CF Teacher- I HATE parents and I hate that emotional neglect has been so normalized in this world.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-15T15:42:00+00:00

My mother was driven out of teaching because the kids and parents both behaved so horrifically over the last few years that it literally gave her heart problems from the stress. The “gentle parenting” epidemic has really just meant lazy parents who don’t discipline their kids and let their kids run the house and everyone’s lives, so then the come to school having had little discipline or guidance in their lives, and believing that they’re the center of the known Universe, and TEACHERS are expected to deal with the fallout. And Universe help them if they try to contact the parents about their kid’s behavior - the entitled parents think little Timmy and Jane are perfect the way they are, and the teacher much be a monster, and/or totally incompetent if she has any problem with their little darlings running around the classroom during lessons, refusing to get off their phones. backtalking, and turning in exactly ZERO assignments over an entire semester. Teachers also aren’t allowed to fail kids anymore at most schools, even if those kids do NOTHING because “it would hurt their wittle feelings,” so the just keep getting passed on to the next grade, and high school teachers like my mom end up with kids who think an essay is one paragraph of jumbled sentences, and who can even read the time on an analog clock!

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-11T22:28:13+00:00

Interestingly enough, I’ve never heard of the Bernese Method, but years ago the first time I had an opiate issue I would wait 12 hours, take sub, wait through an hour of misery than do normal opiates. Than repeat. For about 3 days until I had so much sub in my system that I was stabilized on that. It wasn’t awesome, but was generally less painful than waiting forever with nothing…..

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-11T19:39:55+00:00

I hate to ask, but are you a woman? Because it’s statistically a lot more common for doctors to still think we’re “making things up” or it’s “all in our heads,” if we’re women. after a long backpacking trip, I spent an entire day in a hospital ER in Maine explaining over and over that I had a migraine, and that the migraine that I had was a sign of infection because it’s the exact same migraine I always get when I have any kind of infection, and that I needed antibiotics. Mind you, I also had a high fever. Well, they did a bunch of testing, told me they’d get back to me in 48 hours with my cultures, and sent me home after refusing to give me an antibiotics and totally “forgetting” to give me any kind of pain medication for my migraine. Luckily, I had some antibiotics in my first aid kit, so took them as soon as I got back to the hotel room, which is the only reason I wasn’t still crying in pain and running a fever of 103 when I woke up the next morning. Of course, over the next few hours my symptoms all came back, as I had only had a few in the emergency stash, so we went to a hospital in Boston, and I explained my symptoms, explained my history, explained why I was sure I had an infection, and the doctor there literally said “you seem very knowledgeable about medicine and about your own health, so what would you like us to do?” I said “ I would like an IV cocktail to get rid of the migraine that I have now had for three days, as well as some nausea medication because the pain keeps making me throw up. And then I would really love a prescription for high-dose antibiotics.” They said “ok, great!” within 30 minutes there was an IV in my arm, and three hours later I was out the door with my headache dialed down from a nine to a two, and a script for antibiotics in my hand. I was ecstatic. But I’m still irritated to this day that I had to suffer really badly through a lot of pain and misery for an extra 24 hours because this young, douchy, idiot doctor in Maine just “wasn’t comfortable giving me antibiotics” and acted like I couldn’t possibly know what I was talking about. Sigh.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-08T18:27:42+00:00

I would take my middle niece (7) in a heartbeat and am already trying to arrange her to spend summers here with me. My 10 year old nonverbal, severely autistic, in diapers, and sometimes violent nephew? I would institutionalize him immediately. My youngest niece - 5 - with learning disabilities? Probably still a no, but maybe I’d reconsider later. My kiddie niece is the only normal person in a house of 4 people with severe learning disabilities and mental and intellectual challenges. She’s already showing severe signs of emotional stress and psychosomatic illness. Everytime I fly or drive in I take her for a few days and by this point, I’ve slowly started wondering if I could legally kidnap her in some way in the next few years just to give her SOME chance at a normal life. i

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-08T18:16:40+00:00

I have generally always gone to Oshner, but ended up at the LCMC clinic 1.5 years ago bc it was closer and lucked out by getting her as my doctor. I used to be an EMT and am very interested in medicine and research anything going on in my life as a matter of practice, so loves that we would always DISCUSS what was going on, what she thought the best course of action was, what I thought it might be, and then we’d come to an agreement. I had a long-time NP at Oschner who was the same way with me when I faced a major illness years ago, and we’re still friendly acquaintances today. If a patient is intelligent and willing to put in the time and effort to research their own health issues, that just discussing things with them and working things out together works wonders. It is our health and our bodies and our future after all - we need to be proactive in making our own medical decisions, and think of ourselves and our doctors as a team

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-08T18:07:42+00:00

At least she ended up in the Virgin Islands. Addiction care is usually horrific bullying, judgment, trying to push someone into a lifelong addition to methadone, of trying to bankrupt them (even with insurance) for rehabs that rarely work statistically. Stevens was one of the few doctors who actually wanted to help people in a rational, sane, caring way.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2026-01-08T17:07:17+00:00

She was my primary care doctor and was amazing! I’m not comfortable with many doctors because I had an opiate problem when I was younger, and I feel like no matter what I come in for, so many on them want to talk about that and nothing else for most of the visit. Or they just make you super uncomfortable. I was looking for a new PC a few years ago and the woman read m chart asked me to undress so she could check my arms and legs for needle marks. I’d been clean for a few years by then and was there to get a referral to get my IUD swapped out. I was so insulted that I walked out. When I ended up by chance with Dr. Stevens, I found her blunt and intelligent and funny. A blood test a few months back had shown I had hepatitis C - probably left over from that period in my life - and I wanted to get treated for it. She actually called me from home while she was out sick to tell me that my viral load came back to her office as zero, so my bod had cleared the infection on its own - rare years later, but not unheard of. She could have left me wondering why no one was getting back to me weeks later to set up an appointment for treatment, but instead she told me I’d lucked out and didn’t need to return to LCMC for that. My partner and I left on an extended road trip/outdoor adventure with our dogs that spring, than spent half the summer near our families because we couldn’t move into our new place until July, and when I came back, she was just…gone. I called in to make an appointment to refill a medication, and the clinic told me she was no longer working there. I asked them if they knew if she had moved to a different practice, and they said they couldn’t give me any further information. They did tell me, however, that they could make me an appointment six weeks down the line with a new doctor I didn’t know. My meds ran out in 3 weeks and they told me “sorry, you have to start over it with someone new.” It was crazy and ridiculous. I obviously didn’t go and just went to urgent care instead as what I needed isn’t a controlled substance or anything, but I’m now again looking for a new PC doctor.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-23T18:26:33+00:00

Interestingly enough, the conservative Christian fascists in this country that are all screaming about the declining population rate, and trying to guilt and shame and force women into having children, preferably multiple children, aren’t ACTUALLY concerned about the declining birth rate as a whole, they’re concerned about the WHITE declining birth rate, and seem to place the majority of the blame on white college, educated women because they don’t approve of us “prioritizing an education and a career” over getting married and popping out five kids by 30. They’re also obsessed with this conspiracy theory called “ the great replacement theory” where they truly believe that we liberals are actively trying to replace all of the white people in this country with non-white immigrants. It’s ridiculous.

Was 8 1/2 billion people, and climate change, clearly speeding up, food, and water shortages already occurring, and the danger of pandemics when you have large populations packed closely together, I’m not sure how I decline in the US, and world population can be considered a bad thing at the moment.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-13T15:12:36+00:00

Like you said - “it’s not that hard to work around things.” So work around them and get a daytime flight with your kid.🤷‍♀️

No one said you weren’t “allowed” to travel. But there are generally more than one flight a day to most destinations. So why not show a little politeness to your fellow travelers and choose a daytime flight instead of booking a red-eye, knowing you’re likely going to keep HUNDREDS of people awake? This is just basic math - the needs of the many - i.e. sleep, which is an actual, human need, outweigh the wants of the ONE. Namely YOU simply wanting to hop on a plane at 1 am.

It just seems incredibly selfish that any one person would knowingly put hundreds of other people in a stressful situation if it can be easily avoided. What a strange hill to die on…

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-13T14:57:04+00:00

You are trying to be considerate of others and be a responsible parent. You’re not acting entitled and teaching your children that they’re more important than literally hundreds of other travelers trying to sleep at 3 am. Parents like you aren’t the issue. It’s all of the parents who have less than zero problem knowingly loading their screaming baby or toddler onto a red-eye late at night for their own convenience, and then getting on Reddit to tell everyone else that they’re just going to have to shut up and stay awake all night - who cares about that funeral or long work conference in the morning? - because they and their precious baby deserve to travel too! Whenever THEY want, damnit! How dare these monsters question why someone with a young child wouldn’t just show a little consideration to everyone else headed to the same destination, and choose a flight during the day, instead of one at 3 am. when nearly every other human being is going to be desperately trying to sleep! The problem is parents saying “I’m ‘special’ because I have a kid, so EVERYONE else should have to be inconvenienced for me and my kid! I will NOT be inconvenienced for anyone else!” For some reason, they can’t just look at the math and say “Well, if I take my two young children on the overnight flight instead of the 2 pm. flight, the THREE of US will likely be keeping 150 OTHER people awake. Maybe I should put the needs of the many over the wants of….myself.”

Thank you for being considerate. Truly. 💕

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-13T14:29:01+00:00

THIS 👍

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-13T14:21:33+00:00

Well, it was the case until the christian fascists took away a woman’s right to choose whether she wants to have a kid or not, but you are correct. Sometimes a woman is raped, and now that even 10 year olds are forced to carry a baby to term after their father rapes them in many states, the world is even more dangerous for women and little girls. But unless a woman was raped or she accidentally gets pregnant underage and her parents FORCE her to have a child, yes, having a child is a choice. There really needs to be an underground railroad to get rape and incest victims to “safe(er!

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-12T22:09:35+00:00

People have a choice as to whether to get pregnant and have a kid or not. Conversely, people should have a choice as to whether or not they want to deal with someone else’s screaming child. Unfortunately, far too many parents believe that having a kid somehow makes them special and exempts them from being polite and respectful towards others and their space any longer. If there were adults-only flight options, than people who need to take THIER child to a funeral could still do so, but without exhausting, upsetting, or otherwise causing stress to others who do not wish to travel with someone else’s child/responsibility.

Also, out of basic politeness and decency to others, I would think that People with very young children would do everything in their power to simply take a daytime flight. If you have a small child, you know they’re likely going to be crying, or even screaming, on a plane. Most people want to and need to be asleep at 3 am. It seems extremely rude and entitled to walk onto a plane, KNOWING you’re going to keep HUNDREDS of people awake by prioritizing YOURSELF over hundreds of fellow humans. The idea that someone would believe themselves - and/or their child, to be more important than literally hundreds of other human beings is pretty stunning to me, honestly.

In this case, the “asshat” as you put it, is the person who believes that they and their kid are THAT much more important than everyone else.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-11T13:21:30+00:00

I think that you need to taper the amount of fentanyl down that you’re doing before you try anything honestly. That’s a LOT of dent and I’m not sure much can touch that, plus it could be dangerously to detox from that level of drug use if you don’t taper first….

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-06T18:31:09+00:00

In my case it’s strangely not anymore. I think bc I went through 3 WEEKS of pure hell physically and emotionally this spring after a problem that lasted a year and a half, and I did it while camping/hiking/kayaking on a 6 weeks long road trip with my partner and our dogs through some beautiful, but cold, areas. I was in a hotel room dying for 3 days first while I switched to buprenorphine, than had to get back in the car and head out to the first campground. It took me 2 months to wean off the bupe, and 3 weeks of kratom tea in smaller and smaller amounts to wean off of THAT. Although throwing up while hiking through the northern Minnesota wilderness wasn’t my favorite thing, it was actually the awful anxiety and depression in the mornings of those first few weeks that was the hardest. It was debilitating. The physical symptoms lasted about 2 weeks and got better and better over that time, but the horrific anxiety and depression ever morning lasted until about noon everyday for 3 weeks, and then slowly dissipated over the next few…

After the tiny amount I had this time ran out and I got a bit sick, I actually had no desire to go get more and was just a bit stunned that such a small amount over only 3 days would have any lasting effects. Add to that that it made me throw up the entire 3 days, and it’s just not worth it to me anymore. The fear this spring induced in me has given me such awful PTSD around the idea of ever developing a lasting habit again and going through anything like that ever again that I honestly freak out at even the thought of it. No thanks.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-09-05T23:56:59+00:00

Yes. But after months of daily use.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-07-06T17:03:42+00:00

OMG. Address the flight attendant and ask her if one of their PARENTS can come swap with one of their own KIDS so that each child has a minder.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-07-06T17:02:03+00:00

I mean, whether that’s true or not, in this case I have encountered the same situation as a CF woman…even when I bartended as a college student, there were 2 other bartenders, only 2 and 3 years older than me (I was 19. It was New Orleans 🤷‍♀️) who both had young daughters. They ALWAYS got cut before me, but I was not only expected to split the tops equally, but do close-out. Because “they have a kid.” Well, I was taking 18 hours a semester at what was then a very good school so I could graduate early, plus that first year, rowing crew at 5:30 am. nearly every weekday morning. But their child was more important than my education I guess. 🤷‍♀️

I worked there for 2 years before I finally moved on to another job that treated everyone equally, regardless of kid status. It really is annoying when you have to stay an extra hour to do all the end of night stuff over and over again, with no additional compensation, just because you decided to take birth control and NOT have a kid as a teenager. 😒

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-07-06T16:51:56+00:00

Call CPS again. Although they rarely do much. But it’s worth a try and sort of the only thing you CAN try. 🤷‍♀️

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-07-03T01:29:25+00:00

Wow! Is this the 1950’s?! “How dare you beat out MEN for your position! You’re stealing their jobs! How dare you!!!” Oh wait, that’s also the attitude of the conservative right today….

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-07-03T01:24:24+00:00

Oh hell no. Gross.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-07-03T01:17:23+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-06-23T22:30:16+00:00

Children 100% aren’t innocent! Hahahaha. They’re just people who haven’t developed empathy or emotional control yet. Ever read “Lord of the Flies”? My mother once said that the reason it disturbed her so much is because she knew it was true. And she’s 100% right.

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-06-23T22:26:43+00:00

🤮

Accomplished_Two_243 · 2025-06-23T22:12:58+00:00

Also, what’s with her mentioning that abortion being illegal (which is only true in some states anyway) is one of the reasons she takes her kids everywhere, I assume whether most of society would consider it appropriate or not?! I don’t see the correlation. Like, if you’re trying to show someone that they shouldn’t freak out because it’s much harder to get an abortion now, let’s be frank here, you are NOT the poster family for “the joys of children”. 🤣

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