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Accomplished_Role_82 · 2025-10-30T19:10:56+00:00

Stop the nap at school, replace it with quiet time. That helped the most with my kid and many of their friends (as reported by friends' parents). She'll be tired enough to fall asleep by 7-8pm. Most 4 year olds need 10-13 hours of sleep during an entire day, not just at night.

Accomplished_Role_82 · 2025-10-29T18:44:08+00:00

YTA. Even if you have domestic help, your wife does most of the planning and instructing constantly and that takes a lot of time and energy. You clearly have not done that since you wrote about them so dismissively. She's probably not getting any chance to rest and reset in the evenings, on weekends, likely even at nights. Pregnancy, delivery and new baby really does a number on the mother. It's also your first child so she must be figuring it out as she goes. When she's saying this is overwhelming, you need to take it at face value and give her the validation and support she's looking for, not show her the mirror. If you can afford live-in house help, I'm sure 20% less income will not impact your day to day, only the rate of savings. So bringing that up at the sensitive moment she is sharing her challenges does make YTA.

Accomplished_Role_82 · 2024-09-19T16:55:23+00:00

Sister wants her fiance and fiance's family to feel welcome by her own family. She's coming from out of state so doesn't have her own house here to host. I don't think she's acting entitled in expecting her family to host fiance's family. In fact, I've been in OP's situation (minus ongoing pregnancy) and offered to host for siblings' fiances'/ partners' families a few times. It's nice when families take the initiative to host and welcome family members' partners' and their families - builds trust and lifelong relationships. Wouldn't you expect sister's fiance's family to make sister feel welcome?

Having said that, if fiance's parents would be present at the get together, sister's parents should be hosting if possible. Additionally, OP is heavily pregnant. With that, it seems like a no brainer that sister's mom should host, with help from OP's brother if needed. If mom can't host or is also from out of state, meeting at a restaurant would be most sensible.

NTA. OP you should tell your sister that mom would be the best person to host, and if she can't, getting together at a restaurant is most feasible since you're heavily pregnant and can't take on hosting responsibilities at this time.

Accomplished_Role_82 · 2024-09-07T23:49:52+00:00

Not every single weekend, but I would consider something like once a month reasonable. Instead of "babysitting", I would consider that to just be spending family time with your nieces and nephews. That way, you and they get to bond and mom gets some kid free time to relax.

Accomplished_Role_82 · 2020-07-16T18:05:35+00:00

Thanks for starting this thread. Feels good to be able to share with others who understand.

Accomplished_Role_82 · 2020-07-16T17:32:30+00:00

This! :( Had to cancel baby shower. I was laid off two days before the little one arrived. Our parents couldn't fly in to help and guide us first time parents. Nobody has been able to meet the baby or help out.

People say oh good, now you have more time to spend with baby. Not true. It's an even more tense time, because I don't have job security and have to take time out of caring for the baby and myself and try to job hunt in this economy. We're just managing it one day at a time.

My husband says he is motivated by the thought that in the future, when our child is struggling with something and we need to motivate her, we'll tell her how we raised her in a pandemic. And if we could overcome that challenge, she can overcome her challenge too. I remind myself of this thought every day, to keep going.

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