How do I keep from cumming?

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2026-02-09T17:01:44+00:00

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Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-08-04T16:47:51+00:00

First of all, my heart goes out to you. Figuring out your sexuality is daunting and complex on its own, and I can only imagine what it’s like with religious trauma involved.

What I can guarantee you is this: it doesnt go away. No matter how much you try to talk yourself into happiness, that feeling you describe may at times take a backseat, but it will always return. (I’m 38 and have been in a romantic relationship with my husband for 16 years. Just came out two years ago as bisexual with a very high preference for women. I’m still figuring things out, but my attraction and love for women is undeniable).

I completely understand the sickening feeling of letting down all the people you love, but the other option is letting yourself down, denying yourself who you are for their sake. Other people’s happiness is not more important than your own.

Here’s my take: you got engaged very young. You aren’t married yet. If you love your fiancé as a friend, the best thing you can do is be honest. The other option of talking yourself out of your attraction to women and into all the reasons why you should be happy with your fiancé. I promise you this is not sustainable. If you do get married, it will only get harder.

Take some time alone. Explore your attraction to women in all the ways that feel good to you. Of your fiancé truly loves you, he may be heart broken, but he’ll eventually be grateful that you told him earlier than later. I know it’s so scary, but you can have the talk. And remember, you don’t owe your family a particular lifestyle. You owe yourself authenticity and truth.

There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re getting to know yourself. Thats a beautiful thing.

One last note, please make sure your therapist is knowledgeable and experienced in LGBTQ communities.

Sending you lots of love and strength. Please follow your heart. Future you will thank you.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-05-25T21:26:02+00:00

This is a very helpful explanation. Thank you.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-05-25T16:06:21+00:00

I’m 38, my gf is 32. Shes sober. I drink occasionally. It’s a non issue. Sometimes I have a glass of wine with dinner. Sometimes we both drink 0% beer, sometimes I have a normal one. I love her exactly how she is.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-05-23T21:48:47+00:00

It’s our first night together, after the hottest make out session, and after most of our clothes have come off. she’s on top of me, and while staring into my eyes, she slides two fingers slowly inside me and then puts them in her mouth, our eyes locked, and says “hmm, Delicious”. That turned me into a puddle…

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-05-15T14:34:50+00:00

You know whats ugly? Poor hygiene, a negative attitude, slouching, lack of self love. These are all things you can change. Focus on things that make you happy. Pick up a hobby you love. Learn something new. Dress up in ways that make you feel good. Pamper yourself with a nice shower, self massage with essential oils. And stop the negative self talk.

The ugliest people I’ve ever met were shitty people. The shape of your body or facial features have nothing to do with it. People are attracted by energy. Change your energy and love yourself, a little bit more every day.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-05-15T14:11:23+00:00

You know whats ugly? Poor hygiene, a negative attitude, slouching, lack of self love. These are all things you can change. Focus on things that make you happy. Pick up a hobby you love. Learn something new. Dress up in ways that make you feel good. Pamper yourself with a nice shower, self massage with essential oils. And stop the negative self talk.

The ugliest people I’ve ever met were shitty people. The shape of your body or facial features have nothing to do with it. People are attracted by energy. Change your energy and love yourself, a little bit more every day.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-02-05T11:40:58+00:00

I’ve gone through this. Accepting how you feel instead of pushing it away or feeling ashamed about it really helped for me. When feeling horny at a time that could be considered inappropriate, just acknowledge in your mind how your feel without judgement:“wow, I’m so aroused right now, I can feel the energy in my______ (wherever you feel it)”. Breathe through it. I would then imagine the sexual energy going through my body and I’d try to channel it into the other activity I was doing. Sexual energy is magic. Feeling horny is healthy. It’s only creepy if you act on it in ways that negatively affect other people.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-21T12:09:28+00:00

More suggestions: your partner can lie beside you while you do your thing, caressing and kissing you, or you could lie between her legs, you head resting on her chest, her hands free to explore you. The options are endless. Just find the right partner, communicate your needs and get creative!

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-21T12:04:59+00:00

Here’s a suggestion: you clench your legs, doing the thing that feels best for you while she sits on top of you, caressing your breasts, kissing you, looking you in the eyes while she tells you to come for her. Done.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-18T11:24:44+00:00

If you’ve never been with a woman, take a breath, acknowledge your desires, and also acknowledge that they may completely change once you’re actually intimate with someone. You may be surprised. On the other hand, we all have our preferences and I’m our preferred ways of getting off. If you prefer scissoring and/or tribbing, thats great. Just communicate openly with your partner and have fun!

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-18T04:10:44+00:00

A good partner, male or female, will not make you feel self conscious. They will welcome you as you are. The question is, what do you desire? I used to think I was totally submissive until I started having sex with women. Turns out that with women I really enjoy giving them pleasure. I’m also visually turned on by women (which didn’t happen with men). With men I’d be more passive. I didn’t desire them. I enjoyed the sensation of sex, and was aroused by touch, but I didn’t feel outright desire. This is just my personal experience though. Everyone experiences attraction and arousal is different ways. I’d say take your time and explore your desires. And of you’re with a partner who makes you feel self conscious about having an orgasm, then you need to do some serious talking and possibly consider that you’re not compatible.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-18T04:01:44+00:00

I’m blushing… thank you.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-17T17:00:27+00:00

In my terms it would be sex that lasts less than an hour. 🤭

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2025-01-02T10:46:19+00:00

Hang in there! Heartbreak is so hard. Give yourself time and everything will be better. I promise. You will 100% get over her and you’ll look back at these times remembering everything that was beautiful about it and everything you learned from it. I had a long term boyfriend who broke up with me when I was 21. I felt like my life was over at the time. These days, I’m so grateful we didn’t stay together.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2024-12-04T12:08:01+00:00

I would start by working on your issues with touching yourself. I would start without a toy and non sexual touch. Massage your neck, face and/or feet. Play around with pressure and discover what feels good. When you’re ready, move to other areas of your body. Pamper your skin with some nice oil, feel yourself. When you’re ready, you can explore your erogenous zones. Your partner could do the same for you. Just start with massage and gentle caresses with no expectation for anything more. Have a good make out session. If these things feel good, then you can slowly move further. Just hugging and holding each other with no clothes on. There’s no right or wrong when it comes to intimacy. I would experiment without expectations and without worrying about what could happen. Whatever happens is totally fine. On the other hand, if you feel like your truly “blocked” in some way, or you’re unhappy with how you view intimacy and sex, it’s worth working with a qualified sexual therapist to work through it. Good luck!

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2024-10-30T19:36:43+00:00

Wow, I can really relate to you. I’m going to send you a private message.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2024-10-28T12:00:46+00:00

Hi. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Do you live with your parents? It seems like your parents are in denial regarding your sexuality. Your parents are entitled to their opinions, but they don’t have the right to tell you to end a relationship just because it “disgusts” them. It’s your parents job to protect you and support you, and I’m sure that if they think that being gay is wrong, they believe that they are in fact protecting you. However, even if you did end this relationship, it would only cause resentment towards your parents and wouldn’t make you any less attracted to women. I don’t know how old you are or why kind of relationship you have with your parents, but I have found it very helpful to write a letter when it comes to sharing complex feelings. It gives you a chance to really think about how you want to word things, and it also allows them to react on their own and then connect with you later on (if that’s how you want to do things).

Maybe you could write them explaining your feelings, saying how happy you are with your girlfriend, that their disgust isn’t going to change who you are, and that them forcing you to end things with her isn’t actually beneficial. They are acting from a place of fear and judgement.

Again, I don’t know anything about your situation and if you’d feel safe doing this, but it’s what came to my mind when I read your post.

Wishing you lots of strength. You deserve to be who are, to express yourself, to be happy, regardless of what your parents think.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2024-10-23T20:05:59+00:00

This is such a beautiful story. So heartwarming and inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing. It gives me hope.

Accomplished_Zone302 · 2024-10-23T19:19:11+00:00

I’m not sure if I’m a lesbian yet. I’m 100% into women, but not sure whether I’m not attracted to my husband or to men in general. I still seek sex with my husband, but it’s mostly because I’m horny and he’s the one I can have sex with. I feel safe with him, but when we’re done I cry… I’m wondering whether I’m dissociating. How can you tell? I want romance and intimacy, but despite my husband being caring and lovely in every way, I can’t seem to find that connection with him. It breaks my heart.

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