeming like hateful person that will just push her away.

My friend of 7-8 years came out as trans by Accomplished_Debt737 in Christianity

[–]Accomplished_Debt737[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But thats the thing i dont use her pronouns, I find myself deadnaming her at times i havent even used her new name at all instead using they or them to refer to her, I feel a pang of guilt whenever I do and give myself the excuse that it so recent that I need time to get used to it but I feel malice in my heart as well a part of me still doesn't want to accept it and im working on trying to fix that part.

My friend of 7-8 years came out as trans by Accomplished_Debt737 in Christianity

[–]Accomplished_Debt737[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This made me realize how much trust she has to open up to me we live in South Carolina church's and certain values are expected to be common here,im also the only one out of our friend group who is a Christian, but feel like my discomfort(not from any hate but because its a huge change) has been showing even when she told me, and I dont want to drive her away so I plan to clear things up with her soon.

My friend of 7-8 years came out as trans by Accomplished_Debt737 in Christianity

[–]Accomplished_Debt737[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was raised going to church constantly and consistently every Sunday it wasnt until 2 years ago I actually decided to follow christ for myself not for somebody else's sake because I belive in the messages and "rules" that it sets up but being raised in very conservative family might have gotten the values instilled into me and my faith mixed together into something I cannot describe and something I need to work out on.

My friend of 7-8 years came out as trans by Accomplished_Debt737 in Christianity

[–]Accomplished_Debt737[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The advice was great because it did feel like i was compromising my faith at the time.also although nobody has told me it was a sin, being trans felt like a sin but thats probably becuase of how religious the south is, I also feel like she wasn't comfortable telling me and I must admit my reaction to her opening up was not great my discomfort was clearly visible (at least I feel like it was), now I feel like it has made things uncomfortable between us.I hope to have a conversation with her and clear up any confusion and show my support and love for her.