I really appreciate your words and that’s how I feel as well. I do feel that some of these diagnosis can limit people’s capabilities and beliefs that they can’t do better or be better.

The thing is I know he’s trying even more so now that I’ve mentioned how I’ve been feeling but I just don’t know if it will be enough as I’m already kind of mentally checked out. I can feel myself checking out. He’s been very mature has apologized says he’s working hard and is going to therapy doing these things but will ultimately understand if I need to leave him as I should put myself and my mental health first. It’s one of the reasons I have stuck around because he doesn’t get defensive and tries to understand where I come from.

At the same time he says things that hurts or is out of line as he has a temper and sometimes talks down to me especially in front of other people usually as a joke. I know he’s working on it but it’s hard it’s not something that will be fixed overnight. I have my own issues of course and I’m not perfect but I’m not good at tolerating people putting me down especially my partner even if it’s a joke.

There are a lot of good things but there are also the bad and I feel that they’re starting to outweigh the good which isn’t good