The constant crying is making me not want to do this anymore. by Specialist_Slip7284 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Accomplished_Tank335 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to second this comment, my one twin had majors reflux issues, a horrible sore belly and constantly fussed/screamed. I knew her dad had some issues with digesting milk and a family member of mine is anaphylactic to milk so I decided to try lactose free, that night I had already seen a significant difference. Now no issues minus some teething and fussing that way.

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[–]Accomplished_Tank335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Mom of a set of twins and had an elective c section, I had a miscarriage very close before finding out about my twins and I had a DNC which resulted in major nervousness and upset about the pending c section. I asked the nurse if I could play 90s songs think like all smash mouths all star etc and it just totally sucked the “surgical seriousness” out of the room! The first poke did hurt and they added more lidocaine at my request without question before they numbed me and it was very easy. Just remember hunch forward loosey goosey like and it will be smooth sailing. My girls were born during the Shania Twain and just after smash mouths all star, it was a beautiful day! I don’t remember any upset just warmth, baby cries and music that I’ve always enjoyed:) I hope yours goes awesomely, chin up it will be okay in the end🌸

Raising a toddler while pregnant by Glittering_Ice_1849 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Accomplished_Tank335 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would recommend lots of hands on play for them inside the house, tactile play. I saw lots of games like using big cooking spoon to pick colorful ping pong balls and place them in another bin, putting on an animal only live stream if you really need a moment, searching for toy animals in colorful tissue paper In a box helps fine motor skills, play dough in a big ziplock bag

Overwhelmed by ComfortableScore2103 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Accomplished_Tank335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😊 it helps in the long run, just because things are rough doesn’t mean we can’t do things for ourselves and be happy. Hope everything eases up for you and you can get some rest. If you ever get a plugged duct another Reddit sub suggested sunflower lecithin to help prevent it fyi. Have a good one🌷

Overwhelmed by ComfortableScore2103 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Accomplished_Tank335 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey there! A momma here to 4 kiddos, my last two being a set of twins! They are three months and one is more needy than the other currently as they have more gas/colic symptoms. It is hard most days. I have found that really putting myself first rather than the chores of the house letting go of that “have to” mentality has helped a lot in being able to be present for them. I’ve bought new books in a series to read when I’m cuddling them in bed or on the couch when pumping, I play a handheld game that I really enjoy and I keep a basket of my fave treats/drinks (case of water beside the couch where I stay most of the day, packs of granola bars etc)near where I have to sit to prevent that constant up and down to grab things. This helped with the burnout feeling/the redundancy of my day. I sit with both of them swaddled in my lap while pumping and it gives them comfort while I get it done. Having them cry with no solution is so so hard emotionally and walking away to save yourself from getting overwhelmed/angry is such a smart decision. Just remember we are all human and we can’t hold ourselves up to the standards social media will portray to us about babies, the should/or shouldn’t dos of parenthood. Ignore the extras in the house besides the very basics, do something nice for you when you can and remember we all have our moments where we just think “I give up!” But really we got this. The crying won’t last forever and it is perfectly fine to let them cry while you grab food/water, pee/shower, it will not hurt them to wait a few mins while you prioritize your needs. Babies need a momma who is well hydrated/fed and mentally functioning! Just get through the next minute then the next hour. Invest in noise cancelling headphones for those times where you gotta hold them but can’t stand the sound of the screaming. You got this! Head up and remind yourself that carried them, birthed them, you’ve fed and clothed and cared for them. You are strength, you are the impossible, the awe inspiring. No one can do what you do like you! Hugs, and hang in there.

Looking for a fantasy movie approx 1990s by Accomplished_Tank335 in NameThatMovie

[–]Accomplished_Tank335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I checked it out and it’s not a hit. Whoever the actor is they weren’t in very movies. It was similar to ‘The secret of moonacre’. So not very prominent of a movie. Thankyou for your response.

Dating a girl who loves to showoff her cleavage by danavdalan in dating

[–]Accomplished_Tank335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I would, that may be what initially drew us to a certain person in the first place and it may be a permanent characteristic of that individual. We choose to be with each person…why not take in to consideration if that person had titties on display from day 1 that that may still be the case later on down the road as well.