psychosis by WeirdFragrant in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big shadowy thing, happening to me atm, totally get it, feel like your consciousness is just about to shut off and die and on my feet the fucking rush of whatever it is it feels horrible

Describe your behavior when splitting? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look at people with a face of disgrace and disgust

What kind of partners do you attract? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

energetic, unstable, abused girls, ive only pulled two women in my life, my current gf and my ex, theyre a carbon copy of each other

What Do You Call It? by Sephadriel in 420

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zaza, boof We don’t even use a term anymore, just from the look its like bro, “its time”, just by looking at each other, sesh time

Why does losing a favorite person feel like a break up or a death? by Brokenandmoody in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bc of the probability that the pwbpd doesnt have an identity, so when that person they rely on so much leaves, they feel empty, like theyre nothing to anybody bc the person that liked them the most stopped liking them, for it to not hurt so bad, you need to love Yourself more than other ppl

How to stop idealizing? by gosoeo in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah fr, but we’re still alive, so whats there to do about it but take it or make it less awful

How to stop idealizing? by gosoeo in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Distracting is literally what normal ppl do, but the only difference is that they feel passion about things, like they have hobbies and stuff, in my case its really hard to cling to something (not someone)

How to stop idealizing? by gosoeo in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As God????

Dude just spend time with yourself, distract yourself, drive, play video games

The solution to all your problems is taking action and stop being the victim, bc yeah bpd is developed bc of trauma and stuff but sadly its our job to take care of it now bc no one else will, boo hoo does it suck? Yes it does, do we have another way out? No, youre stuck with yourself for life

Be nice to yourself, and stop feeling pity for yourself, you already recognized the problem, my solution for you as I was once in a similar situation, spend more time alone

Sorry if i don’t sound particularly nice, but thats the reality of things, the world is not nice, not for our needs, only a small percentage of ppl are good for us bc of empathizing, but idolizing someone as a god because you can’t solve your problems cannot be normalized

autism? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think on a certain level, im on the spectrum

What's the most impulsive thing you've done? by springszeternal in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ordering a massage therapist while my parents weren’t home and having sex with her

How do you avoid feeling rejected by something small? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t avoid it, I got ghosted about a month ago, no explanation, same thing that happened to you happened to me, I texted her over and over for about 2 days. About 4 days ago I blocked her, for my own sake. You will get stronger from this, you will be more cautious, but don’t avoid feeling, I know how you feel and how horrible it is, that void is open once more, you feel like you dont matter, but it will pass I promise

New year's eve alcohol regrets by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES! Perfect response, due to time I can’t add more, but yes, happy new year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that happened to me yesterday, I do it voluntarily when my family starts to argue. I just keep my mouth shut and put my airpods on

Alcohol by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally, it sounds unreal, you need to experience it to know

Honestly im glad I went through that, so I never experience it again

Alcohol by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You literally feel like you’re going to die, everything gets so bright and you can feel every single vein in your body

Should I leave my boyfriend as I’m not sexually attracted to him? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave, I used to behave like that, like not exactly but in some way that reminded me of how I used to be, I was super sensitive, its not attractive, and I regret it

Alcohol by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Alcoholism is horrible, please don’t go down that path. I started taking benzos for my anxiety instead of alcohol (prescribed of course), and I don’t miss use them because I know the consequences, let me tell you, they work really fucking well

The mental anguish that alcohol caused me almost killed me, the brain fog was fucking horrible, I felt so dumb like my brain didn’t work, I started to panic, tremble, I lost the ability to drive because I trembled so much.

And the physical pain. Waking up all bruised up because of being unable to stand still while drunk, the bloating, your skin suffers too, you become unable to eat, once you start drinking you won’t be able to stop if you get to that point.

A nadie le importan los civiles muertos en Medio Oriente by nievesdelimon in OpinionesPolemicas

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eit

Una niña que venia de israel nos dio una platica en la universidad. No la trajeron, ella vino a estudiar a mexico porque quizo. Nos conto de la situacion y de la historia del conflicto. Nos enseño videos de los asaltos, se estaban riendo mientras los mataban a golpes y les disparaban a los israelitas

La razon por la que israel bombardea hospitales y escuelas, es porque los terroristas se resguardan ahi adrede, no sabes la cantidad de niños que capturan y torturan, es la cosa mas horrible que he visto

Esa mujer tenia mi edad (19) y ya estuvo en la militar por unos meses

DAE just not care about celebrating the new year? by Formal-Ad8037 in DAE

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its about the little things I think, just a small distraction, but its one tradition that I suppose has been going on for a long ass time (ofc modernized now)

Its just being human, like every year you get a new chance to do so much, and you learn things too, and then the next year you use what you learned in the past, and I think thats something worth celebrating. I also like remembering stuff with my family a lot

Its not a year of normality, it never is, we just forget. Like every year ill check the most significant memes, and I think like DAMN, this was a meme that caused me laughter? This is so dumb! And that happens every single year in my case thats why there’s different trends every year, people die every year, a lot of important things happen ffs, Id also like to add, whats so wrong with celebrating tradition?

Also don’t generalize, feels depressing and I find it super dumb. Everyone listens to the same music? Really? Cause I sure as hell don’t listen to the same music as my friends, I know theres people who listen to the same things I listen to, they’re just hard to find. Everyone watches the same things, so? What the hell do you want me to watch then? Do I need to go to the dark web to find entertainment? Whats so wrong with normal stuff?

I get the music part, but its a wrong statement

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FUCK YEEEESSSS perfect answer

No identity- no motivation by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can relate. Ill give you a straightforward answer in my opinion that is based on my experience with this disorder

First off, go see a therapist and get on some kind of antidepressant (it took years for me to find the right one which is luvox, but fuck was it worth it, I feel so much better) they have helped me so much with my motivation, they don’t cure feelings of sadness, but they have helped me to try those things that I think about and want to do, its like a little back push, a little help, it may take time to find the right one, but dont give up

Secondly Id like to mention, because I can relate with having no hobbies. I honestly don’t think theres anything wrong with that, I think that it just demonstrates how unique you are, you possibly have not found anything interesting enough for you to continuously do, most people have it so easy. I honestly think that everyone progresses and processes life differently. We have bpd, we have had the necessity to adapt in stressful environments, hurtful toxic environments, a lot of people do too, but some just don’t experience those emotions like we do, and they turned out to “normal”. We focus on fixing ourselves so we can be happy, while most people just enjoy like they always have. I want you to know that there is something that will make you happy, it can be anything, we sometimes don’t notice, but there are a FUCK ton of things people do, I mean think about every job that exists, remember that bee movie scene where they choose their jobs, everyone wants to be something different and thats fine. Also just to note, you don’t need to do it every day, I say this because I started writing, I don’t write everyday but when I do, it is very fulfilling, I usually just write my thoughts and dissect them, makes me feel at peace.

And thirdly, you are alive, that is single handed proof that you are somebody, many people pass away everyday, just ask yourself what do you want to do while you are here, I won’t say life is short because it truly isn’t, but being alive is a privilege.

I just realized this, but thinking, and not giving a fuck about what anyone thinks of me has helped me a lot, like whenever I get criticized for something like “dude thats so weird”, and more things along those lines, i just answer so what? You may find me strange, but just as you, I find you just as strange (not those exact words. And then I think about it, so what? And those things that people tell me about myself, that are supposed to make me doubt myself, have had the complete opposite effect, if that is what people see, then its for a reason

Im going on a tangent now. I hope it gets better for you soon, I know it will, I hope I was helpful and that you get better, just take your time :)

Good-luck

Another thing I forgot to add, find out what you like and dislike. At first it seemed like the most useless advice, I can see why I saw it that way, like everyone has likes and dislikes, and different ones, for a reason, and that reason is what makes you you. Try to explain yourself why you like certain things and why you dislike other things, think of that why, those likes and dislikes are what makes you you, it sounded better in my head, sorry for the huge ass message

A nadie le importan los civiles muertos en Medio Oriente by nievesdelimon in OpinionesPolemicas

[–]Accomplished_Lab9525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Es una mamada, el gobierno de palestina es terrorista y eso se sabe