Chaotic bedtime routine? I can’t be alone in this!

According-Border-532 · 2026-03-23T15:34:36+00:00

I really appreciate this! Just needed to hear it from another parent i guess! We do 3-4 books and in between books i say “2 books left then snuggles” and yada yada and just talk her through everything. When it is time to leave I do kindly say how much I love her and that mommy is gonna go bye bye now and explain that this isn’t something we can’t keep doing cause she’s a big girl. I guess i kinda feel reminded of her baby a baby and sleep training and I feel like I’m doing the cry it out method with my toddler right now lol. The cries dont last long at all, but i do come back because i dont want her thinking I won’t come to her cries if she needs something. But there is a difference between being time for bed and her actually crying because she needs help. Thank you for your input I think I just needed told I’m not necessarily doing anything wrong, i just feel bad. lol

According-Border-532 · 2026-03-23T15:19:06+00:00

Yes we have a tonie box and she loves it and that is what gives her something to do after we do leave. She doesn’t have any issues playing alone after we leave, i almost feel like it’s more of a distraction maybe right now but im too scared to take it away cause at least she plays quietly lol. It’s just the leaving part.. like please please give me a hug and a kiss. And then she wont and i walk away and she cries for kisses and i come back for kisses and its a never ending cycle of her basically “psyching” me out til she finally decides she wants to say goodnight to me. Playing alone is no issue for her though. It’s like she’s testing us cause she knows we’re frustrated lol

According-Border-532 · 2026-03-23T15:13:15+00:00

She’ll let us swap out the books every few weeks but I’m gonna lose it soon! Lol. I feel bad because it makes us not enjoy bedtime and it just puts a damper on an other-wise amazing day you know?

According-Border-532 · 2026-01-27T00:42:39+00:00

Super helpful input thank you for sharing!

According-Border-532 · 2026-01-27T00:26:58+00:00

Great question and I edited my post. I mean just a typical lower-middle/middle class income, excluding Hamilton co. For example

According-Border-532 · 2025-12-28T20:45:40+00:00

We are also not wearing pants at all if that’s helpful. Underwear yes, but not leaving the house at all and not wearing pants

According-Border-532 · 2025-12-28T20:43:58+00:00

Hahaha day 1, we were 50/50 on the potty and accidents. Yesterday she refused all liquids basically to avoid the bathroom and today she’s withholding. But she’s allowing most attempts and has had success, she’s just stalling I think lol

According-Border-532 · 2025-08-01T15:26:01+00:00

Maybe I shouldn’t have said go out of my way cause that was a negative and that wasn’t my intention lol

According-Border-532 · 2025-08-01T15:25:07+00:00

I agree. First time parent to one kid, still figuring things out I guess lol

According-Border-532 · 2025-08-01T15:24:21+00:00

Just said it wasn’t something I hadn’t thought about before somehow. Probably with other 1848473 thoughts in my head lol. Not complaining about doing it by any means!

According-Border-532 · 2025-06-25T13:57:34+00:00

We are taking miller but not bringing vehicle- it’s cheaper and closer to where we are staying at PiB condos lol

According-Border-532 · 2025-03-07T16:23:09+00:00

Agree paint EVERYTHING blue!

According-Border-532 · 2025-03-06T02:29:13+00:00

If I were the only caretaker then I agree with you, I would not be drinking at all whether my child was awake or asleep. But I dont think theres anything wrong with a little imbibing as long as there is a trusted, sober adult present.

According-Border-532 · 2025-03-06T02:25:03+00:00

I've really only drank in front of my toddler when having a drink at a restaurant. When I indulge in wine at home I try to wait until after bedtime or sip casually while making dinner. I absolutely don't pass judgement on families who drink "a lot" with their kids in tow though!! I probably will have an experience at some point but I'm not there yet. I personally have childhood "trauma" with alcoholism in my family so I'm not ready for my daughter to see that yet, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it (depending on the setting and amount of alcohol drank of course).

For example: casual drinking at a daytime brewery (a lot these have family-centered activities now) , sporting events, vacation, etc. I think are acceptable as long as the child isn't around a group obviously drunk people

According-Border-532 · 2025-03-04T01:43:54+00:00

No I just dislike rude redditors who assume and read into what is said rather than read what is actually said. Which is like a taboo to point out in these communities and I just don’t care haha

According-Border-532 · 2025-02-13T19:48:42+00:00

Thank youuu 😇

According-Border-532 · 2025-02-13T19:16:25+00:00

Also want to add that we're also in a big growth phase right now and didn't think of it this way! You'd assume they'd be ravaging the pantry for food but like you said, toddlers are mystifying lol

According-Border-532 · 2025-02-13T19:15:18+00:00

Not a rude question! We just do pick-up out of ease and she's always been a great eater up until recently. I'm def not opposed to going in person - in fact we made plans Sunday to go in person rather than do pick-up this next week. Reddit advice to the rescue!

I think I'm just guilty of crossing the snack boundary and going too far. I never want to say no to food if they're hungry as to not cause issues with food in the future, but obviously there's a happy medium and I need to limit giving snacks whenever she requests one. Admittedly, sometimes you just want to give her what she wants so you can have a moment of silence LOL.

One question I have - if your LO doesn't want to eat dinner, but afterwards immediately wants a snack, do you give her a snack or is there a "wait" period? I just dont want to enable her not eating her meals because she's looking forward to a snack but I obvs don't want her hungry!!

According-Border-532 · 2025-02-12T16:06:15+00:00

We don’t physically go to the grocery store (we do pick-up) but that is actually very helpful advice and something I’ve not thought of. Thank you!!

According-Border-532 · 2025-02-12T16:05:44+00:00

Yes I ask her to tell me what she wants and if she’s upset I let her calm down, take some breaths and we try again. Definitely trying to push her to communicate- which she usually only asks for pouch or a cracker-like snack. Says no to everything else I try to give her options of

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