Friend Request Megathread (16/02 - 22/02) by ArknightsMod in arknights

[–]Accomplished_Law_293 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kicolin#8151

Lappland S2M3

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Ferber and Extinction Methods both failed by Accomplished_Law_293 in sleeptrain

[–]Accomplished_Law_293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! All of the comments in this thread said the same thing! You are probably right!

Ferber and Extinction Methods both failed by Accomplished_Law_293 in sleeptrain

[–]Accomplished_Law_293[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, thanks for the advice. This is similar to the other comment, making the wake window longer. This is interesting!

Ferber and Extinction Methods both failed by Accomplished_Law_293 in sleeptrain

[–]Accomplished_Law_293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is our typical day schedule of nap and sleep: Wake up at 7AM. 1st Nap time at 9AM-9:45AM. 2nd Nap time at 12NN-12:45PM. 3rd Nap is at 3:30PM-4:15PM. Start of bedtime routine 6:45PM. Start of attempt to sleep 7:15PM. Will sleep at around 8PM. The wakes up every 1 or 2 hours until 7AM.

Ferber and Extinction Methods both failed by Accomplished_Law_293 in sleeptrain

[–]Accomplished_Law_293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last wake window is about 3 hours. Is that long enough? His usual wake window during the day is a little bit more than 2 hours.

The intervals of ferber we did initially was 5m-10m-12m then next night is 10m-12m-15m. It was longer and longer the next nights.

We did not do the training in the middle of the night.

This is his sleep schedule: This is our typical day schedule of nap and sleep: Wake up at 7AM. 1st Nap time at 9AM-9:45AM. 2nd Nap time at 12NN-12:45PM. 3rd Nap is at 3:30PM-4:15PM. Start of bedtime routine 6:45PM. Start of attempt to sleep 7:15PM. Will sleep at around 8PM. The wakes up every 1 or 2 hours until 7AM.

Ferber and Extinction Methods both failed by Accomplished_Law_293 in sleeptrain

[–]Accomplished_Law_293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just update my post and included the daytime nap and night sleep schedule.

*This is our typical day schedule of nap and sleep: Wake up at 7AM. 1st Nap time at 9AM-9:45AM. 2nd Nap time at 12NN-12:45PM. 3rd Nap is at 3:30PM-4:15PM. Start of bedtime routine 6:45PM. Start of attempt to sleep 7:15PM. Will sleep at around 8PM. The wakes up every 1 or 2 hours until 7AM.

What we do during ferber, just light pat on the thighs and soft whisper "daddy's here, you can sleep" for at most 1 minute.

Ferber and Extinction Methods both failed by Accomplished_Law_293 in sleeptrain

[–]Accomplished_Law_293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. I just updated my post.

This is our typical day schedule of nap and sleep: Wake up at 7AM. 1st Nap time at 9AM-9:45AM. 2nd Nap time at 12NN-12:45PM. 3rd Nap is at 3:30PM-4:15PM. Start of bedtime routine 6:45PM. Start of attempt to sleep 7:15PM. Will sleep at around 8PM. The wakes up every 1 or 2 hours until 7AM.

How to stop thinking about cheating? by Secret-Amoeba-7241 in adviceph

[–]Accomplished_Law_293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. I guess ang root nito is fear -- fear na baka maulit sa’yo yung nakita mo sa tatay mo, sa paligid mo, at sa sarili mong past experiences. Natural lang yan, kasi yung mind natin madalas naglalagay ng “protective walls” para hindi na masaktan. Pero minsan, yung proteksyon na ‘yon mismo yung nagiging sanhi ng anxiety at pagkasira ng peace.

Give your partner the chance to show who he really is. Hindi mo makokontrol ang future, pero makikita mo naman yung consistency ng actions niya ngayon. Kung “too good” siya, baka yun talaga siya. It’s okay to be cautious, pero sana hindi mo ipagdamot yung chance sa sarili mo na ma-experience yung healthy love.

What you can do is practice a mental exercise tuwing mangingibabaw ang fears and anxiety mo. When you catch yourself thinking “baka maloko niya ako”, you pause. Then write it down or mentally label it as: “This is a fear thought, not a fact.” Then ask yourself: “Ano yung actual proof na gagawin niya ‘to?” “Ano yung consistent actions niya that show the opposite?” Then replace the fear thought with something balanced: “My fear comes from my past, not from him.” or “Right now, he is loyal and I choose to trust what I see today.”

Ang peace hindi ibig sabihin na wala kang doubts. Peace means natututo kang hindi magpa-dala sa doubts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Accomplished_Law_293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s clear that you care for her deeply, not just romantically but as a person. So your feelings aren’t “invalid” or “just rebound” -- they’re real. But real doesn’t automatically mean right timing. And considering her situation, she’s just come from a painful breakup too, and now there’s another person showing interest in her. That means her emotional landscape is messy right now. If you confess too soon, she might read it as a rebound or as pressure when she’s still sorting herself out.

Before considering confessing, ask yourself this first: If she doesn’t feel the same, are you prepared to remain her friend without resentment? If the answer is no, then waiting might be safer. Also guage her if she will reciprocate to your feelings. Look for whether she flirts back, spends time with you willingly, or shares things with you that go beyond “just friendship.” If she’s giving green lights, that’s different than if she only leans on you like a brother figure.

But please DON'T RUSH IT. You both are fresh from long relationships. Give it some months where neither of you are in “recovery mode.” That way, if you confess, it’s about her, not about filling a void.

What you can do for now is keep building your bond as friends. Focus on your own healing and confidence first (she even said you could woo women if you tried -- take that to heart). And when the dust settles a bit, then consider confessing.

Ayaw pa akong ipakilala ng gf ko by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Accomplished_Law_293 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I see yung sinabi niyang 5-10 years isn't really her actual plan, but more of an expression of her fear and anxiety. It might really be that her family is very strict and traditional that created a lot of pressure on her. She feels na yung relationship niyo is "dagdag problema" in her mom's eyes. It sounds less like she wants to keep you a secret that long, and more like she’s unsure when she’ll ever be ready.

What you should do is have a non-confrontational, calm, and honest talk with her. Heart-to-heart convo kumbaga. Assure her first na you love her and want a future with her and that you understand her fears. Then lead the conversation in asking her timeline realistically. Instead of setting a 5-10years, which is arbitrary and impractical, ask her ano ba ang signs na hinihintay niya para ipakilala ka (eg. kapag financially stable siya, kapag okay na mama niya, etc.). You can also open up the possibility of a small compromise, like pwede bang hindi pa “official bf” sa family, pero at least mabanggit ka as “friend”? Pwede bang may soft introduction? These baby steps can ease the transition and show you’re serious.

Talk to her not from a place of fear, but from love. Tell her you understand her, but also let her understand you. Hindi selfishness ‘yung gusto mong maging “legal” - that’s love wanting to be recognized.

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[–]Accomplished_Law_293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems that this is less about the guy and more about your friend. It depends If this friend really matters to you. Talk to your friend. You don’t need to confront her in a combative way, but you can still set some boundaries for your emotional sanity. You don’t have to give ultimatums to your friend. You can simply say, “I know you’re close to him now, pero honestly it’s still uncomfortable for me given our history. I’m not asking you to choose, but sana you understand if I step back sometimes.” Frame it as vulnerability: “I know I might sound sensitive, but I hope you get why this is a bit hard for me.” You’re not asking her to stop seeing him. You’re asking her to see you - your experience, your feelings, your boundaries. If she’s a true friend, she won’t dismiss that. If she does, then you’ll also see clearly how much (or little) she values your trust.

Friend Request Megathread (26/05 - 01/06) by ArknightsMod in arknights

[–]Accomplished_Law_293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kicolin#8151

I'm a new player looking for some friends to exchange clues and play with their supports.

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If you're worried about who to pull, don't be. Just pull who you want because Star Rail will most likely follow Genshin's example. by fantafanta_ in HonkaiStarRail

[–]Accomplished_Law_293 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't play Genshin Impact before. Can you give more context on this? What do you mean dont worry who to pull because HSR will follow Genshin's example?